A Life Less TravelledA Story by Tim HaganThis is a story about change. How at any time, any age, we can make the commitment to change anything, especially ourselves. WIP.“Life should not be a journey to the
grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved
body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up,
totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!” -
Hunter S. Thompson Everything is washed out, grey. In the myriad of colours that make the
world pulse; the subtle yellows, the vibrant reds, the sublime turquoises… all
I see is grey. I’m sitting in a room, staring at a glass of vodka. It’s
tempting me, taunting me. I’m drunk and sick. It’s 2pm and I want to smash that
f*****g glass into little bits. I guess you could say I’ve come to London in search of myself. On a whim
I hopped on a plane to see something, anything. My life in Auckland died a slow
death; my mental state deteriorated to numbness. I need a shot of heroin to my
soul; a jolt of pure hedonism, and travel, with all its endless unknowns, is
going to be my saviour. I’ve been staying at my friend Georgia’s house for two weeks. The sites’
and sounds of the city elude me. My days consist of eating bread with
margarine, drinking vodka, and smoking cigarettes. The house is freezing, thanks to the dull monotony of a London winter.
Outside the world spins, blissfully unaware of the wretched human hiding behind
these heavy curtains of grey. Gulps of vodka imitate happiness and bathe me in
warmth. After a large skull, I lie back and think about something I had done
the night before. It was three in the
morning, I was utterly drunk, chain-smoking, and sitting by myself in the
backyard of the flat, looking up aimlessly at the stars. I was disgustingly
depressed and self-loathing. I had no real idea of what I was doing here or
where I was going next, all I knew for sure was that I just wanted to curl up
into the foetal position and die. I obsessed over thoughts of suicide,
overdosing on prescription pills and falling blissfully asleep. I wanted this
pain I was feeling, this dark cloak that I carry with me everywhere I go, to
disappear. I wanted to disappear. I wanted something
to happen, anything, to shock me out of my headspace. I closed my eyes and
started to pray. I don’t believe in a god, but I liked the idea of something in
the universe listening, even to a louse like me. It was all I could do to not
cry. I asked this omnipotent being to hurt me, physically, to jolt me back to
reality. Break my bones, stab me or beat me to a bloodied pulp. Something so
severe it would force me to appreciate waking up the next morning. If not, I
knew within weeks I could soon end up weighed down by six feet of dirt,
selfishly decomposing, yet finally at peace, leaving those who loved me to
mourn above. I can’t bear the
thought of doing that to them, it makes me sick to think about it, but I also can’t
continue my life like it is. In the background a documentary about nuclear fallout and the
annihilation of the human race plays on the television. Iran, North Korea, the
axis of evil ... blah, blah, blah. I decided I have to, just have to, go and see Chernobyl. It
fascinates me. I’m obsessed with the ominous nature of it, with death; that so
much horror can go on in the world makes me feel sick. I have to experience it,
know it. In some desperate way the journey might cure me of this dark cloak I
carry everywhere. I’m going, nuclear fallout and all. Part 1. Chapter 1 A year earlier my
life seemed to be on track, whatever that means. I was finishing my honours
degree in design, making a short film about obsessive-compulsive disorder and
anxiety; things I have had since a child. I was happy, looking forward to some
kind of future. I could control my OCD and anxiety most of the time, and with
the help of pills and therapy I felt confident in my abilities to cope. I
shared a life with a partner who I knew loved me and who I loved too. For once
I saw a life ahead of me, some kind of path that I could navigate. I had always
sort of lived week-to-week, afraid of committing to the present let alone
something ahead of me, out of my control. The year was
tumultuous and it took everything I had creatively, mentally and physically to
finish the project. It wasn’t just a means to an end for me; it was an open
expression of who I am, a public interpretation of what I had tried to hide for
so many miserable years. The weight of
trying to articulate this took its toll. Nothing was ever good enough. My
obsessive nature began to encroach on my work and it started to consume my
life. It’s all I could think about. I would work manically for 20 hours at a
time, with little or no sleep. I had to get it right, it was too important to
let slip. I was afraid of
looking like a fool, to let people know I was a failure because of my illness. It consumed my
mind, filling it with dozens of fractured thoughts and emotions at once. The
very thing that I was trying to document and express was silently growing… a
cancerous tumour feeding off my insecurities, bloated by the rich resources of
a fragile mind. I’ve always had
coping mechanisms, learnt behaviours from years of combatting OCD and anxiety,
that automatically kick in when things become too much. But these barriers
became meaningless to me. I needed to feel
my illness in order to creatively document and understand it. So I let myself
go. Every second of every day was filled with thoughts that would be frantically
jotted down in notebooks that lay strewn around my apartment. I couldn’t bear
the thought of losing an idea, it all mattered and it had to be catalogued. It consumed me. No idea, no piece of work was
ever good enough. I hated them all. People would talk to me after class but I
never properly listened or much cared for what they were saying. My mind was
louder than any noise around me. I devoured academic
texts, books, films and tutorials, all alone in my apartment for days on end. I
took solace in things, tangible
objects that I could control, that wouldn’t judge or hurt me, or laugh at my
indiscretions or obvious lack of talent. I delved into ideas of self; my own
worth, what mental illness took from me, what it gave me. Had I lost something?
Was I missing something? Or was I just how the universe intended? But no matter how much material I indulged in,
every creative piece of output felt academic and stale. I wasn’t sure about
much of anything anymore. I lived in the city
and would often go out to my balcony for a cigarette and whiskey. I would watch
groups of people, social butterflies passing by in the night. They were
drenched in decadence, trying to be noticed, dancing from street to street,
living only for the moment. I began to despise them for being so cavalier; I
mean, why were they not anxiously
locked in their apartments trying to figure out their own meaning in the world?
Why did I have to shoulder that
burden? Chapter 2 I was walking back
to my apartment from university one day when I suddenly felt like I was being
crushed. I got dizzy and fell to the ground, my knees bearing the brunt of the
fall. People came over to ask if I was okay, and I was, but something was
changing. There was a brooding darkness that was following me everywhere and it
was getting heavier around me. I was struggling with its newfound weight. Finishing the walk
back to my apartment with scraped knees, I followed the elevator and corridors
until I was at my door. As I opened it I was taken aback by the mess of books
and papers that enveloped my apartment; all of this research but I still had
not found the right way to communicate how I felt. Academic journals can’t truly
explain the raw, rigorous emotion of obsessive thought. Then I had an epiphany.
What if the pills I took were the cause? What if I stopped taking my
medication? If I did, maybe I could actually feel my OCD and anxiety and could properly document it. That was it. Pills
were my barrier, I thought. I collected them all up into a trash sack and
carried them down to the basement where I dumped them into a large trash bin.
It excited me to see what would happen. I’ve been on medication since I was
twelve and don’t know life without it. Now I was going to experience the real
me, I thought. After a few days I
found that I could stay up longer, but it became hard to concentrate. I was
going through withdrawal, my hands and body shook furiously at times, but I figured
it was worth it. I was coming alive in a wholly new way, except my manic
manifestations drew longer and more sporadic. I was high one second, ideas
spewing out of me in feverish, flurried clusters; then depressed the next,
paper being ripped up and screams dying out through my pillow. I would text my partner,
Jade, thoughts or words so I wouldn’t forget, or would ask her to come over
then half way through her drive tell her to go home, she wasn’t welcome as my
work was unsatisfactory that day and I had to get it right before trying to
sleep. My obsessions seemed to be the only things driving me, their rigid
structure a welcome distraction from the commotion flooding my mind. But as I drew
deeper within myself, everything else in my life suffered. When my mind becomes
so obsessively focused on one thing, everything around it becomes collateral.
It's not intentional, I just can't see it happening right in front of me. Jade
helped in every way she could, but this was also new territory and she couldn’t
have understood. No one could have. Jade and I had been
together for about three years. She was sweet, innocent and caring, but she
never really understood that side of me. She simply said there were ‘two Tim’s’.
One sane, one insane I assume. I was something of interest to her, something
different from other guys, something that she could try to fix. But she could
only ever really sympathise, never empathise. Her world was black and white and
she never fully understood grey. She was outgoing, going to events, dinners,
poetry nights. Whereas I was a hermit, more interested in reading and watching
documentaries about the supposed ‘real’ world as I always used to say. But that’s
something I loved about her, her innocence. Opposites attract and we were
polar. I think in some way we wanted to bring out our own qualities in the
other person to make each other more rounded individuals, because what we
lacked in ourselves we saw in each other. But what was happening
was all in my mind and I never shared it with anybody; I couldn’t as I was
incredibly fearful of someone thinking I was going bonkers and I'd have to be
sectioned. As my views and
thoughts began to get darker, I felt myself slowly slipping away, into
something that I couldn’t control or understand. Chapter 3 I finished the year
and did well, but any praise for what I had accomplished fell on deaf ears. By
this point I didn’t even feel relief. I felt ashamed. Ashamed of the work I had
created, ashamed of myself. I couldn’t bring myself to look at the film, without
feeling disgust. I had failed. I had let down not only myself, but also my
partner, my tutors and my family. Days turned into
weeks and my mindset never changed, I just kept retreating further within
myself. I was distant, angry and didn’t care about those around me. One minute
I was the nicest, most caring person; the next I was an abusive, selfish
a*****e. There was no middle ground. I had become scared
of everything, frightened by the things that I used to relish, and I took it
out on those closest to me. Everything in the world was horrible and it slowly
began to overwhelm me; death, animal cruelty, war, famine. Putrid. I couldn’t
sleep without dreaming about how disgusting the human race was; I felt horrible
to be a part of it and wished for a new plague to wipe out as many people as
possible, myself included. I was drawn into a world of violence and brutality,
researching for hours on war atrocities, serial killers, genocide; it
legitimately began to torture me. Humans can be such
vile creatures at times, I could physically feel our collective callousness; we
were all repugnant and not worthy to
walk this earth. I didn’t understand
what was happening to me, and Jade bore the brunt of it. I would yell and argue
with her about anything. I began to hate her for being so holy, so seemingly
unaware of the horrors that surrounded her. This deep ache began to trickle
into every facet of who I was, slowly eating away my identity as a man and as a
human being. I was part of the problem. I could no longer look people in the
eye or say I loved them; I just couldn’t understand what love meant anymore, I
couldn’t feel it. Jade thought I
found her unattractive, and to be honest, I did. I knew others found her
beautiful and that I had at one point, but I wasn’t attracted to any person. Any sexual urges I had made
me feel sick and the mere thought of touching another person sexually made me
cringe. I knew I was hurting her, but I just couldn’t stop. An uncontrollable
rage was building up inside of me, and sometimes I would have to scream at the
top of my lungs just to release its burn. I had to get away. Chapter 4 I booked a ticket
to visit my uncle in Iowa. I was running, cowardly retreating into the cold of
winter, hoping a busy schedule would help regain the perspective that seemed to
be falling faster and faster out of my reach. I wanted to visit
the corn farm there that our family has owned for generations. My
great-grandfather, Joseph Hagan, had worked the farm of corn and soy in the
late 1900’s, handing it down to my grandfather and his brother, who in turn
handed it to my father and uncle. It had always been such a mythical part of my
life since as long as I can remember. Almost every year, since I was a baby,
Mum and Dad would pack us all up, fly the twelve hours over the pacific ocean,
direct us through the cluster-f**k that is LAX, on to Atkins, Iowa, where a whole
new world opened up to me, a world of denim overalls, tractors, endless dirt
roads, cornbread, cookies… but most of all, family. My uncle Dennis would
always pick us up from the Cedar Rapids airport and drive us the fifteen miles
to the farmhouse where my grandma would be eagerly waiting at the door, her
hair freshly permed, dressed in beige slacks with some kind of frilly, ornate
blouse she had picked up from the local department store. It was a rare
treat, a treat I relished and adored. America was so exotic to me. It was vast,
strange and full of crazy adventures. And snow! At Christmas there was tons of
it, pouring perfectly onto the flat Iowan countryside, blanketing the horizon
like a picturesque postcard. Back in Auckland, a lot of my friends had never
even seen snow. I felt special, lucky to be able to experience something so out
of the ordinary. I loved putting on monstrous coats and cumbersome gloves to
build snowmen and craft snowballs on Christmas morning. It was a rose-tinted
wonderland, and a true testament to the power of naïvety and blind optimism
only inherent in a child’s mind. Something about the
idea of miles of uninhabited road and snow-covered fields made me feel less
alone; nostalgically reaching for the dreams and magic a young boy once had
that were still ingrained somewhere in my mind. I wanted some of that American
optimism. Chapter 5 But this time was
different. I had grown up, grown out of an idealistic viewpoint with age and
had developed a healthy (some would say unhealthy) pessimistic view of the
world I lived in, which had only been exacerbated over the previous months. My
uncle lived in a small condominium in Cedar Rapids, about half-an-hour’s drive
from the farm. After I landed I waited at the airport for him to pick me up,
but he had forgotten. It was late and everyone had cleared out of the baggage
claim area apart from the cleaners and a few stragglers collecting carts. I
called a taxi from a pay phone and waited. On the way to the
hotel I lay my head against the cab’s window and lay witness to all the
excesses of middle America passing by. The chain restaurants, overflowing with
the obese getting their daily caloric fill; the never-ending strip malls, all
perfectly similar in architectural mediocrity, surrounded by vacuous parking lots
stretching for miles ahead. The ten lane brown highways, drenched in salt and
brown-crusted snow, filled with gas-guzzling monstrous vehicles adorned with
American flags and words like ‘Freedom’ emblazoned on their bumpers; all
ploughing through god’s given land at the expense of the area’s natural
environment. It only made me feel worse. My grandparents had
passed a few years earlier and the farmhouse was now empty. Each time we
visited for the next few years we stayed in Cedar Rapids at the Residence Inn,
a chain hotel with about all the class of a bottle of Budweiser at a tailgating
party. I loved it though, because it was simple. Iowa was simple; no frills, no
one trying to be something they aren’t. “What you see is what you get ‘round
here darlin’, and it ain’t always pretty, but it’s damned near as honest as
you’re ever gonna see,” I remember a waitress at a local Arby’s once telling
me. For that remark alone Iowa would always have a special place in my heart,
but at that moment her lovingly wry wit seemed like a distant memory. I stopped and
picked up a bottle of vodka at the Safeway on the way home and started drinking
the second I got into the hotel room. It was 1am and unpacking wasn’t
necessary, I’d probably just pass out in my clothes. All I needed were my psych
meds and a glass. I flopped on the bed, exhausted from a long trip and turned
on the television. It was filled with hundreds of channels… I had forgotten
about America’s lust for cable. As I flipped through each one they all seemed
to be selling me the same rotten idea: fear. Was my dick big enough? Was I
overweight? Was I suffering from these
symptoms and needed this medicine to
make my life bearable? I mean, what had happened to America? When did it become
a nation of such overt perversion? Maybe it was always this way, I had just
never seen it through these eyes before. I turned off the
television and tried to sleep but I just lay there; thinking, obsessing. I took
some sleeping pills and lay on the floor, it seemed to help my aching back.
