Caregiver's Life

How a caregiver struggles thru life and no one understands why.

Taking care of the Ill Siblings and being a single mother is a 24/7 challenge. Let me introduce myself,

I Am Maria.

I have been a single mother for the past 20 years, my oldest made me a grandmother on my way to the 3rd. I Am grateful and highly excited!

I have Power Of Attorney for both my mother and brother,

my mother has Alzheimer's disease, my brother was born with Mental Retardation. This has become deeply hard especially when you lose employment because you are not able to work and be home at the same time when my mother's PCA caregivers call out at short notice or are late and I get fired for repeated events. I rely on the Internet for employment even if it is doing surveys because I do have personal needs that need to be met! 

People do not understand what is like to stay at home and they often contradict or ridicule those who have no choice but to stay home giving up on their own lives to care for someone else. They force their demands and opinions of how you should live and what you need to do and make you feel even worst about your life. They do not comprehend or emotionally feel the impact of what you are going through. The best way to deal with this kind of situations as "I just learned", is to keep our business to ourselves and not give anyone a ticket inviting them into our situation when we know they lack compassion, knowledge and understanding. Take things day by day, accept it for what it is because regardless how much you stress yourselves nothing will get fixed. The situation is there why make it worst and cause yourself depression? Just manage it alone, fix one thing at a time by organizing the most important things first. (Sooner or later everything will get back on track) 

"Better late than never as I say".

It is easier said than done for everything that we are told and I should know this, appointments do not care what your situation is, jobs do not care either and that leaves us the Caregiver on an empty road with tears and emotional pain. I believe they should build places for us the Caregivers for support, part-time employment so that we can get some kind of income from home. The only way that they do this is if you do not have PCA, which I really think is unfair that they will do so because in many cases we take care of two people and more. We also need a break, to see a doctor, to breath. Taking care of someone 24/7 takes a huge emotional and mental toll on us. It can kill us with depression. Just manage the best way you know how there are support groups online which you can remain anonymous,  for income so far I have found Surveys. They do not deliver millions of dollars but it is legal and it is something. You too can sign up for Survey Sites, PTC sites and much more here:

It is also a mind relaxing strategy that keeps us busy so that we do not loose sanity and pays off.

Good luck Keep your heads up!

Author's Note

This is guidance for those who take care of the ill at home.

Reviews

[T. Edana Talbott]

Your devotion and love to your family is so beautiful. It really warms my heart and gives me so much more faith in humanity, Maria. You are a beautiful soul and your family is very lucky to have you, just as you are blessed to have them.

[Maria DC]

Thank You they mean the world to me, without them I Am incomplete.