Part Boast and Part Blame

Part Boast and Part Blame

A Poem by barleygirl
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everything is a mix . . .

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The other day a raging poet railed:
“You’re too f**ked up to be loved!”

Why so many punishing messages
hammered out in “love” verse lately?
Could it be? The only way to pass muster
is to behave ourselves and please others?
Must we submerge our humanness?
What a high price to pay for love!

We all need to rant now and then
flaunting our romantic scars and bruises
but dense doubt swirls around those
who claim “the other” is all to blame.

Everything we experience in life
is part boast and part blame . . .
somewhat you and somewhat me.

When denouncing the latest ex-lover
who seemingly severed my heartstrings
my true target is self-recrimination.
My own choices are too ugly to own
so I busily paint this distorted drama
where “the other” did all this to me.

Each and every one of us
deserves to be lavishly loved
no matter how f**ked up
we might be at times.

And there’s always at least one
(probably a startling number)
who love me, you, him, her
any which way our humanness
splatters paint on the canvasses of life.




© 2017 barleygirl



Author's Note

barleygirl
This is not meant to slam any other poet specifically . . . I've just read quite a few poems lately that seemingly blame the other person without taking any ownership for whatever happens in a relationship.

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You nailed it here BG!
The poems that point the finger say so much in what they DON'T mention about the author(s role).
This recalled to me an article I once read about gun that shot round corners but some poetic snipers shoot themselves...in the foot.
Great slam-dunk !

Posted 1 Year Ago


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

Sometimes I can't think of a thing to write about, but if I just start reviewing, something always h.. read more



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Posted 6 Months Ago


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barleygirl

6 Months Ago

So many "heartache" poems on this website are all about blaming the other person. I'm always calling.. read more
I think much of our more difficult sharing can be approached this way. Part boast, part blame.

It can be a challenge to look inside.

Nicely written reminder.

Posted 1 Year Ago


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I confess, I spent most of my life thinking the same way that many young poets do on this website --.. read more
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Yah, I get where you are coming from. A lot of the poems I've come across lately seem to blame the ex for being inadequate or something. I always hope to see poems moving on to self evaluation, but even those tend to be something along the lines of "I guess I wasn't good enough for you..."

I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed this. (It's part of the reason I rarely read poetry).

Posted 1 Year Ago


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

Very interesting observations, my friend! Thanks for being honest. I find the younger writers are th.. read more
I tend to agree with you. I can't see the necessity of tearing someone down because our "love" has dwindled or disappeared altogether. Love, I believe is meant to be caring and giving, sharing all the positive things together.

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Dave

1 Year Ago

Thank you for your confidence. Getting along in years, I don't get much opportunity to demonstrate .. read more
barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I love being old now, so I can just write about "it" instead of "doing it" like in my younger days!
Dave

1 Year Ago

Yeah - I almost believe that!
You got into quite deep philosophy here. But I do tend to agree with you. I think a lot of poems are 'self cleansing'!

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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

You & Gene are similar in giving the poet the benefit of the doubt . . . so tactful to say "self-cle.. read more
Great Aunt Astri

1 Year Ago

Well, one could say that they are a load of .... But that would not be British!
great closing verse, especially those last two lines ..ranting is healthy for all says i! haven't run into the poems you speak of ..luck of the Irish :)
your prose brings up a good and wise lesson for all ...blaming others is pre-maturity (generally speaking of course) i was very immature into my 20s ... added to that my solid position of being "right" in life made for a rocky road ..i clearly remember my own epiphany that revealed the nature of my life ... my choices .. even in childhood were all my own ... every single thing i decided .. was "i" ... many of the consequences of those decisions revealed the second part of that ... i was wrong ... wrong wrong about a lot of things ;) but what a freeing thing ... the growing up ... i know you are speaking about certain situations ... as there are some things that do happen to us ... beyond our control ... but that's "the rest of the story" isn't it ... so nice to read " Part Boast and Part Blame" ... honest dialogue is kind of sexy ;)
E.

Posted 1 Year Ago


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Einstein Noodle

1 Year Ago

ohhhhhhhh! God bless you dear friend! its a strength/weakness thing i have always had (got it from m.. read more
barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I didn't know I was born on the year of the monkey until last year when it came around again! *smile.. read more
Einstein Noodle

1 Year Ago

:) .......................
You do have an inner sight into the human pysche and you make art out of it. Even the negative. That is quite some skill learned from experience of course.

Posted 1 Year Ago


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

This is one of the best & most unusual compliments I've ever gotten! You are so correct about writin.. read more
A nice "dig" at the plethora of wounded pride poems that are so prevalent on all the sites.
There' s nothing better than a good "face to face" confrontation to clear the air. We all have our faults, weakness and strengths, but to hide behind anonymous words resolves nothing, but only increases frustration.
But there again, is it just "fashionable" to try to emulate the maudlin emotions of erstwhile classical poets?
Perhaps I'm being too simplistic in just appreciating the reality of your words, which are based on hard experience. (((Hugs)))

Posted 1 Year Ago


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I have to admit, I am tired of reading about bad love situations on this website! We all need to exp.. read more
The old blame game, played the world over.
Yet you would think people would see it as an opportunity to move on. ( Is that just me.)
In saying that. Isn't love great fun. Makes you want to write about it. lol.


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barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I hear you . . . when a person doesn't want me around, I don't want to be around, not even thinking .. read more
Love and relationships are always a hot topic. Suffice it to say, I agree with what you're saying here. Very rarely is one person entirely at fault. Relationships are a two-way street. Both parties contribute to the good and the bad.

Posted 1 Year Ago


1 of 1 people found this review constructive.

barleygirl

1 Year Ago

I'm conflicted about this (in other words, agreeing with your "hot topic" comment). I read these rom.. read more

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