the Man and me

the Man and me

A Poem by jacob erin-cilberto

the Man and me




if he had been a writer, too

would Father have referred to my writing

as "just passable"



his engineer self

put together mechanically---

form and structure

but not the rhyme or meter kind


he never understood me

until his hair grew completely gray

and he let his beard grow out---


as if there was a part of him that wanted always

to rebel against the norm

against the upper class form


to find a certain construction

in things outside the box---

he lived within a world created for him

in refineries, New York offices

a marriage of moving upscale


of black and white

of things having a place and a place for things

of neatness


near perfection


kindness a bit soured with prejudice

a helping hand that might pick and choose


and words---

a strong voice


more technical in a hands-on sense

than a heart-on sense,

although in his core

deep love existed---

(he just most times hid

behind the gruff exterior of his life)


and it existed for me,

despite a side that lacked understanding

for what i was,

i wrote poems

his nomenclature for that was "hobby"


we didn't take each other seriously


until recently

even as the conversations diminished


found limits


love flourished

i still wrote poems

he acknowledged them

without really reading or understanding


but got "it"

whatever "it" was or is



he accepted, i accepted

and today we write together,

even though


i am still the one who holds the pen.




© 2017 jacob erin-cilberto

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I can't recall when a beautiful feeling washed over me while reading this piece.

Some lines are absolutely brilliant, gruff exterior of life, I am the one who still holds the pen.


Posted 10 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

10 Months Ago

thank you, my friend...

The bitter sweet relationship of father and son expressed with a faith streak of humor. I do not mean amusing but it brings a wry smile when to reaching the end. It has sadness but not really sad. Parents not acknowledging dreams of children is known but when we move our way they do pray for us to do well. What a well written piece.

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

10 Months Ago

thank you for your words, Brokensoul.
One of the things after my Dad's death was getting his writes. Neither one of us would share them with the family. I still don't. Family will be getting a big packet if I go.

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

some family think we are not of the same blood...poets are so misunderstood and feared when the rest.. read more
Jon Roggie

11 Months Ago

I think we do know the other. We just get that close.
Such were the times of Parents know best but failed in some cases to recognize that dreams are possible to make happen. Some are famous today. Only wished I did art now! Nice write Jacob

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

yes, we can't let it slip away because family doesn't get right, andrew.
Reminicences. Its strange how quite some number of us come from a background that didn't encourage our type of work. Didn't really consider it work. My family had the same idea about me, the artist. Thought it was girly as they called it and soft. When you think about it there is so much wrong with that attitude but as you rightly point out it was the prevailing one.
Perhaps they didn't look for other ways because there wern't any.
However, an evocative write and not in any way deplorable or just fine.

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

i can surely attest to this, Ken. My favorite weekends ever were our Heartland Writers Conferences.... read more
I really like this poem, sir. So touching for me because it's about parent-child relationship. Sometimes they don't understand our journey, but deep inside they are praying that we have chosen the right path.
Five stars for this excellent piece. Great!

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

thank you for understanding where i come from, where so many of us come from....

Parents support or do not support our destiny puts us where we belong. But the pain goes all along the life when they do not understand our passion or love.
I am glad you got it "the acceptance ". Thank you for holding on to the pen for the world to be charmed by it. Thank you for sharing..

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

yes, later is better than never to get that acceptance...thank you, Bala.
I think we must get to a point
When not understanding is harder than understanding. That it takes so much more work to shave every day, we grow out the hair and give grace

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

that is so ironic that you said what you did about the hair...i never knew my dad any differently th.. read more
On the surface, when I left the city and my career behind, my father, who I was working for, wished me well, though I know deep down how disappointed he was.

A decade on, and as a parent myself, I can understand how he felt; I am just grateful that he loved me enough not to insist I stay, because if he had, I know I would have done.

'he accepted, i accepted
and today we write together,
even though
i am still the one who holds the pen.'

Those lines define love as it should be.


Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

i imagine the hardest thing as a parent is to let go...

we are either more afraid tha.. read more
Wow wow, sir.
Choosing your dreams over parents dream is never an easy thing to do. And I really agree we should go in the direction where our hearts lie.
There are so many hearty elements in this beautiful and heavenly poem. All stories do not end on a positive note and I am glad this ended. Though, it took time but I am happy that finally his dad understood.
I really loved that last line.
Take a bow for this amazing write, Sir.
This one touched me deep.
Keep sharing and keep writing.

Posted 11 Months Ago

jacob erin-cilberto

11 Months Ago

thank you for your kind review, Gorthi...


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jacob erin-cilberto

Carbondale, IL

Originally from Bronx, NY, I live in Carbondale, Illinois...teach English at two community colleges and have been writing and publishing poetry since 1970. Friending works two ways. If we have had .. more..


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