Blocking, fighting, and all that other good stuff.

Blocking, fighting, and all that other good stuff.

A Story by Relic
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I posted this as a review on someone's story but felt the comments that followed were becoming too hostile so I took it off. I've expounded on it in case it will help anyone. If not, that's fine. I've opened and closed my account so many times, my credibility is in tatters. Besides, I've written too many of these damn advice things. Whatever.  :D

BLOCKING
As far as blocking goes, I've been blocked in the past, but it won't kill me to never know the reason why. Perhaps gossip or misunderstandings may have played a part. I could have also been a jerk, but the past is the past and I can't change it. So be it I'll live.  :)
(notice the smiley face at the end there?) 

BETTER WRITER
Personally, I don't think anyone can become a better writer just by being on this site. There are too many elements to writing that need to be learned and those elements aren't explained here by anyone. If however, we find some modest success in what we post--and learn something from that, great!

LEARNING 
I think more than anything, we learn about ourselves and other people on this site. Seeing that notice that says--the writer has blocked you from viewing their profile--can certainly hurt and confuse us if we don't know why we've been blocked. But you know what...life goes on. 

I was once a very sensitive guy on here. I would stick up for others and more than once I've been on the bad end of things as a result. Through the advice of others--I felt was wiser than I--I've learned to keep to myself more. And I've discovered that's the best way to go. If you want to stand up for yourself, go right ahead. I'll be eating a pop tart and relaxing.

TROLLS
No matter who it is that bothers you, there's one thing that is more powerful than all the thunderous replies you can muster.....ignore them. You're not responsible for their anger and there are no rules that say you must become angry too.

FIGHTING
Don't get into long arguments--especially on the live feed--it looks childish and it makes you look bad.

REPLIES
Say thank you once in a while if you get a review.  
And if you only do short reviews to get reviews...you're a craphead who needs more fiber in your diet. :)

EGO
Put your ego on a shelf. If you don't get a lot of reviews, so what? I've noticed they're not given out like Halloween candy anymore like they used to be. Fine. 

END
Remember this most of all. You signed up here to read and share. You're not going to like everything you read, and you may not like some of what is offered to you as a review. It's okay, move on. 

As for myself, I should have kept my mouth shut a zillion times when giving reviews and offering revisions. What the hell was I thinking! But, that's what I mean by learning about ourselves here. 

Anyway, do your best and enjoy being here while you can. Life is short. And in today's world, it may turn out to be shorter for you or a loved one faster than you anticipated.  

© 2017 Relic



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(bear hugs) It's nice to see you again, my friend. This story (like much of your amazing work) rings with such truth and I think many would do good to give it a read. Maybe even a thought or two. lol :D

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Thank you Raven. :)
Can't say I've never been hurt here
YES I HAVE..many times
but that's on me... !!
We are in control of our responses
well we should be..Ha
I have blocked dozens
some were rude, and even EVIL
some said things about religion
or politics , (which should have no place here)
if I strongly disagreed ..boom Block
or get Blocked..(do have a Big mouth)..
Sometimes WE are our worse enemy..
Supposedly grown ups leave it be..
and move on to better things..
but I for one take up for my friends
and as you said, might end up in a worse
situation ... and wish I hadn't butted in.
This is a good write/Blog/Rant...
I like all your writing !!

I have been on the Cafe 5yr. closed account
so many times, I've lost count.. LOL..
I don't give long reviews.. some do
trying to prove they
are English Scholars or something..
half the words they leave, I have to look up..
(in poems too).....Ha !
Altogether, I love it here most of the time..

Good Write !!!

Jazzy

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Thanks for sharing your feelings, Jazzy. :)
J. J.  Nightingale

2 Weeks Ago

You are welcome ...always enjoy your writing !!!.......J.J.
"TROLLS
No matter who it is that bothers you, there's one thing that is more powerful than all the thunderous replies you can muster.....ignore them. You're not responsible for their anger and there are no rules that say you must become angry too."

"FIGHTING
Don't get into long arguments--especially on the live feed--it looks childish and it makes you look bad."

Good talk.

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Thank you.
I am just going to say... I mightily agree, and from now on... Am taking a strong stance against any kind of trolling or negativity... Will just reply with my work... Thanks for all the wisdom, Relic, and helping people (like me), make better choices...

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Silente

2 Weeks Ago

I appreciate you, Relic.... Thanks again...
Mirror

2 Weeks Ago

Good talk, Silente. Thank you...
Silente

2 Weeks Ago

It was more like a rant, in which you talked, and I more-or-so steamed, lol... What are we if we can.. read more
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Gee
When all is said and done this is a pastime, not life and death, so we all should take it for what it is, enjoy and in my case try to improve a wee bit by reading the work of others.
Good, sound advice Relic.

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Thanks Gee.
well my friend i can relate,i've lost a few friends taking up for others,and blocked without a reason,many times,i just see them as cowards,
and it is best just to get along,but i know at times temper flares,,good advise

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


1 of 1 people found this review constructive.

Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Hopefully they can, or move on. That's up to them.
Mirror

2 Weeks Ago

You have said it all Wordman...
 wordman

2 Weeks Ago

been around for a while
I have seen a trend of users discussing this, and I am quite lost as to why there is so much commotion about this. It seems endless in my feed. However, you give wonderful advice that many people need to see.

For me, I came here to have an outlet, not to get better. I develop my skills on my own and by reading novels/other published works, analyzing their strategies, trying to write everyday, and hopefully attending workshops in the future. Though, when people give me criticism, I receive it all the same. I grow here, but I don't plan on growing professionally here.

As for the blocking and trolling situation, I have never had that problem. However, if someone were to block me, I would question it in my mind. But, if it is some random person, I would not pay it any attention. I've got more important things to worry about in my life at this point than if someone on the internet blocked me or is trolling me. It seems pointless to stress about, in my opinion.

Overall, I can't personalky relate to these things because they are the very least of what I have to deal with in my life. Though, for anyone who deals with these struggles, this is great, beneficial advice. Well done!

Posted 2 Weeks Ago


Relic

2 Weeks Ago

Great review, thank you for taking the time to read this. :)

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