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Blocking, fighting, and all that other good stuff.

Blocking, fighting, and all that other good stuff.

A Story by Relic
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I posted this as a review on someone's story but felt the comments that followed were becoming too hostile so I took it off. I've expounded on it in case it will help anyone. If not, that's fine. I've opened and closed my account so many times, my credibility is in tatters. Besides, I've written too many of these damn advice things. Whatever.  :D

BLOCKING
As far as blocking goes, I've been blocked in the past, but it won't kill me to never know the reason why. Perhaps gossip or misunderstandings may have played a part. I could have also been a jerk, but the past is the past and I can't change it. So be it I'll live.  :)
(notice the smiley face at the end there?) 

BETTER WRITER
Personally, I don't think anyone can become a better writer just by being on this site. There are too many elements to writing that need to be learned and those elements aren't explained here by anyone. If however, we find some modest success in what we post--and learn something from that, great!

LEARNING 
I think more than anything, we learn about ourselves and other people on this site. Seeing that notice that says--the writer has blocked you from viewing their profile--can certainly hurt and confuse us if we don't know why we've been blocked. But you know what...life goes on. 

I was once a very sensitive guy on here. I would stick up for others and more than once I've been on the bad end of things as a result. Through the advice of others--I felt was wiser than I--I've learned to keep to myself more. And I've discovered that's the best way to go. If you want to stand up for yourself, go right ahead. I'll be eating a pop tart and relaxing.

TROLLS
No matter who it is that bothers you, there's one thing that is more powerful than all the thunderous replies you can muster.....ignore them. You're not responsible for their anger and there are no rules that say you must become angry too.

FIGHTING
Don't get into long arguments--especially on the live feed--it looks childish and it makes you look bad.

REPLIES
Say thank you once in a while if you get a review.  
And if you only do short reviews to get reviews...you're a craphead who needs more fiber in your diet. :)

EGO
Put your ego on a shelf. If you don't get a lot of reviews, so what? I've noticed they're not given out like Halloween candy anymore like they used to be. Fine. 

END
Remember this most of all. You signed up here to read and share. You're not going to like everything you read, and you may not like some of what is offered to you as a review. It's okay, move on. 

As for myself, I should have kept my mouth shut a zillion times when giving reviews and offering revisions. What the hell was I thinking! But, that's what I mean by learning about ourselves here. 

Anyway, do your best and enjoy being here while you can. Life is short. And in today's world, it may turn out to be shorter for you or a loved one faster than you anticipated.  

© 2017 Relic



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Dear Relic, me being the person who was lucky enough to get this review(the one you're talking about in this piece)on my piece that day, must let you know this very clearly here, that yours indeed was one of the reviews I actually liked, for how honest and wise it was & I applaud you for that! :) Though, I'm sorry that you had to delete it because of the 'comments' and 'News feed' thing that happens then.

Thankyou for sharing this elaborated version of the review you typed then.I understand, I can relate, and yes, I do agree, this exactly needs to be done from now.

Why to mess with people whom we don't know, conclude wrong things about them, and hate each other fir things, that we don't even know exactly!

As for being blocked and unfriended, I already mentioned in my story there, that's it's a silly thing to me.Byt yes, being blocked intially hurts, but then it makes me laugh equally hard, when I finally realize it was all because of a misunderstanding.Well, yes, tbh, a bad situation even makes a good person wild in rage, and maybe that's what happened that day :)

And yep, at the end we should all remember, that we are here to write, share, read, review...And be happy for all that we get :) Fighting and judging one for no constructive reason, takes one nowhere whether it's WC or in life :)

I could conclude.something very interesting about this piece of yours, and I really don't know if I'm right or wrong, but your write, made me feel that you've been through all this a lot here, Relic, but you took it positively, learned from your mistakes, and it's your struggles through all this, Tjat made you wiser, wiser enough, to creat such a Masterpiece!😊

I'm so glad I read this today.

May you have a wonderful time at Wc. Happy writing!😊



-Saumya


Posted 3 Months Ago


0 of 1 people found this review constructive.

Relic

3 Months Ago

You're very kind Saumya, and yes, I've been through a lot on this site by means of my own mistakes--.. read more
Saumya

3 Months Ago

It is often the worst circumstances, that teach us the best lessons in life *smile*
You're m.. read more
Relic I loved this, you sound like a true leader and am proud you made this to straighten people's weakened areas and how to be diplomatic on many levels. Good job 🤗

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

Thanks very much Nancy, I'm glad you liked it. :)
STORIES BEHIND EYES

3 Months Ago

You welcome hun ☺
Not all short reviews are meant to get reviews back. Sometimes, my two words, say more than another's paragraph. However, if I love your poem I will go out of my way to try to show it.

I agree with Coyote. I have far improved from my fledgling days of sharing. By reading! And Reading a lot. Maybe I was spoiled when I had Greats Like David Moore, Selene, etc etc. They were amazing and I learned much from them.

If I think something is just terrible, I simply click pass. It's that simple.