2am, 3am, 4am… Each second felt like a minute, each minute an hour. By the time
I had my brain sufficiently pickled by alcohol to go outside in minus zero
weather for a cigarette, my body finally shut off. Nope! No more it said as it tumbled
to the kitchen floor, spilling my vodka next to me. I was abruptly
woken at around 11am by a loud knock at my door. I scrambled to get up. It was
my uncle. “Oh, Tim, you’re
here. I must have mixed up the day, sometimes my watch stops working.” This was
a typical story from Dennis; he often goes off the grid for months before someone
finds him again. He now lived in a run-down Motel 6, his beard was long and
shaggy and his dusty grey hair ran down to his shoulders, his baldness hidden
behind an old baseball cap. He looked exactly like I felt. We talked and hung
out. I went and visited the farm and saw my cousins who were watching Nascar
and drinking Bud Light. But to be honest with you, I don’t remember much else
about that trip, it’s all morphed into a brown smudge in my mind. I just know
that I barely contacted anyone while I was there, I didn’t really care about
what the world or the people in it had to say to me, or I to them for that
matter. I thought I could see through everybody's facade. Chapter 6 When I came back to
Auckland I knew everything had changed. Jade picked me up from the airport and
I could see in her eyes that she had been crying. When she looked at me it was
in brief glances, averting her eyes the second ours met. We drove back to my apartment
mostly in silence, and she sat me down. I had flashes of panicked nausea as I
knew what was coming. It was over. She told me she had met someone else,
someone who cared for her while I selfishly ignored her needs and treated her
like my enemy. We both cried, and my heart sunk to a depth I didn’t know I had.
I scrambled frantically for ideas, ways to make it work… some kind of control.
But it was too late. I was a child crying, reacting to something I couldn’t
fathom. I felt extremes, but deep down I felt nothing. I was already too numb
to truly understand its ramifications, or even properly care. I didn’t blame
her; I’d never been the easiest person to love. I blamed myself. I was the ugly
truth, the arrogant, selfish a*****e that drove away something, that in my
eyes, helped mould me through some formative years into a decent human being,
something almost worthy of being loved. I didn’t deserve
her, and she didn’t deserve me. I was broken. For the next week I
only left the apartment for vodka and orange juice. I took every kind of pill I
could find to numb me. Lithium, Lorazepam, Seroquel, Prozac; all forgotten
pills that were stored in my closet from years of backup prescriptions here and
there. I took handfuls at a time washed down with gulps of vodka. I couldn’t do
anything but lie in bed with the curtains closed, in and out of consciousness,
sweating, obsessing, crying and hating myself. The few times I got up to eat
something I would usually vomit it back up, as if my body was rejecting itself;
it was tired of me as well. When I looked in the mirror all I could see was a
heap of bones and weight, a mass unfairly taking up space reserved for the
inspirational, the people working hard to better themselves and the society
that surrounded them. The battle for my
mind was terrifying, I just wanted to curl up and die. Life was no longer about
hopes or dreams or goals, but about the awful truth that I was living a life
that I no longer cherished. Waking up was a ghastly task, taken over hastily by
the vicious realisation that your day does not, cannot, bring you anything but
regret, anxiety, depression and a longing for change. A change that cannot be
realised through the intrinsic beauty of waking to another day, but one more
day where your mere presence changes nothing. Jade, the one
person who I felt I could fully open up to, who knew my many faults and
breaking points, was now the person who wanted the least to do with me. Over
the coming weeks I was let go from my job for not showing up. I retreated from
any semblance of whom I was and in turn I was left with something that I
thought was so ugly, so deformed, I felt physically ill to be encased in its
skin. I was utterly ashamed and embarrassed, so I told no one; I was good
at hiding emotions after years of practice. I knew I was sick
and getting sicker, but I just couldn’t see past the black. Chapter 7 I had to
run again, as fast as I could, worried that I could hurt myself and thinking
that my problems could once again be resolved geographically. With my last
pay-check I booked a flight and flew to Melbourne to crash on my friend Ben’s
couch. He’s like a brother to me and it was so nice to see him. I never once
mentioned what was going on, I couldn’t understand it and I felt humiliated
just thinking about it. He figured I was down about the breakup and that I
would move passed it, so I left it at that. But I knew the roots of this
darkness reached far deeper; how far I had no idea. Drugs and
alcohol were the only things that made me smile so they became something that
would regulate every part of my day, from getting up to going to sleep. The
world continued to spin, and my life lurched slowly forward, punctuated by
alcohol-induced comas, benzo-stupors and cocaine-fuelled manic binges. It was a
mundane life, constantly waking up to nothing of significance. As Ben would
work days, I’d drink my way through some beers during the day, watching
Australian television, listening to the nasal squeaking they call an accent,
until Ben got home, and we could go out to bars and meet girls. I’d never been
much of a womaniser, more comfortable with stability, but I thought it could get
me passed the idea of Jade with another man. The more, the better, in my mind. On one particularly
off night, a girl with brazen red hair offered me ecstasy, so I obliged. She
put it in my drink as a powder, then we danced, drank and did some more blow.
She latched on to me, following me wherever I went and constantly sitting on my
lap. By the early hours of the morning she took me back to her house in a
drunken daze having no idea where I was going. There are just blurred
photographs, snapshots I guess, in my brain of what happened at her apartment. By
that point I didn’t give a f**k what I took or who I slept with, I just
consumed. I was obsessed with feeding this insatiable dark chasm inside me,
this hellish brute of hate and self-loathing that was beating my soul bloody. I awoke to her
(for the life of me I still can’t remember her name) lying next to me naked. I
tried to inch my way out of the bed ever so slowly as not to wake her, but the
second I moved she turned over. “Good
morning”, she said chirpily, “where are you going?” “Ahh, just
the bathroom,” I said. I hopped up out of bed, put some clothes on and went to
the bathroom to call Ben. “Dude! I
don’t know where the f**k I am or how to get back to your place,” I said as Ben
laughed madly through the phone. “Just ask
her to call you a taxi then I’ll meet you at the pub down the road,” he said. “Bro,
pretty much every guy I know has fucked that chick, good work hahaha” he kept
blurting through the phone. I hung up and walked back to her room, but she wasn’t
there. I walked into the lounge where her flat-mate was sitting then through to
the kitchen to ask her for her address. She was in an apron and about to start
cooking something. “No need
for a taxi, I’ll drive you home, babe,” she declared. “No, really, it’s fine.” “Don’t
waste your money on that. Besides I have pancakes cooking and we’re going to
watch The Labyrinth.” Ugh, The Labyrinth. One of the longest, most boring
movies ever. I seriously hate that
movie. I said okay, reluctantly out of politeness. I spent the next three hours
in comedown hell watching a s****y movie as the town bike cuddled up to me like
we were a couple. I’d never felt so
awkward or sick as she force-fed me pancakes and whipped cream in the most
unappealing, seductive way I could ever imagine. It would take a lot drugs and
alcohol to erase this memory, I thought to myself. After the
movie she dropped me at the pub around the corner from Ben’s and I promised I’d
call her. (I did, by the way, out of politeness once again.) As I walked
through the door to the pub all the boys yelled cheers and bought me a beer. “Now you’re
a true Melbournite,” one of them said. “F**k,” I
replied, trying not to laugh. Chapter 8 It had been
a solid three-day run from that point until I found myself at a brothel at 4am
not knowing how or why I got there. Sleeping with a prostitute had never
entered my mind before, it always seemed ridiculous when you can just have sex
for free. I had been into a couple before with mates who did use them but was
never tempted. I had always felt badly for the girls, so I knew I would hate
myself for it, and in some strange way I craved that. They sat me in a small,
dimly lit black room, with red velvet curtains partitioning one side. One by
one, women dressed in skimpy lingerie came in for me to look at and briefly say
hello. I had to pick one. They were paraded like pieces of meat on hooks at a
slaughterhouse, I felt sorry for them, that they were being demeaned like this,
by me. But it was too late to turn back. I didn't even know if I could if I
tried. I picked
number five. The names they were given at birth had no meaning here. They were
here to be used, anonymously, by filthy men like me fulfilling their lust for
the flesh. When she re-entered the room I looked down ashamedly, I couldn't
look her in the eye. She gently took my hand from my lap and slowly lead me
upstairs. I saw other men doing the same and I wanted to vomit. In my minds-eye
I pictured a cheap motel room, cracked paint, soiled sheets and the ingrained
smell from a thousand sweaty beasts before me. But when the door opened the
room was modern and clean, but sparse and devoid of any character. It suited
its intended use. “Get
comfortable,” she said, as I sat awkwardly on the edge of the bed. “Have you
done this before?” “Ahh… no.” “That’s
okay, you have nothing to worry about, hon.” She could tell I was nervous and
that I was inebriated so her words were slow, soft and deliberate. She was
blonde and buxom, but her true beauty lay in her dark brown eyes, surrounded by
exquisitely long, mascara-laden lashes that curled up ever so slightly at their
ends. “You remind
me of Marilyn Monroe,” I mumbled. “Well,
thank-you,” she said, looking a little surprised. “You’re
welcome” I stuttered. She reassured me that she would be gentle, and I smiled,
trying to hold my head up without it wobbling from side-to-side. She checked me
for STD’s as if I was at the local GP. “Sorry, it’s cold in here,” I said as
she laughed. I had a shower and then she asked me what I was in to. “Uhh… whatever
you like,” I said, my mind was blank. She told me to lie down as she undressed
in front of me. I was so out of my mind I wasn’t even sure if I could get it
up, so I just lay there, fully spread and flaccid. She knelt over me and
straight away knew how to get a drunken man’s dick up and at full attention.
She climbed on top of me, and so began the most awkward, soulless, shameful sex
I had ever had. There was a large mirror placed right above me and for the
first time I caught a glimpse of myself. I looked horrible; beaten and worn. I
suddenly became aware of my surroundings like I had just woken up from a mellow
afternoon daydream, only to realise I was having sex with a f*****g number. I had to
stop, so for the first time in my life I ‘faked it.’ I pulled the condom off
and dumped it in the trash, then retreated to the shower and tried to wash away
the act. As the water coursed over my body my insides churned with disgust. No
amount of scrubbing could clean that dirty feeling; it was a stain that permeated
every part of my body. I came out
and sat on the bed, my head placed in my hands and looking at the floor. "F**k!"
I yelled at the ground. “It's
okay," she reassured me. "Look, you still have twenty minutes left,
would you, maybe, like a massage?” she asked kindly. “Sure, why
the f**k not. This can't get any worse.” Once again, I lay naked on the bed,
face down this time as she oiled my back and shoulders. “Can I ask you some
questions?” I asked her, not knowing fully how she would react. “Sure, if I
can ask you some too.” “Okay. So,
how did you get into this? Do you enjoy it?” She looked younger than me, and I
could tell she was from New Zealand by her accent. “Simple
really, the money was just too damned good to pass up.” She had a sweet, soft
voice; the kind that gives you a lump in your throat when they talk. She was
intelligent, talking about politics, morality in her profession and how
prostitution is recession proof. You could tell she was strong-willed, feisty
and loved what she did. “I have a partner of five years actually, he’s totally
supportive,” she told me. (This was not the picture I had, of some drug-addled,
bottom-feeding crack w***e that every movie I’ve ever seen seems to portray a
prostitute as.) This divergence of honesty triggered an emotional purge in me.
I began to divulge everything that had been happening in my life, spewing forth
a litany of events and emotions, things I had never shared before. I couldn’t
talk fast enough to get out what was jumbled in my head. She listened,
she understood. There was
no judgment, no funny looks. She was gentle, and forgiving. She ran her fingers
through my hair and down my back. It wasn’t sexual, but sensual, like she knew
I was in pain and that this emotional connection was important to me. Her
advice was simple and to the point. “If you
don’t like who or where you are, change something.” I appreciated its
relevance, but its meaning was lost on me. I could barely see the immediate,
let alone try to change it. We finished talking and she told me to look after
myself and to be careful. I gave her a hug. It was the oddest and most
expensive therapy session I’d ever had, but Number Five made me feel human
again, if only for the briefest of moments. Chapter 9 Despite my
feeble attempt at respite in Australia, I returned to Auckland in a worse state
than when I had left it. I took a cab from the airport and once again retreated
into my cave and tried to hide from reality over the coming weeks. I was
drinking a bottle of vodka a day, smoking dope and abusing more prescription
pills. Life was devoid of any real meaning, the only semblance of happiness I
felt was when I was off my face. I created a maze of drugs and alcohol between
myself and the darkness. It would take until morning to find me again. I wrote
letters to Jade, jumbled thought patterns jotted down in a murky haze. In some
warped way I was trying to understand what was happening to me, writing down
how I was feeling, addressed in a vain attempt to someone who I thought could
decipher the ridiculous encryption that had become my life. I thought I was
losing my mind, and I’d never been so scared in my life. I was getting sicker,
but I couldn’t, or wouldn’t, see an out. I sometimes
stopped by a local bar on my way home from picking up booze and cigarettes just
to see the bartender there. It was a grungy, stale place with spilt beer stuck
to the floor and graffiti filling its bathrooms. Live bands played there
sometimes, but that day the place was empty, bar a few regulars who were trying
to win their next run on the pokie machines. I liked it because no one I knew
would ever go in there, and I liked the bartender because she had the balls to
run the bar well without taking s**t from anybody. She was Irish, so she didn’t
mince words and always had a comeback to a sleazy innuendo. She was as pale as
me, with orange hair that she always wore in a bun, her arms covered in
delicate, ornate tattoos and her nose and lip pierced with shiny metallic blue
rings. She was all bravado on the outside, but her gentle, sensitive character
broke through the facade every so often, as I’d sit talking and drinking with
her at the bar. She was into new, hip, underground bands that I had never heard
of, so I tried to school her on some classics. She looked
up at me briefly from cleaning some glasses, her piercing eyeliner screaming ‘wannabe
punk’. “They’re
shite”, she said. “You’re living in the past.” I looked down at my drink. The
ice was half-melted and dying of boredom too. “Sure,” I
replied “but I like the past, I know it, it makes me comfortable. And honestly,
the future kinda scares me.” “Yeah, you
look comfortable, drinking in here at 10pm with bottles of vodka in your bag.
