like a bad marriage....making the best of a bad situation...ironically

It,s alright for me and everyone else

who does not have cancer. To talk

about it. But I don't know all.

It's the poor soul like my man

and other people who are suffering

daily. The emotions they are feeling

and we who do  try to understand the best 

we can. But reality is we full can't fully

comprehend all about this vile desease

does to them or anyone at that.

We can imagine and take on board

what we are told, see and read. As

well as how they are before, during and

after treatment. 

Reality is this is a major trauma to

their system let alone ours. 

They are the ones living with this

every second and getting the treatment.

The medications, side affects and so 

forth with not us.

This is a bomb shell. They themselves

have to accept,understand and relate

to before we can be their for them

best we can as a side kicker, aids,comforter

whatever.

Easy said than done. Cancer and it's

affects it has on loved ones. Just

does not affect them. It breaks us

all. 

We all learn as we go on in this evil

journey. And hopefully we all come

out the other end.

For better or worse, like a bad marriage.

You make the best of a bad situation.

And just deal with it daily, good,bad

and indifferent.

No one is right or wrong, but talking,

listening and expressing yourself no

matter who. It does help lighten the 

load and burden of the stress and 

anxiety. Let alone worry for a short 

while at least.

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[Dave]

I cannot fully feel the angst you are experiencing having this person being a loved one. To a strong degree I can empathize. I'm a volunteer for a Compassionate Care group and until very recently one of the patients I visited had cancer of the spinal chord and lower back. They did their best to see that he had as little pain as possible. I visited him several times a week and each time we chatted, I read him my poems. I think I tired him out!
He never expressed his distress to me, I thought of him as a true friend.

This past week while I was in North Carolina I was informed that he passed.
Believe it or not, I felt so good for him. He didn't deserve to suffer. He especially enjoyed one of the poems I posted here which I unfortunately can't seem to find right now. When I do I'll send it to you.

Take care - Dave