Wild Writing Forum What could be missing?

What do you think is missing when people write erotic stories or poems? I have read so many stories that are erotic based, I think that when someone can get the feel of the heat and most of the time love that is a perfect way to add in hot stemy sex :) When the writer has made the love scene into porno, I don't really care for that unless you are going for say playboy or something, where it is supposed to be more like porno then a love making scene. How do you all write your erotic scenes? How do you come up with your ideas? I watch romance movies, some porno ( that is my of not copying them) real life experience, and talking with friends when they have them one wild nights, I need them to help me some of the scence:)