Why don’t you just drink those?” “Sometimes
I just need an ear, and sometimes I just need an earful,” I laughed. I would
drink and talk with her until the bar went quiet and the street outside became
deserted, the only other living souls being the occasional stumbling drunks
like me. She said she liked my ramblings, from politics, war and death, all the
way to my moral compass, which was degenerating rapidly day-by-day. “You’re
f*****g mad,” she’d like to say. “But you
love me nonetheless,” I would slobber, slipping off my chair laughing. “Come
on, let’s drink at my place, it’s just down the road,” I said. “Okay, but
only to get you home in one piece you nutter.” We walked
home quietly, looking at the stars and the half moon. I reached out and held
her hand, gripping it tightly, not wanting to let her go. "Easy
there tiger, there's time enough for that." She cracked me up as we found
our way to my building. We sat on my small balcony and I poured her a glass of
wine and myself a glass of vodka, and we talked some more. I skulled the vodka,
we kissed, had a cigarette and I offered her some pills. She declined, so I
took them instead. I poured another glass of vodka and wine, and we kissed some
more. She took me to the shower, we undressed and then everything went
black. I woke in
the morning with her naked next to me. There were empty glasses on the
nightstands and cigarette butts filling up a glass of dirt brown water. I still
had a crusted condom on my dick so we had obviously had sex, talked and smoked,
but I couldn’t remember any of it. I was shaking uncontrollably and it felt
like I was going to explode. I ran to the toilet to vomit but I just dry
retched blood and bile over the bowl for ten minutes. The shaking grew more
violent, and all I could do was lie on the bathroom floor. She came in and
freaked out, there was blood on the toilet seat and the floor, with saliva
dripping slowly from my mouth. “F**k! Are
you okay?” “Just
f*****g leave! I’m fine.” She grabbed her clothes and ran out the door. I lay
there curled up on the floor for what seemed like hours, shaking and dry
retching. I hadn’t eaten in over a day and I was sure I was finally dying. The
strange thing is, I loved it. I loved every miserable f*****g second of it
because I was feeling something. I
turned to the wall and began hitting it until the skin on my knuckles grazed
and bled. I could feel the
pain. It was just about the only thing left in me. Chapter 10 After that
morning grew into the afternoon, then evening, I knew I had to keep moving. I
was embarrassed and I longed for change, and that somehow placing me in another
country would make everything right again. I told everyone I was moving to
London, on a two-year visa that I had magically procured in a week, and that I
had all the necessary documents to find work there and would be living with
friends. None of
which was true. I was going
to travel to London where I could stay for up to six months as a tourist. I'd
jump from couch to couch, living off money borrowed from my uncle, parents and
my savings and using the fumes of my credit card as my last resort. From there
I could travel Europe, hopping from one visa to the next with no real
destination or end in mind. I went to my psychiatrist to stock up on as many
meds as I could, but it was becoming difficult to hold any meaningful
conversation. I would get lost mid-sentence and forget what I was talking about
most times. Through
this manic, obsessive behaviour I had lost track of where I was. There was no
longer any anchor tethering me to solid ground, I was adrift in a
self-medicated haze in an ocean I had become disillusioned with. I booked
a one-way ticket, packed up my life, put it on my back, left my apartment, told
my family I loved them and departed. No plan, no
visa, no idea of what was in store. I saw myself as a nomad, destined to come
back a changed man or in a body bag. Part 2. Chapter 11 I look up
just as the clock ticks to 5pm. The blanketed grey has morphed into a soft red
hue as the sun sets its light for the day, replaced by the sullen allure of a
London night. I have to get ready to go. I grab a shower, fill my drink bottle
with vodka, do a bump of coke, check my coat pocket for my other gram &
cigarettes and head out. As I open
the door, a familiar friend greets me; the dank, heavy air that is unique only
to London streets, sidewalks and back-alleys during a wet winter. It almost
hugs my skin as I walk, mixed with the subtle waft from local curry houses,
pubs and the human waste that overflows the rubbish bins. The street is cobbled
and quaint, spotted with small muddy puddles and resilient weeds, the remnants
of which I hope date back to the times of Jack the Ripper and oil lamps. I walk
slowly to the tube, sipping my ‘water’ bottle, taking time to soak in my
surroundings. The tube is packed, I’m surrounded by strangers all crowded
together, some so unconcerned with their surroundings they can still read a
book. I want to shove them all away from me; head butt one and cause a huge
scene. But I just sip my ‘water’ bottle, getting odd looks from a few around me
as I smirk and think about how many people I could hurt before a bunch jump me.
I’m eager. It’s almost palpable. I meet up
with friends at some nondescript pub near Brick Lane, and after a quick dinner and
drinks we head to another friend’s party on the top floor of an aging nightclub.
The place is dark and lit with those idiotic eighties black lights, illuminating
everyone’s f*****g teeth. It’s the perfect drug spot though; the place is
teeming with people off their head on all types of s**t. Alcohol, coke, speed,
ecstasy; I grab anything I can get my hands on. The blur of a debauched night
is taking full effect. My mind is no longer wallowing in dark manifestations
but replaced instead by the sudden and all-consuming exhilaration of a heavily
medicated bloodstream. As the
night weaves its inevitable sordid tale, a few of us still standing end up at
my friend Elliot’s flat in Brixton in the early hours of the morning. I
couldn’t tell you how I got here, but the music is loud and the beer’s still
flowing, with stranglers from the party still holding on and newcomers dressed
in chic coats and tight jeans filling the kitchen and living room. I
desperately need a cigarette though. I stumble my way through the gauntlet of foreign
faces, eventually finding a narrow stairwell. Barely holding myself upright I
bump into my friend John who is heading up to the roof for a smoke as well. Clasping
the railing I pull myself up the stairway step by step following him, to the
third floor where his room lays at the end of a darkened hall. As we enter his
room a small table side-lamp illuminates his bed and the open window. “We gotta
climb through the window to the roof,” John says. “Ok,” I
grumble, following his lead, not bothered with the height for some reason, as I
usually can’t stand it. We manoeuvre through the window and pull ourselves up
over the hanging ledge to the roof. It’s a small, flat space filled with
cracked concrete and a couple of plastic chairs in the far corner. We sit down
and light up and I begin telling him about my plans to see Chernobyl. I’m
almost giddy with excitement. “It’s a
whole f*****g city man, left in a sweeping rush. They had no time to pack,
nothing. Car doors are still open and dinner plates still set in the same
place. It’s f*****g crazy. It’s a literal ghost town, where animals have
completely taken over,” I say exuberantly. “Bro, that
sounds fucked up! When are you going?” “Booking
tickets tomorrow, not sure how long it takes to get there though.” Then, as
London nights tend to do with incredible accuracy, rain drops start pattering
our heads, wetting not only us but the cigarettes we have just become accustomed
to; we quickly inhale as much as we can, trying to fill our lungs with their
noxious fumes to savour the feeling and dampen the cravings for a little while.
We head back to the window, now drenched and letting rain into John’s bedroom.
I balance myself over the ledge and reach my toes out until they just barely
touch the windowsill. Looking down all I can see is black, there are no lights
back here and the outside of the window is only faintly illuminated by John’s
lamp. I apply pressure and move all my weight to my toes, but the windowsill is
covered in pools of water and my shoes just can’t grip the wood. They suddenly
slip off and I realise I have nowhere to go but down. I try to grab the piping
latched to the side of the building, momentarily halting my fall. This only
serves the purpose of scraping the skin from my knuckles and giving me a brief
moment to realise I’m falling backwards. My fingers slowly slip off the wet
pipe and I begin free-fall. When no object is holding you and gravity pulls you
towards earth, it happens really f*****g fast; I’d say a second per floor. No matter
how many intoxicants fill my bloodstream, they’re all suddenly overpowered by
an immense rush of pure adrenaline. Nothing slows down, but my senses become
overly active and hyper-alert to everything around me. The air is ice cold and
thin, almost hurting my body as it slices through the rain. All the hair on my
body stands-up, skin tingling as a shiver runs down my spine. The ground is
black beneath me; I can’t see when I’m going to hit it I just know that
eventually I’m going to come to a sudden stop. There’s no tension, but flaccidity
as I gently close my eyes and try to breathe. There’s a sense that no force in
the world can stop me from falling; I feel incredibly alone, scared and
shocked, all in the punch of three seconds. I hit the
ground with speed and explode across the concrete. All I can feel is what seems
to be the weight of the entire fall pressing against me, like the concrete is
somehow tense and elastic and I’m slowly being pushed further into this
immovable object from my own downwards thrust. I hear reverberating cracks
around me, like the sound of a bullwhip. 1! 2! 3! Then the dull sound of
moaning in the distance… is that me? I’m not sure. My body begins writhing and
spasms violently in response to what has just happened to it, but I can’t feel
anything. I can’t even see anything around me it’s so dark. It isn’t real. It
just isn’t, I keep thinking. I’m hallucinating, something’s not right. I hear a
noise from somewhere in the distance, I can’t make out what it is or where it’s
coming from. Then the noise slowly becomes words as I look up. “Tim! Tim!
Holy s**t, are you okay?” All I can see is the dampened light coming from the
window and John’s faint silhouette as raindrops slowly drip on my face. “Ahh, f**k…
I think so,” I yell back. Time has simplified in a way, I’m now painfully
aware of it. I try to move, to sit up, but I just feel nothing. I can move my
head and arms but nothing else. There’s a dull ache in my lower back but nothing
below my hips. I notice that my left leg is draped over my right, like a woman
crossing her legs. It looks odd, as I’ve never been able to do that without
squashing an important appendage. As I keep
looking around, everything slowly becomes illuminated. Faint objects down the
narrow alleyway are beginning to show their form. I notice blood on my hands,
chest and arms but can’t see any anywhere else. I try to move my toes but can’t,
it doesn’t register. I can only feel the cold, the mud and the dull ache. The
steam from my short bursts of breath form dense, puffy clouds like the
exhalation from a cigar puff. I briefly imagine my uncle, sitting there on Christmas
Day puffing away; I try to imitate his accuracy and giggle at the very thought
of it. Steam hovers
around my body as its innate heat reacts with the frigid air, slowly dissolving
as it rises into darkness. The concrete beneath me is freezing, like frozen
glass on a winter morning and my body being fingers pressed against it. At
first there’s a jolt of cold shock, but as the heat and cold mix, a short union
is formed, and condensation starts to mist up the glass window. But if you pull
your fingers from the glass you see the mist dissipate, forgetting most traces
of you, except the oily residue left behind, a permanent reminder of that exact
time and place; an indelible ink that binds you to that moment forever. I know
that in this second, that this place, this feeling, will stay with me for a
long time to come. Chapter 12 John and my
other friend James arrive, kneeling next to me. “I’m fine,”
I say hesitantly. “Don’t move. Can someone call an ambulance!?” I lie still,
talking with James, in and out of the reality that surrounds me. More people
gather down the alleyway; their voices blurring into each other, all looking
horrified and shocked. I close my eyes and try to wish it all away when someone
touches my arm. “Hey mate,
bit of a fall, aye?” A paramedic says, kneeling next to me. I can’t comprehend
what is happening to me, it’s all moving too fast. “I’m so
sorry,” I mumble. “I’m wasting your time. I’m fine. Just need to get up
and move around a bit.” I try to sit up, anchoring my weight on my elbows and
push up. “Don’t
move!” he yells at me. I collapse back onto the concrete and lay my head on the
mud. I feel nauseous and confused. They put a mask over my face and I slowly fall
into a dream-like haze, euphoric from the gas that is now pouring into my
lungs. They start to manoeuvre my limp body onto a stretcher, taking care not
to move my head or spine. People are yelling and telling people to move away.
They place strange contraptions all over my body, things that restrict my every
movement. “Why the
f**k can’t I move my arms!?” I yell. “I’m trapped like this!” I feel irrational
and scared as I have no f*****g idea what is happening around me. They move me
through the house and out the front door to the street. I can hear them cutting
off my clothes. “Get me the f**k out of here. Please, please, please,” I beg.
My body shakes from the cold as they put a blanket over me and heave the
stretcher into the back of an awaiting ambulance and close the doors. All the
ambient noise of the street and people die instantly and is replaced by the
harsh scratches of tearing velcro as they strap my body in. I close my eyes and
dream of the stars, that I can see them above me, infinite in their magnitude.
I drift back and forth, in and out of endless darkness. “Tim you’re
going to have to keep your eyes open, okay? Everything’s going to be fine.
