Infidelity: Part II- A Wife's Frustrations

to the husband

Husband, lover,

I've lived with you for years.

Why have you commanded out

these little bitter tears?

What was my fault, my darling?

To you what have I done?

That you sought love not in your wife

but in another one?

Remember our shared moments

back to those glorious days.

Unstained with life's difficulties;

everything's in place.

But changes came and made things worse

as time has passed us by.

Our marriage is in deathbed now

with its unanswered "Why?"

Was it the food I cooked at night,

appealing not in taste?

Was it the cleaning of the house

I always did in haste?

Was it the boring clothes I wore?

Or something that I said?

Was it my unresponsiveness

when I was tired in bed?

If what I did was not enough,

your needs were still unmet.

I guess I have to thank your girl

to whom I owe a debt.

She did the things I failed to do

and maybe so much more.

But all she gave to me, your wife,

was loss worth grieving for.

My love for you is intact still;

I hope my trust is, too.

But I am not yet strong enough

to start our life anew.

So  give me time--a lot of time

for me to mend my heart.

For now let's go our separate ways

and learn to live apart.

Author's Note

I received lots of responses on my previous poem "A Wife's Fury" telling me that the husband is the one deserving blame. Let's be clear about one thing: I am not taking sides. I'm jut trying to see the the situation in different angles via different approaches. My distorted, biased, or inaccurate portrayals of the characters may be due to my lack of sufficient knowledge (and experience--thank goodness!) of the topic.

Best wishes! :D

Reviews

[Rita L. Sev]

A good exercise in perspective, Blue. You have touched on this side well.

[Blue]

Thank you, Rita.

[Shirlena]

Sad but it's happens way too often and this write amplifies the situation all to well. Timely, unfortunately but poignant.

[Blue]

Thank you, Shirlena.

[Donald]

This is a very touching piece that I read. I was deeply moved. This is something that I hope you will never realize in real life. For you have a bright future ahead.

[Blue]

My future husband would suffer. Haha. Thank you, Donald.

[cimmy wuv xxxooo]

This was a beautiful, piece hun, filled with so much emotion and depth.
I loved reading it.
It also rhymes brilliantly and comes together well.
Great write hun :)
Your truly a talent :)

[Blue]

Thank you, Cimmy!

[cimmy wuv xxxooo]

your most welcome anytime :)

[Praveeta]

A lovely write as always. Thanks for sharing this with us.

[Blue]

Thank you, Praveeta.

[Praveeta]

You are welcome.

[J. Kell]

Wow this is amazing, you have such a gift for storytelling. I felt very touched by the sadness of the wife's character. Keep writing. Beautiful piece.

[Blue]

*Blush* Thank you, Justin.

[Brook]

Again, brilliant write!
i like how you did this, it flows well.

[Blue]

Thank you, Brookly.

[Lyn Anderson]

Ahh, I absolutely loved "Wife's Fury" -- people have their reasons for doing what they do, and it is never black and white. People's skewed traditional views of marriages based on religion, upbringing, etc., make it difficult to be unbiased. Between a husband and wife, nothing is as it seems to the outside, and only they can choose to live their lives authentically, in whatever form it takes.

[Blue]

You are right, KLGoode. I love your reviews.

[Michael G. Smith]

We make a covenant to love cherish and honor through sickness and health, for better or for worse. So yes when one spouse breaks that covenant by having sex outside the marriage to blame for breaking the sacred vows that they took willingly thus cause greater pain the marriage then try to find solutions in repairing it. I was that man and I took full blame for damaging my first marriage. Whatever my ex wife did she never was the cause of me breaking the vows that rested solely on me even though at the time I tried to put the blame on her.

[Blue]

You are brave to post this personal review, Mike. I admire you for that. My prayers for your life.

[Michael G. Smith]

I need other men to see this. Perhaps it will open up someone's eyes. We all have potential to change especially if we have a relationship with Jesus christ and follow His teachings. This truly the only way to Find true love. Love increase when you nurture it as I do now with my wife Milagros.

[Michael G. Smith]

Is this based on personal experiences?

[Blue]

You really are an inspiration to other men, Mike.

Uhm... No... I just love using the "I" account on my works because it gives a personal feel. The thing is, few of my poems do not have an intimate connection with my realities. I find it weird.

[Coyote Poetry]

I like the logic of the poem. It gave a different view for a woman. I believe all of us take blame for bad actions and deeds. I like the thoughts of the woman in the poem. I like she wanted to thank the new woman for giving what she could not. I did like the ending. A wild dog cannot be tamed. Thank you for sharing the excellent poetry.
Coyote

[Blue]

Thank you, Coyote. Your reviews are always precious.