i can certainly feel this one, having gone through three divorces...the "till death do us part" should be changed to "until the first big argument"--
that would be more accurate...
a well expressed piece, here.
Posted 10 Years Ago
10 Years Ago
Three divorces! Wow...thanks for leaving your comment Jacob.
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not proud of it, it's just a fact...never wanted any of them...but there will be no more...till deat.. read morenot proud of it, it's just a fact...never wanted any of them...but there will be no more...till death parts me from this earth. :)
Not proud ? Well just for the record I don't think pride or guilt or shame or blame should be attach.. read moreNot proud ? Well just for the record I don't think pride or guilt or shame or blame should be attached to these divorces. It's as though the judgmental mentality of it means failure, out of norm.
What if the perspective was that you were blessed and fortunate to have loved and shared your life with three wonderful woman and that that was a good thing and what if it was revered to be a grand celebration compared to the hum drum of only having one go around and perhaps noy enjoying the fullness of knowing other relationships?
What if the true ideal diversity was an added extra fuller life experience?
What if some people are naturally easily bored in life and are stretching themselves to find a higher self and withdraw more from life then others was a good thing?
We have a lot of collective cognitive thoughts passed on to us, generation after generation. along with ideals that make no sense when we sit down and analyze things.
Our concepts of good and bad need to be stretched out on the table and be looked at thru fresh new eyes.
Who said this or that is good or bad.. Who says this or that is how anything should be or be judged,
What if some things just are and what if all judgement was banished and we discovered there is nothing to judgeed, but just is?
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well not quite...one of them i am still very close to...but the other two? nope on the fortunate par.. read morewell not quite...one of them i am still very close to...but the other two? nope on the fortunate part...one was just a user and manipulator and had me totally fooled...the other made me stay out of relationships for almost 20 years...at least the getting serious part...because there was so much pain associated with her...sometimes the fullness is not fulfilling...we all contribute to what doesn't work...but the blessed and fortunate part? not in this case.
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LOL Jacob, It's a wonder you got thru reading all my typo's.... Thanks.... I discovered that if I ho.. read moreLOL Jacob, It's a wonder you got thru reading all my typo's.... Thanks.... I discovered that if I hold my lenses out away from my eyes about two inches I can see perfectly.
I hadn't been able to see good for almost 9 years now. I think I'm just discovering that they may have been focusing my eye glasses wrong and I've been living with it all this time not knowing better.
I'm sure I'll have less typo's when I get new glasses.
Sorry , if I steered this conversation into a too personal zone. I didn't mean too.
I just thought perhaps you might of been too hard on yourself in judgement of the stereotypic "divorce" word and all it's negative, collective, connotations.
Still even after you expanded on some negative associations I'm sure there are many good lessons from the experience.
I guess it's fair game since I'm throwing my two cents at you, to mention I have been seriously examining my own life, lately and re arranging and analyzing my own perceptual connotations on Ideals that I picked up early in life.
I see so much of what seemed reality as we were trained and molded into are not actual clear perceptions. So many basic supposed facts or truths have no validity or have no actual factual standing.
This word Divorce is one of those..
I am aimed to fine tune the perceptual frequency whether it be accepted as norm or not :-)
Anyhow.......... Lets find the good in all things and go from there and am sure reality will follow :-)
Thanks for listening and sharing and giving me the opportunity to self reflect from you.
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