We’re taking you to King’s College hospital, it’s not far away,” I hear someone
say. I open my eyes but keep my fists white-knuckled, until blurs of red light
and specs of white dust start to scrape my cornea and I hear the deafening
screech of sirens as the ambulance takes off in a mad rush. I can hear my
breathing underneath my mask; short bursts of panicked gasps, then nothing. I’m
not sure if I’m breathing or someone else is. I close my eyes and drift again,
it’s my only place of solitude. “Tim, I need you to keep your eyes open, okay?”
one of the paramedic’s yells at me over the deafening sirens. I open them
again, briefly going in and out of consciousness. Someone pulls on my arm as
they setup a drip next to me and run it straight into my vein. I turn to see
James on the other side of the ambulance looking in awe, his eyes wide and his
face pale. “Where are
you taking him again?” James asks. “King’s College Hospital. If you want to
contact any members of his family tell them that’s where he’ll be.” Suddenly
the doors swing open and they lower me out of the back of the ambulance then
push me hurriedly into the emergency room. There’s a crowd of people surrounding
me, each in their own worlds, doing their own specific duties. I can’t quite
hear any one person; it’s a hive of activity as I stare blankly at the ceiling,
feeling prods and pokes and listening to medical terminologies as they bounce around
the room. A doctor leans into my point of vision. “Do you
know your name and where you’re from?” “Tim Hagan,
New Zealand.” I apologise again for the inconvenience I’ve caused. For the next
half hour, I lay there with no clue as to what is going on, stationary in a
whirlwind of ideas and information unfathomable to my untrained ears. It’s
strangely exciting and terrifying at the same time, but I’m not worried. I’m sure
I’d be in surgery by now if it were really bad. I lift my head to look at
my lower body. I’m naked, there’s blood on the sheets around me and I have some
kind of velcroed contraption around my hip area. I breathe in deeply then take
the mask off. "What's
that?" I ask. "That's
a pelvic sling," one of the nurses next to me replies. "It holds
anything that could be broken in one area. We're going to have to remove it to assess
any damage to your pelvic region, okay?” She puts the mask back over my mouth
and gently pushes my head back into the pillow. “Now I want you to take deep
breaths and don’t stop, okay?” I nod. When they release the velcro strap from
the sling, I feel the first shock of pain, like my pelvic area has just been
flattened, similar to when you hold your stomach in then quickly release. Now
I’m really, really scared. People are continually touching my feet, looking for
pulses and squeezing my toes, but I can’t feel much of anything below my
abdomen. I’m not sure if I’m moving my toes as I try. I can feel a strange
pressure, but no movement. My lower body feels like it’s on fire. This is not
happening. I can’t be paralysed. My
breathing suddenly starts to get shorter and more panicked. “I think I'm
hyperventilating,” I mumble to nobody in particular under my mask. My heart
feels like it’s going to burst out of my throat at any moment. I feel sick, dizzy
and confused. I just want to die, right here. "Okay,
Tim, we're going to give you some oxygen. We need you to breathe deeply and
slowly. Everything's going to be fine," a nurse tells me as she leans into
my field of vision. I close my eyes and breathe in slowly, my fists still
clenched. I feel a warm sensation running up my arm as I try to comprehend
where I am, who these people are and why they are doing this to me; putting me
through pain. The warmth spreads throughout my chest and the rest of my body,
easing some of the pain. Chapter 13 "Tim,
we're going to take you to get some scans now, okay? We're going to get you an
x-ray and an MRI so we can have a clearer picture of what’s happening in your
body,” a doctor says. I lie staring at the ceiling, my head unable to move from
being strapped in place. They wheel my bed down some hallways and into a cold,
sterile room. A huge white, cylindrical machine fills the space, it looks
ominous and filled with tales of suffering. "Hi
Tim, I'm James. I'm the MRI technician here." He’s a small, puny man who
mumbles when he talks. He looks like he hasn’t seen sunlight in a decade and
would be able to recite Pi to me in
an instant. "We're going to have to lift you onto this table to take the
scans, okay?” By this point all I can do is try to shake my head in small
instances. Not that they care much. Now they have full autonomy, my mumbles
mean nothing. More people surround the bed, pushing the side handles down and
manoeuvring the sheets under my body. Someone rams a small piece of foam into my
mouth. "Bite down on that," he says. I feel ill just thinking about
it, but slowly bite down. It tastes like styrofoam and fills my mouth
immediately with saliva. They start to slowly lift my limp body onto the
scanning table. I cry desperately for them to stop, to just leave me alone. The
pain is just too unbearable. If you can imagine a pain that seems to rupture
every blood vessel in your body, that emanates and vibrates seemingly through
every molecule of your being, then this was it. I bite down harder on the piece
of foam but it does nothing. My teeth pierce into my tongue and a rush of warm
blood fills my mouth. I spit out the bloodied piece of foam and try to scream,
but nothing comes out, I have no breath left. Spots form in my vision and
everything goes blurry. I close my eyes. "Tim!
I need you to keep your eyes open, okay. I know it's painful, but you need to
stay awake." “F**K YOU,”
I say to no one in particular. “You’re doing this to me.” “I need you
to lie as still as possible,” the technician says. He positions my head in some
sort of brace that feels like an ice hockey helmet. He slides two wedges
underneath my head and neck to stop them from moving. I’m now motionless on the
cool slab and am trapped. I just want this to be over. "I'm going to put
these ear plugs in your ears, Tim. The machine can get quite loud. But don't
worry, it's all perfectly normal and part of the process." He smooshes
them into the folds of my ears leaving me to lie there with the dull hum of my
inner ear and confusion. I can hear my breathing again, fast and short, my body
almost racing to catch-up to the oxygen it needs. Outside the hospital walls
the air is wet and dewy, almost soaking into your skin. Inside the hospital ER
it’s warm, but that fake, stale, air-conditioned warmth. It smells like the
steam from heated ammonia and urinal cakes. But inside this room the air’s crisp
and cold to the touch. This mix of pain, disorientation and sharp chill is an
assault on all my senses. Then all of
a sudden, it’s quiet, deadly quiet. The staff have filtered out of the room and
I’m alone. A voice comes over the intercom. "Alright
Tim. I'm going to need you to stay completely still for me. The MRI will start,
and you'll slowly be moved backwards into it. When I ask you to not breath you
need to hold it in until I say you can exhale." This is fine with me as
whenever I breathe it hurts. "Shall we start?" “Just get
it done.” The machine suddenly comes alive, pulsating and rotating around my
head with a sound that can only be described as a Jedi's light sabre as it
slices through the air. The table begins to move my body backwards, into the
chamber. It’s a white, sterile cave, claustrophobic and menacing. It starts blaring,
loud screeches that seem to go on for minutes. It churns its way around me,
scanning my body for abnormalities. I just want to vomit. "Hold
your breath now Tim," he blurts over the loud speaker. "Not long to
go." The drugs they gave me for the pain are slowly wearing off and it begins
to get so intolerable that my mind in some way shuts off. I can feel the pain,
but it feels distant now, almost ethereal, like my head is no longer attached
to my body, but I can feel its phantom ache below me. My eyes begin to flicker,
faster and faster, until I can’t keep them open any longer. Everything goes
black. Chapter 14 When I come
to, I’m back in the emergency room, with James and John sitting next to my bed.
A nurse is pumping more morphine into my arm as I inhale the nitrous oxide that
has been given to me in a seemingly endless supply. I pull the mask off and
slowly catch my breath to talk. "What
time is it?" "10am,"
says James. “You guys
look f*****g awful,” I say between inhales. By this point everyone is coming
down from no sleep, drugs and alcohol. “You can
f*****g talk,” James says laughing. Once the nurse leaves I let them take
inhales of the nitrous over the next hour, letting its euphoric qualities and
pain relief help their comedown. At this point I’m naked and covered in a
sheet, only able to move my arms and head. Everything below my chest is on fire
with constant pins and needles that feel like sharp, tiny knife stabs. A cold
pack lays gently on my forehead, but the sweat keeps pouring out of me onto the
pillow anyway. "Do
you think they have panadol here?" James asks. “It's a
f*****g hospital, I'm sure they have paracetamol,” John moans quietly as he lays
his head on the wall in the corner. He asks a nurse for some with a glass of
water. "Technically,
all medicines are for the patients, sir." "Yeah
but I've got a killer headache, you'd really be doing me a favour. Surely you
have some just lying around somewhere?" John and I laugh; it’s vintage
James at his finest, a lawyers’ mind with about the same amount of charm. Just
as he finishes his sentence a doctor comes to my bedside. "Hello,
Timothy. I'm Dr. Kumar, one of your treating physicians. We have your scans
back and it's good news, considering." I take the mask off and let out a
sigh of relief and for the first time feel like I can breathe on my own.
"You are very, very lucky, Timothy. The good news is we found no sign of
internal bleeding or ruptured organs. You may have a concussion but you’re alert
and holding conversations well, which is good. However, you have severely
fractured your pelvis. Unfortunately, your right leg has impacted into your
pelvic cavity, and your pelvis has fractured completely in two places,
ostensibly splitting it in half here and here,” he shows us holding the x-ray up
to the light as we all sit mesmerised by what we are seeing. “It also has
smaller, hairline fractures throughout it, but your bladder is still intact
which is very rare in cases such as this." I close my eyes and breathe in
deeply, trying to piece his words together without losing focus. Inhale,
exhale, repeat, I keep thinking. “Your right
femur has impacted four inches into your pelvic cavity, Timothy. This has
caused the separation fracture in the right side of your pelvis. I think you
landed on your right leg and it took most of the impact, then you fell back
onto your left side fracturing that part of the pelvis. It’s remarkable that
your leg is not broken anywhere. You are very, very lucky,” he keeps saying. "What
about feeling in my legs? Will I be able to feel them again?” I ask. “We’re
hopeful that once we move the right leg back into place and realign your pelvic
fractures blood flow should resume as normal. But this may not happen until we
have operated, and we don’t yet know when that can be. Right now, we need to
put your leg into traction to pull it down and back into place." "Okay,
do whatever you have to,” I say hurriedly, not wanting to waste any time. "We’ll
need to drill a hole through your shin bone, just under your knee, and put a
small metal rod through which will then be harnessed to weights that will hang
over the end of your bed. With the right amount of weight, it should pull your
leg back into place. It’s important we do it as soon as possible, so we need do
it right here in the ER. You’ll be given a local anaesthetic and pain relief
and it shouldn't take long." “What? Are
you kidding me? I don't want to be awake for that. Can't I have a general
anaesthetic?" I ask. "I'm
afraid not, we don't have time. It will be uncomfortable, but we will manage
your pain. You won't feel anything in your leg." "Okay...
Just get it done,” I say with a sigh. I look to my left at John and James’
faces. They look exactly like how I feel, wide-eyed and shocked. Minutes later
two other doctors come into the cubicle and shut the curtains. They barely say
a word to me after quick introductions. They have a cart with them, filled with
medical equipment. “Should we
be in here for this?” James asks. “It’s fine,
as long as Mr. Hagan doesn’t mind,” one says. “Stay,” I
say to James with a firm look. “Tell me what’s going on.” "You're
going to feel a slight pinch," one of them says to me as he lifts up a
needle then injects it into my shin. The other one fiddles with the nitrous
oxide machine then places the mask over my face. "Breathe
deeply and don't stop," he tells me. F**k, here we go again. I inhale for
as long as I can until I’m euphoric and can’t feel much of anything anymore.
James and John watch intently. “What’s
going on?” I ask. “Ahh… not
sure really…” I hear one of the doctors start the drill and test its rotation
and speed. F**K THIS. This is just out-of-this-world, batshit insane. Then
suddenly there’s a slight burn and an odd pressure as the drill breaks skin. It
tingles. But as it hits bone the pressure changes, like if a pencil is slowly
being pushed through my leg. The sound is awful; it reminds me of someone
trying to drill through a slab of wood. The drill keeps stalling, slowing down
its rotations like it’s running out of battery. I lift my head slightly to look
and see the guy jamming the f*****g thing into my leg, perched over me like he’s
holding down someone drowning, tensing up and pushing as hard as he can. Once
it gets through the bone it easily slips out the other side. My head falls back
into the pillow and once more I inhale deeply. In the haze I can feel a sharp
tug and a gradual movement of my leg as I hear them apply weights one by one to
the harness that is now through my shin. It’s like I’m slowly being pulled down
the bed, but as I look around I realise I’m not moving at all. My leg feels
heavy and stretched, like someone is trying to pull me off the bed by my ankle.
I keep inhaling. "You're
bloody lucky to be alive bro," James keeps reiterating. I suppose I am.
But I don’t really care either way at this point. The blood on my hands has
dried and cracked, and there’s pooled blood all over the sheets from wounds on
my side, legs and elbows. I can’t see all of them, but I can feel them oozing
and sticking to the sheets. All I want to do is go into surgery, get knocked
out, drilled and stapled; whatever the f**k they have to do to get me into some
semblance of my former self. I need desperately to feel my legs again; if I
have that I’ll be fine. I just want
to get out of here; this is not my plan. Travel is to be my saviour. I’m still
intent on going to Chernobyl. Broken bones and f*****g hospitals are not part
of this. Besides, I’ve broken bones before from a youth spent skateboarding.
Eight weeks tops to recover. Then I can be on my way, with maybe a slight limp
in tow, and forget that any of this ever happened. Chapter 15 After a
couple of hours and several morphine doses later, a porter comes shyly into my
cubicle. “Hey, Mr.
Hagan, I’m going to be transferring you to the orthopaedic ward." "What
about surgery?" I ask. "Your
doctor will talk with you once we get up there.” He releases the clamps that are
holding the wheels of my bed stationary with a swift kick and hangs the drip
attached to my arm from the side of the bed. James and John gather their things
and follow. He weaves me through the hospital’s hallways, gliding around
corners and waving hello to passers-by. He’s overly jovial and obviously knows
the hospital intimately, anticipating every obstacle, every turn. He buzzes the
doors open to the orthopaedic ward, then around the corner and into the acute
unit, bed four. Bright blue disposable curtains partition me from the other
three people in the room. There’s a strange hum about the place; people
hurrying around, machines beeping, patients’ buzzers blaring. It’s oddly alive.
James and John sit with me as the porter positions me into place. We sit
staring at each other and the commotion around us, and can’t help but laugh,
it’s all we can do at this point. “What the
f**k have you gotten yourself into, Hagan,” James says wryly. “This is my
vacation I guess. Drugs and lying down, it doesn’t really sound bad, actually”
I say mockingly. They're good friends who know how to make light of the
situation, which keeps my mind off of more serious matters. “F**k, I should
call Georgia, she's probably wondering where I am.” James finds my phone, which
is in a small plastic bag with all my other belongings next to my bed. He
already has my camera, which had been in my back pocket when I fell; it’s scratched
and dented but operational. "I've
been taking pics of everything the whole time,” James tells me. “For posterity.”
“Good man,”
I reply. I find
Georgia's number and dial. The phone rings once. “TIM! WHERE
THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN!” she yells as she answers. “Hey, I’m in hospital. I fell off a building
and broke my pelvis.” There’s silence for a few seconds. “Wait. You
did what!?” I explain
it to her again and she asks what hospital. “King’s
College.” “I’ll be
there soon.” She hangs up the phone. When she
arrives at first I hear her voice, then out of the corner of my eye I see her
moving slowly around the blue curtain; she’s dead white and shocked. I laugh
and smile, as my only response at this point is to joke about the situation,
and I thought she would feel the same. But it isn’t laughter, it’s tears; tears
at seeing her friend like this. I can only see outwards, and for me it doesn’t
look that bad. Looking in at me though, surrounded by tubes, bloodied sheets
and weights hanging from my leg, it must be distressing. She slowly moves
toward me and up to the side of the bed. "Can I
hug you?" she asks, wiping her eyes with a shaky hand. "Of
course.” It’s an embrace that’s comforting; it calms me and gives me an
undeniable sense that everything will be all right. My friends are here. I need
to show them that I’m going to be fine, better than fine, so they don’t have to
worry, especially Georgia. I realise that any of the hard stuff to come will
lay solely on me, and I have to be strong enough mentally and physically to
deal with it. The darkness has temporarily been replaced with physical pain,
and I know I can deal with the physical. The mental is going to be another
story. But I’m surrounded by people who I know I can trust implicitly, who are
happy to be my network in a foreign country. I feel
strong. Chapter 16 "Timothy,
how are you feeling?” It’s Dr. Kumar again as he closes the blue curtains
behind him. He’s followed by the two trigger-happy drill doctors. “Uncomfortable
and in a lot of pain,” I say unforgivingly. Georgia, James and John line the
other side of the bed: my backup. He nods his head and examines the weights and
harness. “I think we
need to add one more,” he tells the other two. "When
will I have surgery?" I ask hastily. “I can’t stay like this for much
longer.” "Unfortunately,
right now your body is too swollen to undergo any type of surgery. We will have
to wait a couple of days. In the meantime, you need to rest." “Rest!? How
can I rest when my pelvis is in pieces and my leg is held in place by a bunch
of f*****g rudimentary weights?” I snap at him. “Timothy, I
know you’re uncomfortable, but it’s too dangerous to operate while the swelling
is like this. On a scale of one to ten, ten being the worst pain you’ve ever
felt, what is your pain level?" "Twelve.
