Helen Woodward

Helen Woodward

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At times simply living
is hard work. People around you are non-responsive and you feel like
throwing in the towel. I have read and reviewed many on-line writers who
have felt this way through romantic involvement with someone unknown to them. 




My own situation through bereavement was soul destroying. I posted on a writers site to try and overcome the loss of my husband and
writing gave me an outlet. People are kind and I found so many who offered friendship at that time.


The issue I want to
touch on here is on-line relationships and the problems associated
with that. We seem to begin and end liaisons that are not commitment
based and the result is often devastation. We allow others to fill a void
that is already filled to the brim with memories of loss only to
widen the gap further heading towards another ending that is
inevitable. People cannot know one another intimately merely chatting on a machine or talking on a phone…you could be talking to a psychotic fanatic...please remember this.





The human psyche is an
interesting study, the mind being a bottomless data-base of
information; this is why our dreams are often so confusing. Even
though we know the writing is on the wall we try to keep the dream of
new love alive through illusion until it crumbles to the ground. We
then try repeated reconciliation and each time we do this the gap
widens a little.


There is a painful road
that leads to absolute freedom and once we admit to ourselves that
commitment will never be forthcoming, we need to calm our reactions
and learn from them, this is difficult, but certainly attainable
using common sense; it is not a good idea to fall into a web of
“poor me syndrome.” Many have gone under through this train of
thought.


Guilt is the
protagonist in the story of internal pain. Knocking yourself out with
blame is non-productive in the extreme. It is a dead end road; a
curse we put on ourselves that only serves to add further decay. By
this stage we are in bad shape and wasting our lives away on what is
tantamount to trivial matters, though they seem huge to us they are
unimportant when you look at the bigger picture, which includes your
death bed.





In closing I want to
tell you that accepting what we cannot possibly change is the single
most important life lesson we can learn…it will lead you to true
peace and serenity of mind and body. Having the wisdom to change what
you can is also a good rule of thumb. To those suffering loss of any
description I say…please remember what I have said in these few
lines because it is a life-changing and morally just way to get back
on track. I could not write this if I had not been on the road
myself.


Thankfully, after much heartache and deliberation...I am now home free.





























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Posted 1 Year Ago


hey so good to see you. I am working my way back slowly. I'm unemployed now so I have some time on my hands. Miss you.

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Posted 2 Years Ago


Merry Christmas Helen

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Posted 4 Years Ago


Merry Christmas, Helen. Hope yours was a good day! Love you! -Mimi. xx

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Posted 4 Years Ago


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Posted 4 Years Ago


Happy Christmas to you my wonderful mummy ~ praying you are finding peace and happiness ~ and remember how loved you are xxx

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Posted 4 Years Ago


Thank you for your tender, beautiful blessing, Helen! Wishing you and all those you love all the joy and peace that Christmas can bring. :)

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Posted 4 Years Ago


Oh no! That's is troublesome. I shall pray for calm days and mild weather for ya! =)

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Posted 4 Years Ago


Much light to you! I don't suppose I could have some of your forthcomming summer warmth to offset the winter chill that I know is soon to fall upon me up here. =)

Hope all is well with you in the Magical Land of Roo!


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Posted 4 Years Ago


Hello Helen! I have always appreciated your writing and hope you'll continue on your book. Is such a wondrous journey across time... Was able to speak at a writers' convention near here and just loved it.. so many people who love to write and create. It was energizing. Have an amazing, inspired weekend, dear friend!

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Posted 4 Years Ago


SMILING!!! Thank you so much, Helen!!!!! A sweet new day for you as night falls gently here... Sweet everything! :)