Introvert

And the next time you meet a loner or an introvert, don't judge them for their silence; for it's not what they wish to be either.

It's just that they have tried so many times to mix in with the ordinary, blend in with the normal but the atrocious reality has continued to disappoint them.

Reviews

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Mostly introvets are born like introverts. If someone became shy throught the experience it's mostly building shield against to enemy. Judging it's big problem special from people who was never down or they just think only way to be normal is not to be introvert. I was born like introvert . I find quiet had to mix with other people they don't really like my way of comunnications etc. For example here on this site . I get zero response on my giving reviews . Like they are afraid to say it's sucks etc. I give up to mix with normals cause they are too boring and they tolerance is completly zero .

[Arpita Mondal]

It is hard for an introvert to communicate and reach out when you've been let down one too many times. Perhaps after some time, we just stop trying to mix in with others because we're convinced it's futile effort.

[Franky]

Oh my goodness.....i can relate very much. Shyness can be so painful. I'm getting over it though ....slowly.

[Relic]

I pretty much see myself in this. Sadly. :)

[Arpita Mondal]

You're not in this journey alone then :)

[heartsinice]

Tons of pages consolidated into 2 sentences, touching all corners of the subject with accuracy and grace. Beautifully put!

[Arpita Mondal]

Thank you so much for your appreciation :)

[Julie McCarthy (juliesp..]

I can relate to this very well
I am 60 in January next year and since early primary been an introvert
I have tried to change but its hard to teach an old dog new tricks as the saying goes
eventually ou just have to accept the way we are as us and try not to change too much as its not in our nature
how can a simple white daisy become a huge loud bright sunflower. its possible im sure but too much hard work for me lol ive accepted the way I am and like it and enjoy it
I can be more outgoing in my writing its much easier I feel

[Arpita Mondal]

I don't know if it's at all possible for an introvert to change themselves but from my experience , its a futile effort . I've tried and I've tried hard, to blend in,to be like the others , but after some time I felt like I've become a stranger to myself. I didn't know who I was anymore. I wasn't happy being someone I'm not. It felt empty. So I think its better to be just ourselves.

[Julie McCarthy (juliespenhere)]

yes I totally agree

[Onlyme]

Being an introvert does not make you a bad person at all. Just means you are shy and prefer to be in the background. Rather than being loud and proud, and in your face type of person. Some people do not even see others at all. They are so up themselves. All they see are their own importance in public. They are so unaware of others around them. They think everyone is looking at them. When actually, in fact, no one even noticed them. And what is normal, to be honest. No one is perfect and I mean no one. Don't be so harsh on yourself. Be kind to you. and take your time and over time you will build self-confidence and start doing things a bit more with better people who suit you. The general public is a******s. To be honest. Choose to mix with people you have a connection with and something in common with first and foremost. And that will work out better for you long run. Okay.

[Arpita Mondal]

Thank you so much for your advice Dee. You really inspire me. :)

Being an introvert can be hard at times but at the end of the day, that's who I am. And I wouldn't change myself for anyone. What I am ,who I am defines all the struggles I've dealt with to be here and I'm somewhat proud of it.

[Onlyme]

Exactly you are who you are. Be proud of you. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed because you are you. The opposite in fact. Stand up and be proud. My man is like you. And I love him for him. Honestly.

[Onlyme]

The world would be a very boring place if we where all alike in nature and charactor. So God made us all different. And unique. You are who you are meant to be. A loving, kind, sweetheart and warm soul. Who is a little shy. Nothing at all. Wrong in that at all.

[Arpita Mondal]

Yes. We all are different mismatched proportions who make a better whole. :)

[Onlyme]

Exactly. NO ONE IS PERFECT. AND I MEAN NO ONE IN LIFE. Start by accepting you for you.

[Arpita Mondal]

Will do love :)

[Onlyme]

Glad to hear it. Anytime you have doubt. Talk to me okay. I will reply you. Take care and remember little steps. Hugs. Dee.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

i like this angle...not feeling so much that we are not good enough...it's just that others and life itself tends to disappoint...and we would rather keep to ourselves.
j.

[Arpita Mondal]

Exactly. It's better to be with ourselves than risk another broken heart.

[Lost]

I struggle a lot with trying to fit in and find a place where I can come out of my introvert shell without judgement. I can identify with and commiserate with your tribulations in this piece.

[Arpita Mondal]

Perhaps we should stop trying to fit in and just be ourselves and let people accept us for who we are 💕

[Lost]

Perhaps we should :) I've found that doing this facilitates much closer, deeper, and more loyal relationships. When you approach life and communication with an unapologetic genuineness, acceptance feels much more rewarding and validating.

[Arpita Mondal]

Exactly. :) 💕