It's unbearable, and it’s getting worse it seems. My lower body stings all over
but I can’t feel or move anything. Will that get better?” "That's
to be expected. We will know more once we can see what’s happening in there.
I'll check with the nurse about your pain medications. We will give you as much
morphine as needed to make you comfortable throughout the night. I’ll check
back with you in the morning and we’ll go from there, okay?” I nod
sheepishly. “Take
care.” A nurse
enters after they leave to check my blood pressure and change my saline drip. "I'm
afraid visiting hours are over. You'll have to come back in the morning, he
needs rest,” she states. I say goodbye to John, James and Georgia and harden my
mind for anything that could come. But I’m terrified. I can’t stop shaking. I
ask the nurse about getting my psychiatric medications, but she has no
definitive answer as of how to get them. I can’t remember what dosages I need
either, but it worries me to think of going another night without them. I know
I can go downhill fast when I don’t take them, but hopefully the morphine will
help me sleep. Saline is
hydrating my body and for the first time I can feel my bladder filling up. A
nurse placed a container next to my bed that I can use to urinate. I pick it up
and lift my head as far as I can, trying to manoeuvre it under the sheets to a
place where I think my dick is. I’m not even sure if it’s in the right place,
the whole area is so swollen and stings to the touch. I try to squeeze out a
small amount, but the pain is just too unbearable. They told me my bladder was
bruised during the fall and this may happen, so I call for a nurse as my
bladder continues to grow bigger over the next hour. I have continual urges to
urinate, but no release valve. She tells me to try and push harder so I push
until I’m red and sweat-soaked. The sheets underneath me are itchy and
uncomfortable and my frustration is about to boil over. My bladder is like a
balloon slowly being inflated with water, filling my pelvic cavity and pushing
against my broken bones. The pain gets more and more excruciating. "I can't
f*****g do this!" I yell. "Please, please, I need a catheter.
Please.” "Okay,
I'll find a doctor," the nurse says as she runs out of the room. I wait. It feels
like I’m going to burst. I’m watching the clock; five minutes, ten minutes,
fifteen minutes... It becomes f*****g ridiculous. After half an hour a doctor
rushes in and authorises the catheter. By this stage any semblance of privacy is
relegated to my own thoughts, while my body is seemingly open for business. One
nurse lifts up my gown as I lay there, naked, red and swollen in front of three
perfect strangers. Through the pain of my bulging bladder I barely notice the
catheters insertion, but as it drains, oh, the release! I breathe in deeply and
let out a pained sigh as urine and blood leave my body, slowly moving through a
small tube to fill a bag that is now hanging from the side of my bed. A
nurse administers morphine through a tube that is now running into my hand and
they close the curtains, turning off the lights in the room as they leave. The only
light that peaks through comes under my curtain; a warm, slightly reddish hue
that emanates from somewhere outside and dies slowly at the foot of my bed. It
lets me make out shapes and objects in the room, but not much else. I try to
sleep, to close my eyes, but I can’t stop sweating. The room feels like heaters
are surrounding my cubicle, pumping hot air over my already burning body. I’m
lying in what feels like warm, stagnant puddles as the sweat pools in the small
of my back and soaks through the sheets beneath me. My pillow is saturated, and
I can’t get comfortable. I’m wallowing in a pit of comedown drugs, surreal
exhilaration from the morphine and the throbbing sting of my bloated body
wanting to thrash about. I can’t move anything apart from my arms and head and
I smell like festering meat and urine. I hold the sidebars of the bed tightly;
I keep having short, potent visions that I’m falling again; falling through the
bed, off the bed, just falling. I need my body to writhe, to release this
disgusting energy that’s pent up inside my head and chest. But all I can do is lay
there, grip the bed and bite my already bloodied tongue in an attempt to ease
these insufferable urges. I’m going f*****g crazy. I begin
buzzing the nurse consistently for hours, needing more and more pain meds.
Every half hour she doses me again, and twenty minutes later I’m buzzing her
again. All I can do is thrash my head from side to side to take my mind off of
the pain. She gives me a small piece of foam to bite down on as she gently wipes
my forehead. "I've
asked the doctor to prescribe you something stronger, okay? Just hang in
there." She comes back with a syringe; it’s a mean looking m**********r
that looks like it could put down an elephant. "This is Fentanyl, it's a
lot stronger than morphine. It'll help with the pain." She jabs the needle
into my shoulder then slowly pushes down on the syringe and I die an
instantaneous, black, mothball death. It’s sinister and utterly
electrifying, a brutal force of synthetic opiate bliss. It’s exactly what my
body is crying out for. It stops the clawing in my brain and replaces it with
deep, cavernous trenches of hallucinatory dreams, falling into endless pits of
cold black. My eyes
wearily open in the morning, blurred and spotty. There’s movement around me and
talking. I’m still in a dream. I can see and hear, but I can’t speak. Nurses are
changing the sheets beneath me and asking me questions. I try to move my mouth,
but nothing comes out. I’m still high as f**k. I close my eyes again and
someone that sounds miles away asks me what I want for lunch. The question
itself materialises in my mind and I can see it bouncing around from one part
of my brain to the other, growing faster and faster, but I just can’t answer
because my mouth is full of spit and it takes all of my focus to just swallow.
I open my eyes again and there are doctors surrounding my bed. I notice it’s
Dr. Kumar and he’s talking about my surgery. I nod consistently, not fully
being able to understand everything he’s saying, but hearing enough pertinent
words to give me the overall gist. After a few minutes he hands me a clipboard
with pen and paper and motions for me to sign my consent for surgery. I
scribble my name down then lay back in my pillow, not being able to hold my
eyes open a moment longer. Once again, I pass out. I wake suddenly,
shocked and scared, not knowing where I am. My eyelids are heavy, and my
eyesight blurred; it’s like it takes a minute to blink. Everything seems to be
in a kind of romanticised slow motion, things are constantly happening around
me, but my mind is unaware of their meaning or context. I can hear my heart
beat, moving from a rapid pace to a slow, pulsating murmur. I want more; more
drugs to keep this feeling, I never want to go back into feeling any more pain.
I just can’t stand the thought. I buzz the nurse and ask her for more. She comes
back with a syringe full of morphine that has to be taken orally. She checks my
wristband, I recite my name and birthdate, she then places it in my mouth and
squeezes. It’s a strange taste, numbing my tongue with a hint of boysenberry as
it washes over my taste buds as I swallow it. I lick my lips and swirl my
tongue around my mouth, savouring every last drop. I can feel it moving down my
throat and into my chest, then slowly being released into my bloodstream. It’s
a warm, welcome hug that envelopes me whole. My sheets have been changed and
the nurses have washed me, all while I was unconscious. I lie in bed and begin
to watch as the morphine soaks slowly into me. The back of
my bed can only be lifted to 20 degrees, so that’s my viewpoint for the
foreseeable future. I quickly notice that the man lying directly across the
room from my bed is staring straight at me, wide-eyed and intense. He’s
African, with spotted dark skin and bones where muscle should be. He lets out a
huge smile, filled with missing yellow teeth and built up calcium deposits. “Hey!” he
yells across the room while waiving. I wave back, not quite sure what the
proper etiquette is for such a scenario. I watch him intently for an hour. He’s
a shady character with a quiet demeanour, almost whispering when he talks to
nurses, so they have to lean in, as if he’s telling them a dirty secret. I
nickname him ‘Echo’ after the character from the show Lost. I don’t know why, but his mysterious nature reminds me of
that character. You can tell he’s the bane of the nursing staff straight away.
He’s constantly buzzing them with inane requests; it’s hilarious to watch. He
asks for a plastic urinal, and once given one, then proceeds to piss in a coke
can and give it back to the nurse. He’s psychotic, but in a strangely sweet
way, as the nurses sometimes walk away giggling and shaking their heads in
disbelief. He repeatedly tries to get out of bed even after the nurse has
scolded him previously. He has casts around his hips and leg and can’t walk
anywhere, but that doesn’t stop his determination. He tries picking his cast
off, bit by bit until the nurses catch him, then lays back into his pillow with
his hands behind his head in a show of smug defiance. All he does is wave at
me, smile or wink and say, “Hey!” like I know what the hell he’s going on
about. I try not to laugh as it’s painful, but he’s the kind of enigmatic
person that interests me to no end. I ask a passing nurse what has happened to
him and she quietly tells me he fell off his girlfriend’s balcony while trying
to climb up to her window as she had just broken up with him. He was found by
police in the garden trying to climb the fence to get away, even with a
fractured hip and femur. The girlfriend had pressed charges and he was formally
arrested in his hospital bed. He’s to appear in court once he’s up to moving,
so he has a security guard who checks on him every hour or so. He seems to be
the subject of every gossiping nurse, whether you ask about him or not. He’s a
welcome distraction in the acute ward it seems. Once dinner
is served and taken away, and visitors filter out from the wards, silence
becomes painfully apparent. The bright blue paper curtains that surround every
bed for ‘privacy’ are drawn and segregation takes effect. From a bustle of
activity and movement comes slowly dimmed lighting, faint talking in the
hallways, beeps from machines and the odd murmured sigh of pain, snoring or
hushed crying. My world for this moment exists in this room, this space, this bed.
Everything outside of it is left to my overactive, exceedingly demoralized
imagination. I can create any world I need, the more dismal the better to make
my small space more of a safe haven. In my mind’s eye the outside ward is bleak
and derelict, a dystopian wasteland filled with the gaseous odour of rotting,
burnt flesh and bleach rising from the sprawling morgue that lies just below
the hospital floors. There they take the bodies of the unidentified sad souls
who have passed from this side to the next, whether laying in a hospital bed in
the emergency room or dumped carelessly at the hospitals doors by overwhelmed
substance abusers, to be burned in a fiery pit, leaving no sign of their
previous existence or identifiable markers, as if they never existed. The walls
throughout the wards are covered in coagulated, dry blood, running through an
intertwining maze of corridors that lead you on a convoluted journey, merely
ending up where you began. ”There is
no escape!” I mumble, my eyes brightening at the mere thought. Doctors wear
masks and slip-on shoe socks to hide their noise as they sift from room to
room, injecting the sleeping innocent with vials of acid and watching their
skin rot from the inside in a cruel game created by the bored, psychopathic
night shift. The
morphine and lack of psych meds is clearly taking its toll. My mind is warping
into these strange, unknown places, but I let it go free. It takes me out of my
situation and makes me almost giggle as the scenarios became more and more ridiculous.
But deep down I know I have to try to comprehend my predicament, to try to
understand something, anything, about this situation. I close my eyes and begin
to think about the past, trying to pick up pieces of information scattered
amongst drunken thoughts that may have had a direct effect on where I now lay. Chapter 17 My head and
shoulders jump up suddenly; I’m awake. It’s the middle of the night and I’m
screaming. I’m falling again. My left hand grips the hospital bed; white, numb
and shaking vigorously, while my right arm swings sideways, knocking the water
jug that lies on the side table. The pain is insufferable. I’m saturated with
sweat and terrified. I try to remember where I am, but it still feels like I’m
falling. A nurse runs in and tries to calm me down. She’s sweet and
understanding, but it doesn’t help. “The bed’s
moving! Please, make it stop!” I yell. She pads the sweat around my face and tells
me where I am and that I’m okay, the bed is not moving. I’m shaking
uncontrollably, and I feel nauseous. I just want to get up and run to the
toilet to release the vomit that is now filling the back of my throat, but all
I can do is lean forward and convulse as it spews out of my mouth, down my chin
and onto my hospital gown. I drive my head back into the pillow, gripping the
side of the bed as all my muscles suddenly contract again. I keep falling. I try
to catch my breath as she wipes vomit from my face but once again everything goes
black. When I awake
in the morning my hand is still firmly gripping the bed. I can smell a hint of
vomit and my own stale body odour, but my chin has been wiped clean and my gown
changed. My lips are dry and cracked, with remnants of boysenberry still caked
into their corners. I immediately buzz a nurse for more pain relief. She comes
back with the syringe, we repeat the same ritual of me saying my name and date
of birth, I swallow, making sure I swirl my tongue to the farthest reaches of
my mouth, so not to miss a single drop. I slowly lay my head to rest on my
pillow and once again am forced to simply watch. A hospital
is such a strange place, a weird dichotomy filling the gap between life and
death. Everyday, human lives are saved and lost. Daughters. Sons. Brothers. Sisters.
All people who mean something to someone, somewhere. And this building houses
all that pain, that suffering, that joy, that relief. It’s a place where human
life is measured, and for the briefest of moments, understood. For that reason,
it is both loved and hated, because in essence it is the battleground that
represents the frailty of our existence. Understanding
these small subtleties as they pass through your mind while on morphine requires
a lot of imagination. If you hit the perfect amount of opiate to blood, you can
transcend the physical and open a whole new level of consciousness. All pain
washes away and you’re left in a milky, soft fog, with nothing but the
limitless potential of your own mind. I close my
eyes and begin to wander, through dreams and ideas, from the macabre to the
spiritual. Through a world far more intricate, far more vivid than anything I
have ever experienced. I dream of an idea of god, a universal power far greater
than myself that has granted my wish to be rid of this constant grey. My
thoughts begin to materialise and are swept up in a wind of pure exhilaration,
morphing from the whisper of an idea to a tangible reality that exists only in
the shadowy recesses of my imagination. It’s winter
and I’m in Iowa, at our family farm. I’m standing in a corn field, looking out
at miles of flat, uninhabited frozen earth, covered with the remnants of
rotting corn husks left behind from the fall harvest. I’m alone, naked and
freezing, the only sound coming from my toes as they dig into the dirt, trying
to find shelter from the cold. My face and ears burn as the winds brake against
my body. I can feel my heart pounding in my throat as I look up to a darkening
sky, vast, brooding and swollen from the weight of impending rain. Its clouds
form in a hurried splash of dyed colour and black ink, releasing a flood of
liquid that falls seamlessly to earth. As its ink washes over me, the spiritual
world begins to move around me, through me. I’m connected to everything and
everything to me. I matter. Cracks form on my skin as my body slowly freezes; I
begin to understand my own significance, that I’m a tiny part of something far
more lucid than the complicated world I have always recognised. There is no
more pain, no more cold, no more hurt. I’m a mass of blackened bone and blood.
