I just don't understand, but am I supposed to?A Story by AlexLife: Stop thinking. Just do.I just don’t
understand, but am I supposed to? I don’t understand why
I bother putting my heart out there, exposed to the world. It’s such a
vulnerable position. Through many past experiences, people notice that quality
and take advantage of it. I’ve forgiven people under extreme circumstances that
many others would never dare to do. What do I get in return? Another situation
requiring my forgiveness that I so easily hand out? Another heartache? Another
broken friendship? Is it my fault for putting myself out there so much just to
get hurt? I don’t understand why
friendships can’t last. I’m not saying
I’m the perfect friend but I’d like to think that I do a hell of a lot better
of a job than many of my peers. I put my heart and soul into my friendships because
they’re so important to me and that’s what counts. When they’re sad, angry,
excited, anxious, lonely, confused or feeling lost, my ears will never fail
them. When I’m sad, angry, excited, anxious, lonely, confused or feeling lost,
where are my listeners when I need them?
When a friend is down, is it that difficult to comfort them? When
someone puts down your friend, is it so hard to stand up for him or her? When
conflicts arise in a friendship, why can’t there be communication and honesty
so that it can be resolved? I don’t understand
why dating is so difficult. How is one supposed to distinguish the a******s,
liars and the cheaters from the good ones? Just when you believe someone
genuinely enjoys your company, you open your heart, become vulnerable and
suddenly BOOM! Where’d they go? What happened? You may ask yourself: What did I
do wrong? Is it because of the way I look? Is there something wrong with me? Is
it because I refrained from sex? Is it because I gave into sex? What allowed
them to suddenly change their mind about me that made it so easy for them to
toss me aside? I don’t understand
how young adults are expected to make it in this world. If you don’t go to
college, your options are very limited but the situation isn’t exactly ideal if
you do go to college either. Tuition is ridiculously high, leaving students in
hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, that is, if you’re lucky enough to
get a student loan. Graduate programs and jobs seem to expect students to be
superheroes because how can we achieve an impressive GPA, participate in
extracurricular activities, volunteer, find internships, work our crappy
part-time jobs to support ourselves (because many are not so fortunate to have
families provide financial support) AND stay sane on top of it all? How does it
make sense that, to get an entry-level job position, we need “experience”? Where
the hell is this “experience” supposed to come from once we’re done being superman/superwoman? I don’t understand
familial conflicts. Whatever happened to “blood runs thicker than water” or
“family first”? Families are supposed to be our support systems, our sanity,
our best friends, our role models and our inspiration. Some of us are lucky to
have found that within our families, but others still strive to compete with
one another and live up to expectations. Why do some family members make it
their life-mission to inflict pain, whether it’s mental or physical, onto
others? Shouldn’t we all be able to associate “family” to words like support,
happiness, warmth, comfort and unconditional love? I don’t understand myself.
Seriously, what the F is going on in my brain? Sometimes I’m so content with
life and optimistic for what’s to come. Other times I fall into a deep, deep
black hole in the earth where I can’t even see the light and it seems as though
things will never look up. I often wonder, is it just me who feels this way?
Why do some days I look at myself, happy with the way I look and proud of who
I’m becoming, while other days I can’t even look at my reflection in the
mirror? Why is it so difficult to love and accept yourself? I just don’t
understand LIFE, but am I supposed to? Why do things happen the way that
they do? Why can’t everyone and everything die a peaceful death? Why can’t
there be peace in our lives in general? Life sucks. Life is tough. Life like a
never-ending rollercoaster: You begin at ground level, soon finding yourself
approaching that nerve-wrecking climb to the top which, to your surprise is
painfully exciting, but your increasing vulnerability to the drop can be
frightening. Then, it happens. You’ve reached
the top. There’s that short pause at the top of a rollercoaster where you have
the opportunity to take in your surroundings, find peace and accept your fate. This
is the part that makes-or-breaks the rest of your ride. Either you find the
beauty and peace of being at such heights or you succumb to your fear, focusing
on the fall, wondering, “Will I make it?” If you give into the fear, you’ll
miss the glorious opportunity to take advantage of that moment. Yeah, the drop
still kind of sucks even when you do find peace at the top and your stomach
turns into knots but once that’s finished, you become grounded and find your
place again (before the cycle restarts and continues, of course). So many of us ask, what’s the point? Why are we here on this
earth, living? But I ask: what’s the point in asking, “what’s the point?” Just
live. Put your heart on your sleeve because once you’ve weeded out all of the
a******s, you’ll find yourself with those who appreciate you. Be an amazing
friend and one that you would value having.
Eventually you’ll find the loyal ones and by then, you’ll appreciate
each other more than you could imagine. Experiment with dating and take your
time. Aside from finding a lifelong partner, you find out quite a bit about
yourself along the way too. Love and support your family. We can’t choose who
our family is but we can choose how we treat one another. Don’t hold back on
your dreams out of fear of debt and lacking opportunities. If you’re passionate
enough, you’ll find your way because success is so much more than the
materialistic things. Accept who you are or make changes to become a better you
and by changes, I don’t mean plastic surgery or attempting to be someone that
you aren’t. Being the best version of you takes a lot of work but the reward in
loving yourself is worth it because once you’ve achieved that, it doesn’t
matter what others see. Lastly, don’t try to understand or figure out the
meaning of life. We’re here, living on this earth, so you might as well make
the best of it. Bad things happen sometimes but so do great things. Try your
best to search for the light and learn from those negative experiences.
Appreciate the highs and don’t be afraid of the lows because it won’t be long
before you become grounded once again. © 2015 AlexAuthor's Note
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Added on December 4, 2014 Last Updated on March 10, 2015 Tags: inspiration, life, meaning, acceptance |