Dementia

tis crueler than cruel & greedy with it..

Dementia

 

It’s not what you see

But the way that you view it

 

 

He’s too old now to look after her

But he’s not too old to care

 

 

He’s still tilting at those windmills

She is tearing out her hair

 

 

Sixty years of wedded bliss

The last two though too hard to bear

 

Reviews

[Chris Shaw]

I am truly thankful that My Dad did not live to see my Mother end up in this way. It would have crucified him. The sad thing is this is the reality for so many and heart breaking it is. You say it with such a deep understanding Neville and with brevity. Good morning.

Chris

[Neville]

It is indeed a most terrible thing & I can not think of a single thing that frightens me more.. my heart goes out to all those who know only too well how cruel it is in all its forms.... Good morning.

Neville

[Chris Shaw]

I think you are right, it is the one thing people fear most. Losing it and being dependant on others to care for you when you know what a mountain that is to climb for even the strongest.

C.

[kitty]

Frightening though it be I must confess it worries me. Illness/dementia is no respecter of persons, no matter who they are. Dementia is one of the scariest illness that affects mainly the 'carers' as they have to see the decline of a once active human being, their 'loved' one become trapped in a useless 'shell'. Poignant piece.

[Neville]

thanking you kindly kitty ... yes tis a sad and sorry wake the beast leaves behind.... N

[Robert Trakofler]

he he I have a pre-cracked brain so this is one of my biggest fears the concept of losing myself I truly pray this is not my fate too. two people in my life I have witnessed this happen to and it is truly heartbreaking very poignant write Nev

[Neville]

I am so grateful that neither of my folks suffered in such a way although have seen many fall victim from both insidiously creeping forms and more sudden acute and startlingly quick onset forms... My Father in Law is presently in an advanced state of decline and it is heartbreaking to witness... Bless ya brother and I shall keep my fingers crossed that you are out the day the beast is in your neighborhood.. AGT's Neville :)

[Rhayne]

Lost my Mom in 2016 to Alzheimers. Witnessed the cruelty of that for several years. Your words are heartfelt. Well written.

[Neville]

tis a very cruel beast.. I am so sorry to that Rhayne.. I lost my mum last week unexpectedly.. I am glad she was spared the ravages of any form of dementia...

[Neville]

I forgot to say thank you for checking in.. I shall visit your posts very shortly.. Neville

[Rhayne]

So sorry for your loss. I read your tribute to her and it was so beautiful, it brought tears. I couldn't even find words to comment at the time. And then I saw I didn't really need to---you have wonderful friends here. God Bless you.

[Lorry]

Summed up perfectly mate. My own Ma has dementia and Alzheimers and no longer recognises me. They truly are taken from this world, before they are bodily.
I tried to put myself in their position and see how terrifying it must be from their mind. We are only seeing and hearing what it does to them, the live it, locked in with no hint or clue when and if clarity will call.
I lasted about 2 minutes thinking of what they go through, before bottling it and shaking it out of my mind of denial.
Life can be so cruel. So f*****g cruel.

[Neville]

every word damned true and felt.. bless ya Lorry & effin meant.... N

[Lorry]

Well, I do need blessed. No, exorcised, that's what they said. 😀

[Neville]

on reflection, they may well be write ..

[Kay Salisu Titilola]

Beautiful!
Despite the ages that has passed by, through the challenges, through the storm and through my life obstacles, the love is still intact.
This is great.

Well written, Neville.

[Neville]

thank you.... N

[Kay Salisu Titilola]

My pleasure... Neville.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

a friend of mine is dealing with this right now....so hard for her...but every so often, he knows her...and comes back...even if it is temporary.
last time i saw my dad, he knew me....i think i was lucky because if i saw him a few weeks later, he probably would not have.
j.

[Neville]

thank you jacob.. we have a situation developing quite rapidly with my wife's father.. it is a most terrible thing to be part of, no matter how peripherally...... N

[Annette Pisano-Higley]

So sad and real Neville. My mother had it, but my father died before she got bad. He took care of her the best he could before. My husband and I took care of her the best we could after he passed. Your words remind me of so much. Dementia is a human tragedy, the enemy within that destroys all. You paint it in true, powerful and compassionate colors here. Thank you my friend for your understanding heart.

[Neville]

Thank you dear Annette.. a much appreciated visit and true... and yes.. everything you have mentioned is absolutely bang on target.... Neville

[Fay Slimm]

A sad story written with gentle compassion of something that is all too familiar now Nev - Yes sixty years of caring and it never ceases despite cruel dementia. Some will relate to this read all too well.

[Neville]

thank you Fay.. yes indeed they will.. I consider myself fortunate that both my parents were saved from the beast.. whereas my wife's parents were not so fortunate

[emmajoy]

You always find just enough words to make a point: these say it all, Neville. Love is forever - whatever.

[Neville]

thank you emmajoy & muchly so..