As my bones shatter beneath me I’m scattered amongst the dirt; the earth
digesting all that was before, leaving only ethereal traces of who I once was,
soon blown away and distributed among the fields to grow into something far
more substantial. When I open
my eyes, it feels like no time has passed. My legs and feet are swollen and
throb; the morphine is wearing off. I look at the clock and almost two hours
has passed. Suddenly, everything is so dull and drab. All the vivid colours,
all that strange spiritual transcendence has been replaced by bland white and grey
again. A nurse comes to the end of my bed and pinches my toes without saying a
word. She frowns, writing something in my chart then leaves as abruptly as she
appeared. I tilt my head forward to look at my lower body for the first time in
two days. I’m worried. It feels like it’s still frozen. I bite down on my lower
lip in anticipation and lift the bed sheet. Everything looks alien; a fat,
bloated balloon of a body. A mass of built up fluid and stretched red skin.
Everything ‘s bruised and purple. The trauma to my body hits me like a punch to
the jaw; it’s overwhelming. My right leg is at a strange angle with my foot
pointing outward, but I just can’t move it back into place, no matter how hard
I try. I follow the harness that’s drilled through my shin down the bands of stretched
rubber that disappear over the end of the bed, holding the hanging weights that
keep my leg aligned. I want to touch it all, feel it all, to let me know if it’s
all actually real. I lift my
hand from its grip of the bedside railing and begin to slowly move it down my
body. It’s electric, small shots of pain rush from the point of contact almost
through my fingertips as they brush against my skin. I move my hand over
the swollen lump that used to be my pelvis and down to touch my dick for the
first time. I’m deadly afraid that there’s something wrong with it as I haven’t
felt it move since the accident. It’s flaccid but feels stiff on the inside,
the aftermath of the catheter that now runs from my bladder, through my dick,
into a hanging bag. But I can feel it. I can’t move it, but I can feel it. I
breathe deeply with relief. I wait for the nurse to come back to check my
temperature to ask her if it’s normal to have a catheter. “I mean,
will I ever be able to get an erection again?” I ask sheepishly. “With any
serious trauma, different parts of the body can be affected in different ways.
It just takes time for the shock to wear off and the body to adjust. It’s
perfectly normal, don’t worry.” Perfectly normal is not something I would
usually associate with this, but it’s comforting nonetheless. She walks around
the bed to take my temperature and as she does she gently knocks the weights
that are hanging from my leg. I let out a pained sigh as they begin to sway,
twisting my leg from left to right. She reaches for them as I hear a loud thud,
the right side of my body suddenly jumping backwards. “F**K!” She’s
pained to try and not yell as she scrambles with the weights that have fallen
to the floor. Two more nurses run over and they slowly put each weight back on,
one by one. Are they f*****g serious? What’s holding them on? Fishing chord? I
bite down on my lip as my right side slowly moves back down the bed. “I need
some morphine.” Chapter 18 Dr. Kumar is
back an hour later with his team to talk with me. They close the curtains and
stand around my bed, overwhelming the space. They appear larger than normal,
towering over me with their long, looming gazes. They know so much more about
my condition than I do; it pisses me off. They’re so slow and deliberate with
explaining things, like I’m a child. Just f*****g tell me! I think in some way
they got off on the power of controlling the flow of information. I’m always
the last person to know anything it seems. “Timothy,
today we will be performing a rather complicated surgery on your pelvis and
right leg.” “Today?” I
say surprised. Dr. Kumar holds up an MRI then an x-ray of my pelvis and begins
to guide me through it, step by step. “Your
pelvis has fractured here and here, splitting it in two places. Your right leg
has impacted into your pelvic cavity here.” It looks bizarre, strange that this
mess exists in my body. “We need to operate on you to see the full extent of
the damage though. We will be using a keyhole camera to assess this. Our plan
is to re-attach your pelvic fractures with two screws. These two screws will be
permanent. Depending on how well this works we will decide at the time between
two options. If the bone is too badly fractured, we will have to fuse the bones
together with metal plates. This will involve creating an incision across your
lower abdomen and screwing the plates into place. This is the more severe of
the two options. As these plates will be permanently fixed to your pelvis, the
healing process will be a lot longer and your movement will be restricted
indefinitely.” F**k me. What will I become? Some gimp using a cane at the
ripe age of twenty-five? It’s not like I’m any Adonis to begin with, but surely
a walker will further hurt whatever chances I have with the ladies that I
already cling desperately onto. “Okay…” I
say, taking a deep breath in. “The second
option is a newer treatment, it’s called an ‘X-fix’. Think of it like
scaffolding on a building. Two metal bars will be screwed into the left and
right sides of your pelvis. These bars stick out through your skin and attach
to two adjoining bars that will clamp together, forming an ‘X’ shape. These
will be outside of your body, positioning your pelvis in the best place to
heal. It will stay in for at least three months.” Three months? Through
my skin? Scaffolding? I can’t tell if my body is a temple being refurbished or
they’re turning me into bionic man. Either way I’m fucked. “This is the
preferred option as it will let your pelvis move around as it heals, which will
mean less recovery time and far greater mobility in the future.” “What about
walking? When will I be able to walk?” I say eagerly. “It all
depends on the extent of the damage and we won’t know until we operate. But it
will be at least three months until you can stand. Once your pelvis has been
moved back into place and your right leg adjusted, blood flow should return to
normal and hopefully you will get more feeling in your legs. It all just takes
time for the body to adjust after such a shock to its ecosystem.” A rush of
nausea fills my body; I can feel it in the back of my throat as my mouth dries
to a paste. I want my parents, I need their maternal strength. “We’ll give
you some time to go over it and take it in. In the meantime, you have some
friends waiting outside. We’ll come and prep you this afternoon. Everything
will be okay, you are in the best of hands,” he says, laying his hand gently on
my shoulder. I nod, scared shitless. Georgia and
James come in. “I don’t
want to call Mum & Dad until after the operation. They’ll just worry,” I say.
I know it will be hard on them both, especially Mum. She worries about me being
overseas by myself and I know it will be a huge shock for her. Plus, it was her
birthday yesterday. F**k, I totally forgot. “Well, you
have to call her for her birthday anyway, right? Plus, what if something
happens in the surgery? Don’t you think it’d be better if they knew?” Georgia’s
right, and deep down I agree, but I’m not sure how to do it. “Yeah, I
guess so.” I want to be strong for them, to let them know I’m okay, that I can
handle all of it on my own. I pick up my phone and dial. Mum answers, and
instantly her voice makes everything all right. She calls for Dad to get on the
other phone. They scramble in true Hagan fashion about the whereabouts of said
phone for about a minute then finally centre themselves on the task at hand. It’s
an odd relief, hearing their banter. It’s funny how no matter how old you are,
how independent or how headstrong, in incredibly hard situations you often fall
back into being a vulnerable child, looking to your parents for the answer to
all the worlds ills when things just don’t make sense anymore. “I’ve got
something I need to tell you. Don’t worry, I’m fine, but I’m in
hospital.” “Oh god,
what happened!” Mum lets out. She has heard these words before. “Umm, I
fell off a balcony and broke my pelvis.” I don’t want to let them know how
far I fell or how serious it is, it will just make them more worried. “I’m
honestly fine. I have to have surgery this afternoon though. Routine
surgery.” “Oh, Tim!
Are you ok?” “I’m really
fine. Look, you don’t need to worry. I’ve broken bones before.” I try to
ease their concern as best I can, but anything I say doesn’t really matter. I can
hear it in their voices. I can’t comprehend how they must feel, but I can’t
focus on that. “Please, don’t worry. James and Georgia are with me. I’m
honestly fine. And I know this is a weird time to say it, and I’m sorry I
missed it, but Happy Birthday, Mum. I’m sorry I couldn’t do more.” “Oh, don’t
worry about that! I knew something was wrong though when I hadn’t heard from
you. Motherly instinct,” she says, almost proudly. “I’ll call
you after the surgery. I love you.” “Ok… We
love you too. Can you put James or Georgia on for a minute?” I pass the phone
to James and he calms their anxiety, knowing he’s here and can be a go-between.
He gives them his number and tells them he will keep them updated. I feel tears
welling up in my eyes, but I don’t want to show it in front of Georgia and
James. I just can’t seem to shake the feeling of being incredibly alone again,
thousands of miles away from my family. My friends in London are great, but
they have other lives to tend to as well. Just because I’m stuck here doesn’t
change that. Every time they leave it’s on me; I have no other option. “I need to
be alone for a bit. I’ll text you after the surgery.” “Okay, good
luck bro,” James says as we slap hands. Georgia looks worried, but we hug and
say our goodbyes nonetheless. A couple of tears drip down my cheek after they
leave but I quickly wipe them away. F**K IT. I’m not going to let this, or
anything else, get the better of me. Whatever happens, I’ll deal with it. It’s
the first time in a long time that I’m actually standing up to myself. I’ve let this wet blanket
dictate my life for far too long; I’ve lost all sense of self-worth. Now it’s
my turn to take it back, by myself, for myself. A couple of
hours go by as I lay in wait. I’m not thinking of any one thing really, my mind
is tired and overwhelmed. I’m not worried about the surgery itself. I’ve had at
least five before for all sorts of stuff. I know in some way what to expect.
What terrifies me is the outcome. My legs are still numb. I can feel there
swelling, but it’s dull and almost foreign when I run my fingers over them. And
to be honest, I’m scared. Scared that I may never walk again, or that I will
never walk properly again. It’s not
like I’ve been a marathon runner in the past, and lord knows I’m disgustingly
gumby at the best of times, but to hear that I may never have that option in the future is a frightening thought. My daydream
is quickly interrupted by the swish of my curtain, suddenly revealing a
rambunctious young man dressed in light blue scrubs. “Hello Mr.
Hagan! I’m your orderly and I’m here to take you to surgery. Don’t worry, I’m
an excellent driver,” he blurts out. I ‘m not sure whether to laugh with the guy or at the guy, but I laugh awkwardly nonetheless. “I’ll try not
to bump those weights on the end of the bed, but there’s no promises. I drive
pretty fast,” he says as he winks at me. “As long as
you get me there in one piece and don’t swing those damned weights, I’m
ready.” He wheels me through the corridors, down the lift, through the
hospitals atrium into a waiting room full of other people in beds, all waiting
for their turn to be carved up, I suppose. A man who looks just like the soup
nazi from Seinfeld picks up the chart
from the end of my bed. “Hey, Tim,
I’m Malik. I’ll be your anaesthetist today. Now, are you allergic to any
medications that we should know of?” “None that
I know of.” “Good, any
allergies?” “Nope.” I
continue in the same vein for every question, trying to get it all over and done
with as fast as possible. I just want to get in there, take the damned drugs
and pass out. I’ve barely slept in three days and figure this will be a nice
drug-induced nap. “Alright,
see you in there,” he says as he waves to another orderly. I’m whisked off into
another, smaller waiting room, this time by myself. Surrounding me are hundreds
of medical instruments, all organised along the left and right walls. I wonder
about which ones they are going to use on me. Maybe that screw? Or that hook?
Or maybe the packaged saw that’s leaning against the large fridge. They sure know
how to make you feel at home here. A nurse walks through the doors ahead of me
and introduces herself. “Tim, I’m
Sarah, I’m going to be one of your nurses today.” She speaks in a soft,
soothing tone and seems genuinely happy to be at work, a trait I find annoying
as hell because I’ve never really been able to attain it. “So, you’re
from New Zealand, huh?” “Born and
bred.” “I’m sorry
to hear about the earthquake, sounds awful.” Earthquake!? “What
earthquake?” “Oh, you
haven’t heard? There was a big earthquake in New Zealand.” “No, I haven’t
heard. Do you know where?” “I’m not
too sure actually, somewhere south? I’m sure you’ll hear about it after you
wake up.” For f**k sake, just what I need. Not only am I about to go into
surgery, but my family could also be lying under a mound of rubble on the other
side of the earth. “Not to worry, I’m sure everything’s fine.” F**k you,
Sarah. F**k. You. “I’m going
to put a line in your arm now, so you may feel a slight sting.” I turn to
look as the needle goes in. I’ve always loved that part. It glides through my
skin and into my vein effortlessly. A sudden burst of red blood floods the
small container of saline; it’s a rush to see the saline and blood slowly being
pushed back into my vein as she squeezes down on the syringe. “All done!” She
then pulls out a marker and puts an ‘x’ on my right leg. “What’s
that for?” I ask. “It’s just
so there’s absolutely no confusion as to which leg will be operated on. Kind of
a rudimentary fail-safe.” “You mean
they don’t know? How backwards is this place?” “No, no, of
course they do. It’s purely a precautionary measure.” From the moment I met
Sarah barely five minutes before, she has upped my anxiety ten-fold, all while
oblivious to a patients’ needs and fears, and f*****g smiling constantly while
she does it. Not cool,
Sarah. She opens
the doors to the operating room and pushes me in. The air is frigid and the
room colourless, everything seemingly blending into an off-white. In the middle
of the room is a tiny operating table with a monstrous light above it, attached
to the ceiling by what looks like a mechanical arm taken straight from the set of
2001: A Space Odyssey. There are more
medical instruments, laid out perfectly on little stainless-steel tables. A
nurse darts around the floor wiping watery-bloody areas clean, while another is
throwing used instruments into a large biohazard bin. It looks like what I
imagine Josef Mengele’s Auschwitz operating room once was in its disgusting
heyday; an incredibly efficient veneer, designed in part to disguise the
butchery that really went on in there. Don’t be fooled, the things they do here
(especially with putting bones back together) is nothing short of brutal. After
some of my past skateboarding accidents I’d done research on exactly how they
put bones back together and how they screw them into place. Look on YouTube.
It’s incredibly laborious work, sometimes surgeons literally have to get on top of you to drill a screw in.
Luckily, you’re knocked out, and have no idea what’s going on around you.