Great read and I hope you post this to your profile. New writers should have to read this when they walk in to the Cafe.

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

Thanks for your thoughts Matthew. :)
I agree. I told the young writers. Need hard skin to be a writer. Can't make all people happy. I agree at the W.C, we can improve. I read my work from 9 years ago and I see great improvement. Kind people gave me solid advice. Always a pleasure to read your words and thoughts.
Coyote

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

Thanks so much, Coyote.
Coyote Poetry

3 Months Ago

You are welcome my friend.
I agree with everything you say here. I've been here for years, just posting, sharing, writing and never ever knew what politics went on here. Recently, there have been some very irritating elements on here, who do everything else on the café, but write. I realize we can't change them, its better to bury our heads in sand. Just learn and move on, enjoy the ride is my usual motto. This is no place for very lasting friendships.

Posted 3 Months Ago


0 of 1 people found this review constructive.

Relic

3 Months Ago

I'd have to agree with you on that DIVYA. Thanks for reading.
My gut tells me I should take notice of the things you express. I think I will learn a lot about writing, life, people, and myself. All for the better. Im not looking to be a successful writer, I write because it helps me in so many ways. Now Im at a point in life, where I think maybe some of my ramblings might benefit another. Like I will benefit from yours. So Im sharing, for the 1st time.

Posted 3 Months Ago


Ms.Quoted

3 Months Ago

I wish my critic spoke only when posting. Unfortunately that b***h has a lot to say all the time.. H.. read more
Relic

3 Months Ago

Oh man, I wrote about that I'll send you. No need to review. You'll see what I go through AFTER I po.. read more
Relic

3 Months Ago

http://www.writerscafe.org/writing/HouseofRelics/1958628/
Excellent article which is written an eloquent but readable no nonsense format.
I'm sure all writers and reviewers have at some stage experienced negative comments and some of a personal nature.
You've pretty much covered everything here.
Safe to say I agree with all of what is written here.
I've learnt to curb my sharp wit and keep my negative thoughts repressed when doing reviews.

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

Thanks for your thoughts on this Mairie, it's much appreciated.
Smoking Man

3 Months Ago

You're welcome 😊
I'll be here ten years next year, and I've been blocked by a few people who I have no clue whatsoever as to "why". But you know what, it's THEIR drama, not mine.

Great sound off, Tim! ...oh, and I'll take one of those pop tarts, if you don't mind sharing! ; )

My best, my friend!

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

haha, they're blueberry, no problem. :) Thanks Kelly.
Thanks for that honest reflections. I get also blocked a d I also block some trolls or people with hateful poems. I think we should don't make too seriously . Person maybe have strong reasons. We will never get to know. But we should be wiser.pozting on the websites is difficult. You cannot get proper honest reviews and also you are not critic. I think our egoes our keeping here cause we get finally published .When someone try fight me I always block him . I don't have time for explonation. Reviews are always problem for me. Now I try be more nice and give positive feedbacks.efo always out you down sometimes I have to erase my reply. But sometimes is too late. So I get lot of blocked too. I don't take too much seriously here anymore. This is place where I can share my writing and joy. I will recommend to everyone check out reviews on writers cafe on internet cause actually is not very nice. Thank you again and have great weekend.

Posted 3 Months Ago


Relic

3 Months Ago

Thank you very much for your thoughts. :)
Le poetes chaos dans absinthe

3 Months Ago

Thank you too .All what you wrote was actually in my head. I just cannot get write in proper form. I.. read more
I have actually been thinking over this piece of yours since you posted and here's what I think:

In regards with being blocked or unfriended, I totally agree with you now (might not have some time ago ;P) but I decided it doesn't matter and not really the purpose of being on WC.

In regards with being a better writer, I'll disagree. When I look at my earlier writings here, it looks crap to me as compared to what I write now (and it's not boasting about me either, just stating that I really learned a lot and still learning from this site and some accomplished writers like Richard on here).

I agree too with the fact that we get to learn about people, they might not be what they portray themselves to be in nature (but then, what's new in there? I'd say we meet even more hypocritical people in the real world) so yeah bear with it, life does go on.

Regarding trolls, well, I have been trolled multiple times since my time here and never once spoken the way I did in the past few days - the reason being obvious, the past issues to me were very much ignorable, but this one a tad touchy. Though yeah I agree, it did appear childish in the end but not before eliminating the root cause. But yeah, since I am still learning, maybe I'll be indifferent soon (come to think of it, I really am now ;P)

And lastly, regarding reviews, I totally agree again. What does a bunch of review really mean in the real world. I personally go by the policy of reading more and reviewing less now unless it really is a good write in my opinion or something thought provoking.

All in all, I think this piece is very much a good guide and to be shelved in the library to read whenever we get that sensitive side on ;P so thank you for that. (:

Posted 3 Months Ago


0 of 1 people found this review constructive.

Relic

3 Months Ago

I'm glad you were willing to share your views, thanks for reading. :)
Dr YumnaKay

3 Months Ago

You're welcome. Indeed a lightening bolt for my mind ;) (:

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