Toucha, Toucha, Toucha, Touch Me!!!!!!

Toucha, Toucha, Toucha, Touch Me!!!!!!

A Lesson by Rosi S. Phillips

All about describing touch


If you didn't get it from the title, this session is going to focus on touching and how to write about it. This goes along with description, but with touching you have to make sure that you can do it if you write about it. So many sex scenes I read—ehem, and have written at one time—had some pretty unavailable sex scenes that didn't make sense because of where the characters were touching, or the frequency of it.

A good rule of thumb is if you can twist into that position with a partner (this from 3rd person perspective) or can twist yourself in to the position (from 1st person perspective) it's good to write. Similarly, if you write about a character touching another character then make sure you can feel them where they would touch you. 

Let's do an example, this one is going to be more interactive! Yay!

Okay, trail your pointer finger from your ear down to your clavicle with your eyes closed as if a partner was doing it to you. Feel everything, and try to capture how that would be in words. Does your head fall a certain way? Does your breathing pick up? Do goosebumps race across your skin? Now put that into words that would be accessible to readers. Again, too much description can confuse people, but not enough can leave your scene lacking. 

For this exercise I advise practicing as much as you can with a partner in the dark. If you don't have a partner and you're very comfortable with your body, try running your hands everywhere and speaking out loud while you do it, describing everything. This will help you get the correct words for these scenes.

Similarly, these exercises can translate to chapters with special needs e.g. blind, deaf, in a wheel chair, and so on. 

Write a 500 word scene, which does not have to be sexual in nature, where the characters don't speak but solely communicate through touch. Instead of saying, "let's go" the character might tap her parents arm and nod her head in a certain direction, things like that. 

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Rosi S. Phillips
Rosi S. Phillips


Rosi S. Phillips was born in 1993 with caramel colored skin, to a Nigerian immigrant father and a 2nd generation Finnish mother. With this background, International awesomeness was soon to follow. ..