Because, you see, up until the point of knock-out, it’s all soft voices and
gentle touches. You go in, fall asleep, and wake up with a nurse tending to
you: “Would you like some ice chips?” It almost feels like a day spa, and
that’s the point. They need to create this idealised world, because every
patient is usually terrified. But I know that while I’m in that small waiting
room getting an ‘x’ marked on my leg, some other poor sod has just been sewn up
and they’re cleaning up his mess while prepping for me. In the end this is a
business. They
position me next to the table as the anaesthetist talks me through what type of
anaesthesia will be used. As he’s talking, two other people place a board under
my body. I’m hastily transferred onto the operating table; you can tell they have
a schedule to keep and they want me in and out as soon as possible. Everyone in
the room (except f*****g Sarah, of course) looks like they haven’t slept in
days. Taking off my gown they place electrodes all over my body and a mask
slowly covers my face. “I’m going
to get you to breathe in deeply now and count backwards from one hundred,”
Malik says. I start counting, trying to hold on for as long as I can. “Okay,
I’m going to inject you with the anaesthetic now, Tim. You may feel a bit of a
chill going up your arm.” It enters my blood stream and I can feel it moving up
my arm, inch by inch. It’s ice cold and feels incredibly unnerving. As it
reaches my shoulder then moves down into my chest, I slowly begin to lose
consciousness. “87, 86, 85, 84…” Chapter 19 My eyes are
shaking as I try to open them and gain focus on the room. I’m not sure where I am
but I try to hold my eyelids open in short bursts to look around. Every time I
do it’s like the sound of a golf club swinging next to my ear. I’m by myself,
next to a window looking out onto a brownish red brick wall with a slither of
sky above it. Is everything in London a f*****g brick wall? There’s a tiny bit
of sunlight - the first I have seen in days - trying desperately to peak
through the seemingly insurmountable force of dense, grey, overcast sky that is
London’s daily winter backdrop. It’s dead silent and dark, the only light
coming from a small bulb that illuminates the bathroom. I lift my head to look
at the sheets laid perfectly atop my numb body. They look odd, pointing up
somehow, like a tent protruding from my pelvis. I lift them up to see metal
bars forming a criss-cross shape, just hovering below my hospital gown. I throw
the sheets back and pull up my gown, revealing my lower body, which is covered
in bandages. Then I remember it. Scaffolding! This is the scaffolding that Dr.
Kumar was talking about! I don’t have plates, this is the x-fix! Then it hits
me like a slap to the face that these poles aren’t suspended in mid-air they’re
screwed into my body, into my pelvis and coming through my skin. It’s an incredibly unnatural feeling, but I don’t
care. I wiggle my toes and can feel
them wiggling, I touch my leg and can feel
it. I feel a bit like Humpty Dumpty, but with a more positive outcome. My body
feels whole again, like it’s all finally working together, nothing seems out of
place. My pelvis somehow feels solid, not like it’s floating around freely
inside my body. It’s a truly remarkable feeling. “Hey, Tim,
how are you feeling?” a nurse says as he enters the room, turning the
lights on. “Indescribable
is the best word. I am really thirsty though.” He pours me a glass of
water with a straw in it. “Tilt your
head forward and take a sip, slowly. How’s the pain? I see you’ve seen the
x-fix, you’re very lucky.” I suddenly realise that I’m lying here
basically naked, with my catheterised dick blowing freely in the wind. “S**t,
sorry.” I move my gown back over my body. “Yeah, I have seen it, it’s…
definitely different.” I have no real words to say, my mind is just trying
to play catch-up. They wheel me back into the acute ward, bed number three this
time. There are no longer any weights hanging from the end of my bed, so I can
be speedily rushed through doors and hallways. It’s exciting in a way. James
and Georgia are waiting for me and I hug them both. “How are
you feeling, bro?” James asks. “I feel
good man, I feel a lot stronger and my legs are doing way better. I feel
positive for once. It’s nice.” “Okay, but
what the hell is that?” Georgia blurts out. “Haha that’s
my x-fix. I think I’ll call him… Larry.” It’s the first name that pops
into my head as it’s a portmanteau of my best friends, Luke and Barry. I don’t
know why I think it’s funny or relevant, but I guess they have held me together
in some way, shape, or form, my whole life. It fits. “Well,
hello Larry, nice to meet you. What does it feel like?” “You
talking to Larry or me?” “Both, I
guess.” “It’s
feeling pretty damned good at this point. My body feels… somewhat aligned. And
this morphine isn’t hurting either.” “I text
Luke,” Georgia says. “Oh yeah?
What’d he say?” “He asked
if you could feel your legs. I said kind of.” He said, “Tell him to harden the
f**k up then.” James and I burst out laughing. Luke has an uncanny ability
to sum up a situation effortlessly with just the right amount of elegance.
“Tell him
he’s a c**t, and he’s dead to me.” “No problem
there,” Georgia says with her head tilted and eyebrows raised. Georgia, who
like me, has always had a fascination with the peculiar, wants to see Larry and
how he goes into my body. I’m pretty intrigued by this as well. My nether regions
are now covered by sheets and my upper body by my gown, and in the middle sticks
out Larry, bold, proud and basking in the attention. I pull my gown up and
Georgia starts to examine. “You can’t
really see anything, it just sort of disappears into the bandages.” My
brain still can’t fully register the fact that metal poles are half in my body,
and half out. I can’t bring myself to look at it for too long. It exists down
there, and me up here. The thought of an open wound both fascinates and
repulses me. It’s best to leave something for the imagination, where I can
manipulate the reality to suit my needs. “It’s all
yellow and bloody around the poles,” she says. “Let’s talk
about something else,” I quickly interrupt. We chat about nothing really,
quips and funny stories from London and the past. It’s nice to just feel
content with someone, to share things again. I want to bottle this feeling,
capture its essence, so I can feel it whenever things started to go black. In
this moment, I’m happy. Chapter 20 Visiting
hours end and James and Georgia have to say goodbye. The room’s lights are once
again dimmed, and I’m left with my fluorescent bed light above my head, casting
light upon the bright blue curtains that seem to constantly engulf me. The room
is calm; no beeps, buzzers or swishes from nurses’ feet. There is solitude at just
the right moment. I close my eyes and take a deep breath and let out a
long-winded sigh. A sigh that carries with it all the hurt, all the fear, all
the pain. Something leaves my body, some weight that I’ve been carrying. I feel
strong, powerful even. F**k the outside world, my world exists right here, with
me, right now. I begin to
doze when my stomach starts making churning noises that grow louder and louder
in its quiet surroundings. I haven’t taken a s**t in days. The high doses of
continuous morphine keep blocking up my system. How do I even take a s**t? It’s
never really crossed my mind before. I buzz for the nurse. The pain keeps
slowly getting worse; I can feel a huge mass of concrete moving through my
lower intestine. I start to get stabbing pains throughout my pelvic area;
whatever is happening in there isn’t reacting well to my freshly operated lower
torso. I start to sweat and panic, I have no idea what to do, or where the hell
to do it. The nurse quietly opens the curtain, she can tell from my face I’m
freaking out. “Umm, I
think I need to, umm, take a s**t?” “Oh, ok, no
problem. I’ll get you a bedpan.” “Wait,
what? A bedpan? Are you serious?” She’s already gone before I can say anymore.
She returns with a stainless-steel bedpan and some heavy duty looking cleaning
pads. What in the actual f**k! “Ok, I’ve
got you a bedpan.” She closes the curtains behind her and looks at me with
a forgiving face, a face that seems genuinely sorry for what is about to happen.
My heart sinks. “Don’t you
have some type of tube or something? Like the catheter?” “I’m afraid
not, hon. This is going to be difficult. It’s going to hurt and take a lot of
determination on your part.” How do I do it? I can barely lift my head let
alone my body, it’s held together with bars and screws for f**k sake. “I’m
going to raise the head of the bed a bit and you’re going to have to push up
with your elbows. We’re going to have to lift your pelvic area and slide the bedpan
underneath it.” This is the solution? I start sweating and I feel like I’m
going to have a panic attack at any moment. But the pain in my stomach keeps getting
worse and I have no other choice. “Isn’t
there some other way?” I ask. “No, hon.
You’re going to have to do this.” Two other nurses come into the room, one
with a dose of morphine. She begins lifting the head of my bed until I’m at a
twenty-degree angle. I dig my elbows into the mattress and begin to slowly peel
my upper body from the sheets. I can feel the metal poles move within my body,
almost creaking while the surrounding holes in my skin begin to rise and fall
along the length of the bar as I take each hurried breath. I can feel their
sting as open flesh and muscle rub against the bare metal. It takes my mind
away from my bowels for a few seconds. The nurse places the bedpan next to my
legs and slides her arms underneath my body. Another nurse does the same on the
other side of the bed as the third nurse waits to position the bedpan. “Okay, are
you ready?” I bite down on my lip and nod. They slowly begin lifting my
lower body as I dig my elbows harder into the mattress. “AHHH!
F**K, NO, NO!! PLEASE, STOP STOP STOP!!” My body is on fire, shooting
pains radiating up my spine and make me want to vomit. It feels like someone is
stabbing me in my torso with a red-hot knife, over, and over and over again.
White spots start popping into my field of vision and slowly everything starts
to go blurry. I thrash my head from side to side, biting my lip, then my tongue
until I can taste blood. I feel something cold move under me. The stabbing
pains continue to shoot up my spine and now into my arms, I can’t hold my body
up any longer. I slump backwards into the pillow and everything goes
black. “Tim, can
you hear me? Tim?” “Yip, yeah,
yip... I’m here.” I slowly come back to consciousness, straight back into the
burning pain. “Tim, we’re
going to have to try something else, okay? You lost consciousness for about a
minute and your stomach is distended.” I taste a rush of boysenberry over
my tongue and my breathing slows to a crawl. “We’re going to use an enema, ok
Tim? Do you know what that is?” I nod, not knowing exactly what she means. They
gently turn my body over to one side of the bed, pushing my forehead into the
bed railing. I feel nothing now; the morphine has taken over every aspect of my
body, from head to toe. There is a sharp push in my anus. I can feel warm liquid
filling the cavity. Then they roll me onto my back again. I drift in and out of
consciousness for a while, until I feel and hear an almighty roar inside my
bowels; something is alive in there. “Something’s
happening I think,” I say in a scared, wimpish murmur, barely getting out the
words as I’m so high. There’s no time for explaining; they push my right
side over again as I let out a helpless groan, and I grab a hold of the bedside
railing, keeping my upper body from falling backwards as they hold my lower
body to keep me on my side. All the muscles around my pelvis and sphincter begin
contracting, pulling tighter and tighter around the metal bars. The mass slowly
pushes its way to the bridge of my anus and decides to stop. I’m going to have
to push to get this thing out. It feels like I’m in some kind of absurd reality
show, surrounded by cameras where my privacy is a commodity that has been sold
to the highest bidder without my consent. I take a deep breath and push as hard
as I can. Each time I push the muscles tighten around my pelvis, but I have to
keep going, there’s no rewind button. I push and push and f*****g push. All the
veins in my neck and face start bulging with blood as sweat drips down my face.
I let out prolonged, agonizing cries, until slowly something begins to move
down below. It feels like a large rock is being pushed through the cavity and I’m
genuinely afraid it’s tearing my anus. I push once
more, and it emerges. I take a breath. It f*****g retreats. Every last ounce of
my strength goes into contracting my muscles one last time. Suddenly the
dynamic in my stomach changes. I feel a huge squeeze then the rock dislodges
from its resting place and proceeds to evacuate my anal cavity onto the huge
diaper pads that are laid underneath me, around the bed and on the floor. It’s
immediately followed by a full flowing torrent of built up faecal matter that
gushes out of my behind and all over the awaiting pads. But f**k,
the release! As my bowels empty, my body relaxes, my muscles let go of their
death grip around my pelvis and my head falls down into my pillow as if not
connected to my body at all. Forget the fact that I’m in desperate pain, naked
and taking a diarrhoetic s**t that just keeps on flowing in front of three
strangers, I have never felt so f*****g satisfied in my life. Ever. Once the
torrent slows and my body has purged itself of all its rancid waste, the nurses
remove the pads (while wearing masks and gloves; I feel horribly sorry for
them). They then wipe all parts of my body that has touched any faeces then
place some kind of large diaper underneath me. After such an unusual event, my
cubicle feels calm. The nurses don’t complain; they wipe my face and brow with
warm water and tell me it’s all part of their job, all while smiling. I have
such an enormous amount of respect for these three nurses; hell, all nurses.
They didn’t make me feel uncomfortable at all as they knew I was already mortified.
One comes back in holding some morphine to calm my still tense body. I open
wide, swallow, thank them then once again then drift back into a medicated
dream, an all forgiving smoky mist that I have grown to adore. Chapter 21 The next
morning I’m in a different room again, this time by myself. The room is long
and angled, my bed positioned in the farthest corner. The door is open and I can
hear commotion outside, banging that keeps getting louder and louder. Spurts of
muffled yelling fill the hallway, then silence. A nurse’s trolley squeaks along
the corridor then stops at my door, the nurse pushing it just outside my field
of vision. A small voice starts to talk. I can only hear her faint whispers
amidst sporadic banging sounds. Then her voice gets deeper and more
authoritative. “Now,
David, you’re going to have to get back into bed, you need rest.” The banging gets
more frenzied. “Do you want me to get security again?” The banging stops
immediately and the squeaks slowly resume again. The trolley turns and enters
my room, followed by a nurse. She’s a young Asian woman, barely taller than the
prodigious supply trolley that she has to haul around. “Hey, Tim,
my name’s Laura. I’m going to be changing your dressings today.” “Oh, okay.
What’s that banging noise?” “Ah, that’s
David. I’m afraid you’ll have to get used to him. He’s an interesting character,
no need to worry, he’s harmless.” “I like
interesting characters,” I say proudly. I’m not going to pry too much more, it
seems like a touchy subject. “Why am I in a different room?” I ask. "We
had to put you in a kind of quarantine, for lack of a better word, because of
your stomach issues.” Ahh yes, the freak show that had taken place only a few
hours before, how could I forget such a thing. It must have sounded utterly
bat-s**t crazy to my poor roommates. “Yeah,
sorry about that,” I say embarrassed. “Don’t you worry, we’ve seen it all before.
