Living above negative situations

Living above negative situations

A Story by Chiradeep

Negativity has always made a person’s path difficult in life. The more negative we are, the less happy we will be in life. Negativity takes away our peace of mind, our composure, our self-control. Negativity changes our attitude and temperament. A person with negativity can easily be angered and irritable. Negativity in our attitude gets instilled because of negative situations. Our personality develops negatively or positively because of our situations in which we pass through from childhood to adulthood. But it is a truth that only we can change our negative attitude into positive even the situations are still negative. May be it’s not easily understood unless I present an example in front of all of us.

Negative Situations from the beginning

I know a person who was born with a cardiac problem and was operated at 2½ years of age. He had all sorts’ restrictions from the very childhood. There were restrictions on his food. There were restrictions on his movements. There were restrictions on his running with friends. There was restriction in playing football, cricket etc. for him. There was restriction on his studies as he had to go out to have normal education. He was brought up in a very conservative and restrictive atmosphere. He was small. He used to cry and then forget. His heartaches were short lived. He grew up.

At the age of 7 he was infected with tuberculosis. It was difficult for him to stay with his parents as his dad was working in a place which was unhealthy for the kid to live. His grand parents took the responsibility of taking care of him; to take care of the physical part of him as he suffered mentally after departing from his parents. He was only 7/8 years old. There were restrictions. When the kid used to violate the restrictions, he himself had to suffer and also used to get the stricter restrictions. He grew up. He was 10 years old yet had not gone to any school as there was a fear in the minds of his parents and other family members that he may not take on the strain of going to school and study. But finally, he was admitted into school directly in the fourth grade because of his aunt as he was a teacher in the same school. He continued his study in the school. But……

He used to stand alone in the shade as his friends used to play. He had no choices except standing and clapping for his friends. He could not participate in many things that his friends were involved. But he did well in his studies. He stood first in the whole school in his tenth grade.

He was 16 years old. He was an adolescent. He joined a college. And then the problem started. He used to go to his college by rickshaw (manual). It was embarrassing for him as even the girls were riding bi-cycles or motor bikes. He used to go to the college at least 40 minutes ahead so that nobody would see how he was coming to the college. He suffered mentally as he could not take part in any other curriculum for his health except regular studies. So many times he used hide in the bathroom and cry. He used ask God why He created him this way. Why can’t He just take his life? At home alone, he used to day dream and fantasize a lot. He developed an addiction of reading wrong books. He developed a wrong attitude towards his grand parents as well as his aunt when they used to correct him for all wrong doings. He used to miss his mom and dad desperately. He used to think why they didn’t look after him instead of leaving him here with these people.

He finished his bachelor degree and got admitted for the post graduation in a university. There he suffered from mild depression. He was a grown up boy of 22/23 years old. The mental demands were more but scope for its development is less because of his physical restrictions. He was a loving guy and loved all his friends so much. But in return when he didn’t use to get the same love he used to feel depressed. He used to spend most of his times in day dreaming and grumbling alone.

All his studies finished. There were many opportunities for higher studies or good jobs. But he could not go for anything all because of his health.

He fell for a girl once but was rejected after 2 months of the relationship. He didn’t know the reason of rejection till now.

His health deteriorated further in the year 2000-2001, as the passage which was made during his first surgery was already blocked. He was taken to a renowned hospital. The doctor said they need to do a surgery again. A very complicated surgery.

Finally, he was normal after the surgery and came back home. Then he joined an organization far off his home after three months of rest. His mom stayed with him initially. Then she left and went home. He was all alone for next 2 years. Whatever he comes on his way, he had to battle alone. He felt the loneliness deeply. He wanted a girl in his life. But there was a thought in his mind, which girl is going to marry him, a heart patient. He tried on his on and one of his colleagues brought him many proposals which he didn’t like at all. He was disgusted. He stopped searching anybody.

Battling in negative situations

All this situations were negative, depressing for him. He was negative about his life but had a hope always, that one day God will do something for him.

Through out his life he had negative situations to trample him but he tried his best to come over them.

He played games alone when loneliness tried to over power him. He invented new games to amuse himself even to attract others.

He involved himself in writing stories and songs when he was downcast and depressed.

He kept himself busy in drawing, coloring, painting to combat his friendlessness.

He kept himself busy reading beautiful novels.

He started preparing sermons which he never preached to anybody but to himself.

He loved to listen to others when he had ample amount of heartaches hid inside him.

He make fun, and was humorous to give others happiness.

He learned to enjoy within himself.

Final Revelation

This person was very close to my heart because I share the same body, same mind, and same spirit with him. Yes, instead of all the negative situations I learned to live above that. It could happen only when I shifted my concentration from my suffering to others suffering, from my problems to the God almighty, from my negativity to His amazing grace. I am a proof before all. I could do all in reality in front of all what I used to do alone to amuse myself. Now, I am a counselor, happily married to a normal girl and impacting others by creating positive vibes. It was only God’s grace and my availability to receive His grace could change my negative attitudes to positive.

My brother in law always says, “God takes all which is worst in us and makes it best for us.”

Stay blessed!

 

        

© 2012 Chiradeep


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Woah! I have no words to say. This is so true about negativity. It made me think... We all go through difficulties and always need help. And if we believe in God, He will always bless us. So what we need is to have faith in what we do and where we go and from experiences to collect wisdom and also avoiding to make same mistakes. Your writing is really good, there is nothing artificial, everything is from true life.

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Woah! I have no words to say. This is so true about negativity. It made me think... We all go through difficulties and always need help. And if we believe in God, He will always bless us. So what we need is to have faith in what we do and where we go and from experiences to collect wisdom and also avoiding to make same mistakes. Your writing is really good, there is nothing artificial, everything is from true life.

Posted 9 Years Ago


1 of 1 people found this review constructive.


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