To the girl who's still trying to get over her ex

This is a letter to any girl that is still caught up on their ex.

To the girl who’s still trying to get over her ex,

Some people enter our lives with one purpose: to teach us a lesson. You open up to them, give them your heart and soul. You tell them anything and everything that you feel or think because you trust them. There’s something different about them. They’re nothing like the rest. You let them in, trusting them with secrets and stories that you’ve been to scared to tell anyone else. You love him unconditionally and he seems to love you just as much. Then one day, out of nowhere, he leaves. No warning. He leaves you questioning, wondering why. The person that became your world, made you feel like you had a purpose in life; gone in the blink of an eye. You tell yourself that you’re never going to love again, that no one would make you feel the way he did.

I’m not going to sit here and lie to you and tell you it’s going to be easy. It’s going to be a long and difficult journey. You’re going to have your fair share of mental breakdowns and sleepless nights. At times, he won’t even cross your mind. Then, out of nowhere, a song comes on or you find his old sweatshirt, and all the memories come back to haunt you. You’re going to ask yourself what you did wrong, why he doesn’t love you anymore, why the new girl is so much better than you are. This is when you need to take a step back and breathe.

Just breathe. Wipe the tears from your face.

Now stop. Stop stressing about something that isn’t there anymore. Yes, I’m sure it was great while it lasted. You felt loved, you felt beautiful and for the first time in your life, you felt important to someone. You had a purpose.

Well, guess what? You still do.

Losing him does not make you any less of a person. Losing him doesn’t mean it’s time to give up. As the saying goes, ‘Everything happens for a reason’ so don’t lose hope now. Your life is just getting started. Life is too short to stress over people and situations that bring nothing but negativity into your life.

It’s going to take some time to get over him and you need to know, that’s okay. It’s normal and you’re not alone. You are going to have days where you miss him and wish things could go back to the way they used to be. You may even sit in your room at night, drowning yourself in thoughts, crying yourself to sleep. When these bad days come, don’t fight them. Simply push through them and let them be. It’s going to hurt you more if you try fighting back your feelings and pretending you’re okay. The most important thing to keep in mind through this difficult process it that it’s okay not to be okay.

Throughout your life, people are going to come and go. People and feelings change and that’s just something out of our control. Not everyone comes into your life to stay. There will come a point in your life where you will realize who matters, who never did and who always will. And when that time comes, you’ll be able to take a huge sigh of relief. Finally, a breath of fresh air filled with bigger and better opportunities and positive vibes.

So don’t ever let one boy have that much control over your happiness again. Take this time and spend it on yourself. You have to learn to love yourself before you can truly learn to love anyone else. You are worth so much more than you know and you’re going to realize that someday. Someday you’re going to be able to look back and wonder why you spent so much time and put so much effort into caring about a boy that wasn’t meant to be part of your life. Keep pushing forward and try not to look back. Pick up all your broken pieces and eventually someone will come along to help you put them back together again.

Sincerely,

    The girl who was in your shoes

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[Ardra]

loved the letter you wrote...simply heart touching...i guess most of us do a reminder everyday that we should not make others the point of our happiness... the first step is to love self ... its easy to say difficult to follow..but i guess one day we have to take a stand and do it... for our sake.. when we make others our world when they leave ... it will break us apart and we will be left behind to collect all our broken pieces... then again when we feel we will never love again some one walks in making us feel better ,giving us dreams and hopes for tomorrow... then still fate decides to take them away for some or the other reason... each time we learn to trust it gets broken... in the end you somehow reach a point you forget to love...oh i have been there felt all that.. its difficult then to trust anyone...or any happiness which comes your way..always there is the doubt which makes you take a step back.... so if we learn to be happy on our own then only we can be happy with anyone..i have just started to learn that...a long time for this realization :) ..... slow steps at first i guess... very glad to have read your creation...it would be a balm for the aching hearts whoever has been on those cross roads...may it be a girl or a guy :) ... keep up the good work !