Okay, let’s see what we’ve got here,” she says, pulling my gown up to reveal
Larry once more. The bandages surrounding him are yellow and sticky from a
build-up of what looks like pus and other bodily fluids that have seeped through
the holes. She peels the bandages and tape off, layer by layer, finally
revealing the entry/exit wounds, where metal meets skin. Surrounding the metal
bars the skin is oozing yellow gunk, it’s an open wound that is desperately
trying to heal itself around Larry. It looks so bizarre, like these two poles are
just floating there. I notice two other sutured wounds, one on my right side
and one just above the base of my dick. “Okay, now
for the fun part. This will sting and will hurt a little. But you have tattoos
so I think you can handle it.” “It can’t
be worse than what's already happened, right?” “That’s very
true,” she says with a grin. After wetting a cotton bud with some kind of
solution, Laura starts cleaning the opening. It stings but is bearable. The
harder part is watching it, but I just can’t look away, it fascinates me. The
heads of the cotton buds are quickly soiled, and I think she realises a more
vigorous approach is needed. She picks out some sponge-like gauze, wets it,
places her fingers on each side of the x-fix and after applying some light
pressure she starts pushing down. I let out a small, cowardly yelp as I watch
the wound move slowly down the metal pole, discharging a yellow mucus trailed
with blood as it descends. After wiping everything clean she starts on the
other side. This time I can see bits of white flesh stick to the metal as it
tries to grip onto Larry. In the
short amount of time Larry and I have spent together I’ve kind of grown
affectionate towards him in an odd way. Sure, he’s a foreign object to a
delicate ecosystem, but a necessary one nonetheless. He’s literally holding me
together. In a weird way he symbolises something that has been missing in me,
something stable, something steadfast amongst chaos. He anchors me. Here lays
this body, a body that I’ve tried to hurt, to abuse so flippantly over and over
again, and it’s trying its best to heal itself, and Larry is facilitating this.
No matter what I seem to put my body through, it continually fights back; it’s
an innate part of its nature, continuously regenerating into something
stronger, more resilient. If my body is working this hard to improve itself,
then why can’t my mind? I know I have a lot of healing to do physically, but
where can I start mentally? That is a far larger and more complex idea to
understand, but necessary in order for me to have the willpower to even try and get better. Laura
finishes the dressings and squeaks out the door, turning right, and down the
hallway into my unknown. I start reading a women’s magazine that has been left
on my side table when that annoying banging starts again. David must have been
sparked by the wheels screeching along the linoleum floor, he knows he has an
audience he can perform for once more. His yelling is muffled and sporadic, it
seems like he’s screaming until he’s out of breath. I keep my head down and try
to read this British tabloid bullshit, but my mind is fixated on David. Then I
hear a crack! a thud and what sounds
like glass smashing on the ground. A man’s voice suddenly fills the hallway in
an echoing boom. “Nurse! I
need something! You can’t just keep me locked away in here and ignore me you
know, I know what’s going on around here, bunch of f*****g crooks!” His yells
at times turn into soft tones as he tries to cynically joke with the nurse’s
station to gain their trust after breaking it so many more times in the past no
doubt. “Don’t make me come over there, ladies. You know I love ya, but if I
have to I’ll f*****g run there!” “David,
just get back into bed, you need rest,” one nurse replies in a way that shows
they have some kind of rapport. “F**k rest!
I’ve been doing that for days! I need methadone, that’s what I need.” “You’ve
already had some David, you’ll just have to wait.” “F*****g nazi
c***s! The lot of you! I thought this was Great Britain and we had defeated the
fascists!” F*****g hell. Where have they moved me to? I can only hear voices,
but I can tell he’s moving closer to my door. The hallway goes quiet, then a
gaunt figure in a hospital gown gripping a metal walker edges passed my door.
Please don’t look this way. I bury my head deeper into the magazine to look
like I’m busy. “Hey! Hey! You. You’re new, what’s your name?” Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck. “Ahh... hey
man. My name’s Tim, what’s yours?” He starts turning his walker bit by bit
towards my door, limping behind it. He edges his way into my room until he’s
next to my bed and sits down in the chair. He has an oily complexion,
pockmarked from years of acne, and the ingrained waft of a heavy smoker. His
eyes are tired, yellow and bloodshot, almost sinking into his skull. Calloused
hands full of sores gently grip the metal of his stroller. His skin is almost translucent,
showing a maze of veins that run just beneath its surface. An I.V. drip digs
deep into one of his many track marks that spot the length of his forearm. He’s
a serious junky. “I’m Dave
mate, what’s your story?” “I broke my
pelvis.” “What’s that?”
he grunts out, pointing at Larry. “That’s
what’s holding it together I guess.” “F**k mate,
it just goes into your pelvis? Must’ve broken that s**t pretty bad then.” “Yup I
guess so. What are you in here for?” He seems like the kind of guy who could
spin you a thousand stories at the drop of a hat, most never entirely welcomed.
“F**k mate,
where do I start haha. I had to jump off a balcony and landed on a f*****g
fence! Can you believe that!? The luck I’ve got I tell ya. One of the spikes
went straight through my leg here.” He pulls his gown up to show a large
bandage wrapped around his emaciated left leg. “It’s the f*****g pigs fault,
they were chasing me.” “Wow, no
s**t. Why were they chasing you?” “Junk,” he
says with a grin. “They say I broke into someone’s house to rob them, but it
was my mates place. Oink oink! Dipshits. I could smell them coming. I jumped
off the second-floor balcony trying to hit the pavement but landed square on
the fence and the spike went through my f*****g leg. Can you believe that? They
had to call a fire truck to cut me out!” “Holy s**t
man, that’s crazy. How’d they get you out?” “They had
to cut the thing out in surgery. I’ve been here ever since. They’re trying to
wean me off you see; it’s bullshit. I’ve done this over and over; it never
works. But they won’t let me leave, the pigs, so I’m stuck here. It’s not like
I can get far anyway.” I’ve never met a proper heroin addict before. A lot of
my knowledge on the subject is taken wholly from the film Trainspotting. Ever since seeing it I’d wondered about it though,
about its addiction, and how a drug like that can take over someone’s life so
completely, leaving room for nothing else other than that all-consuming,
fiendish pursuit of that next high. I’ve always had a mild fascination with
heroin. To me it’s the upper limit of drug taking, and for that reason it’s all
the more enticing. Growing up in New Zealand it was never around, so it grew to
an almost mythical nature in my mind. For some reason I’ve always had it in the
back of my head that I will try it if I can find it, just once. That’s my
thought with all drugs, just once, to experience it. If I like it, I’ll do
more. If not, it was still an experience. But here in front of me I see a
living embodiment of its aftermath, and it turns my stomach. He seems so lonely
and lost, the only thing motivating him in life is a drug. “Anyway,
nice to meet you mate, see ya round.” “Yeah, you
too.” He stands up and hobbles back to his room. His gown is slightly open at
the back, revealing more acne and sores. You can tell life has not been kind to
him and its uncompromising viciousness weathers his small frame. When he’s out
of sight I take a deep breath, trying to truly contemplate the things he must
have seen in his life, to be a heroin addict in the underbelly of one the
seediest cities on earth. It has eaten him alive, chewed him up and spat him
out. No remorse. But even with all that he must have seen, done, sucked or
fucked over, he continues to push through life, a life that would be unliveable
to most. I’ve never understood it, this purest of human instincts, of survival.
It's written into our DNA. I’m sure he never wanted to become a heroin addict.
But you have to take what life has dealt you and adapt, or recoil, wither and
die. There is no in-between. Nature is brutal and utterly uncompromising. But
how can this instinctive will that every human is born with switch to wanting
to harm oneself like that, to abuse your own body. How did my mind turn to
that? Or worse, turn to the resolve and possible action of committing suicide?
What changes? And how? Is it as simple as a fleeting moment or choice, where
suddenly everything prior to that action loses all relevance, and everything
ahead of it is a direct consequence of that action? Like trying heroin or
having that first drink. Or is it born into us, an instinctual, inevitable
chain reaction that we never had control of in the first place. If you’re
like me and not careful, if you’re not prepared, it can turn into a merciless
downward spiral, with no seeming out, until you hit rock bottom, and who knows
what, or where, that is. Everyone has to hit their own at some point. It’s not
something you can run or hide from. So, I mean, how can you recognise it? What
was Dave’s defining moment where everything changed? What is his rock bottom?
What’s mine? Is this it? I mean, was falling off a building onto concrete a
blatant metaphor for the direction my life has taken? It’s taken this accident,
this act of wanton carelessness, to actually make me properly think about where
I am in life, f**k, even who I am. I’ve lost that inner compass somewhere along
the line. Because if I’m honest with myself, deep down I know that on some
level I wanted to fall, I wanted to hurt myself. Did this make me more
careless? Maybe. I know I didn’t jump, but I also know that everything I did
leading up to that moment was a catalyst to that event. I knew my life was
heading towards some desperate act, some cry for help, that would hopefully
either change its course, or ultimately end it. I hope that this is my bottom
and I can build from its foundation. Chapter 22 Hours pass
and I’m still ruminating on it; but there is no definitive answer. I just need
to wait. Wait, one of my most
despised words and actions of an anxious mind. I hear the
dull, sarcastic monotone of what can only be a New Zealand accent come
bellowing down the hall, and through the door come James, Tim and Akash, my
good mates from back home. “Oh s**t,
they put you in your own room, eh? To keep you away from other people I guess,”
Tim says. “Haha, yeah
bro, all those restraining orders took effect.” I tell them about my faecal
mishap and introduce them to Larry. We chat about bullshit, guy stuff. They're
some of the funniest people I know, and it hurts to laugh, but I don’t care,
the feeling’s worth it. I’m just grateful that they are here, that they don’t
dwell on where I am but instead treat the situation light heartedly, it makes
everything just a little more bearable. They stay for an hour or so then have
to head home, it will take another hour for them just to navigate the tube
alone. I turn the
TV on that hangs just to my left. The screen is like the boxes you see in
1960’s American PSA commercials, beige with an on/off switch and up and down
channel buttons. It flashes on with a sharp zap and black & white static,
then after a few channel changes finally settles on a picture. If you’ve never
seen British television before, just imagine a rainy day, stuck inside with
nothing but a kettle, a box of black tea, an old tartan sofa covered with
plastic, stained carpets invoking the smell of an old folks’ home laced with
cigarette smoke and mould running up the damp walls. Whatever image that invokes in your mind is about as
good a description as you’re ever going to get. I’ve grown up listening to Coronation Street through my bedroom
wall and watching Emmerdale and Last of the Summer Wine on sick days, so
I’m not averse to the British television palette. It’s comforting in its
familiarity and reminds me of home. I lay and
wait patiently for my next round of morphine, looking at the clock every two
minutes or so. When the nurse finally walks into my room I’m in a lot of pain,
an unusual, all-body aching pain; a pain that slowly grows worse with each
minute as the morphine’s potency throughout my body diminishes. There's a
unique ebb-and-flow to pain management, a kind of un-exact therapeutic science
that has to be timed exactly in order to form a constant barrier between my
mind and that three-headed monster of pain that lies raging just below the
surface. The trolley that houses all the drugs is under lock and key and tethered
to the nurse as she saunters from bed to bed, room to room. Each round
more pills are added to my regimen; this time an anti-diarrhoetic, a stool
softener and my long-awaited psych meds. It’s been four days since I last took
them and I’m eager to ease this anxiety that has become a cornerstone of my
emotional instability as of late. You see, usually you come off these types of
meds very gradually, over months, so it’s a big, nasty reminder of how much my
mind and body rely on such things. The nurse fills
a small white paper cup with my allotment of treats and hands them to me with
some water. I can’t help but think about One
Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest and McMurphy’s utter contempt for the forced
zombification of mentally ill patients by heavily sedating drugs. I, on the
other hand, am from a generation brought up on pills, and have no such
reservations. I don't like the side effects that come with some of them, but I
know that in the right dosage and circumstances they literally can save a life.
The cup is filled with all types of pills, in a variety of shapes and colours,
all serving their own little specific purpose, all effecting different parts of
my body. I’ve always been fascinated to know that by swallowing a single pill,
my body would change. I’ve been on
Prozac since I was twelve. I’ve spent many a night pouring over its use on me; specifically,
why I needed the pill and not someone else. It’s always fascinated me
that from a particular directive inherent only to that pill, my body can be
tricked into creating more or less of certain chemicals, effectively altering
its natural state and somehow making it work better. All from a small pill, taken once a day, with water,
please. I often
daydream about the origins of these magical pills. They can’t all be as exotic
as they’re portrayed. “The wonder pill” was Prozac’s first advertised identity,
and the world was hooked. But in reality, it probably came into existence
through the mind of some under-appreciated scientist, in some super-lab in a
nondescript building off a highway in the middle of a state in America that is
probably best known for growing corn. A pill that was approved for mass
consumption by a panel of people who rely on said pharmaceutical companies to
pay for their holiday to Vermont during the winter months. A pill that is
manufactured in a warehouse in a developing country by people who have no
access to the very pill they're producing. A pill that is shipped en-masse to
wealthy nations around the world and sold at a premium to millions of people
who have no other option. A pill that can change a life, even save a life. A
pill that after going through all of this, and becoming such a uniquely life
altering phenomenon, ends up in my stomach mixed with a f*****g stool softener.
Well played, life. I swallow
them down then open my mouth ready to embrace that familiar opiate elixir I have
been growing so fond of. As it starts creeping through my body, my eyelids become
sluggish until there is no way to keep them open a second longer. All of a
sudden, in this newfound dark space, morphine takes full control. At first it
begins simplifying the world around you, your thoughts become slow and
deliberate, meditating on an idea for minutes. Then quickly and unexpectedly
your brain bursts to life, becoming ever more energetic, jumping from one thing
to the next, eager to latch onto some small detail of a thought but just can't
seem to hold on. As it continues to fill your bloodstream, these thoughts begin
to spiral out of control, down a tunnel of sub-consciousness toward a tiny
pin-point of light in the distance, where after many failed attempts at
solidifying a coherent idea, a single thought squeezes itself out from the
light and ta da! You just solved the world’s energy crisis. Everything in the
world makes sense. But unfortunately, like most drug-fuelled epiphanies, it is
fleeting and lost mere seconds later in another onslaught of over-powering,
fractured thought patterns. I fell deeper and deeper into the tunnel until
there was simply no light left. Chapter 23 I awake
once more to a flush of white noise, the room painfully bright. It stings of
that ever-growing familiarity that is incessant fluorescence. Next to my bed is
a soapy bucket of tepid water with a white towel next to it. I dip it in and
start washing my face, ears, head and anywhere else I can reach. I’m lucky as
my head is shaved, but the rest of me feels like a layer of caked in oil clings
to me. I try my best to wash my back, but the antiseptic burns my inflamed
skin; lying down all day has made my back swollen and red, but I can’t turn
over so I’m just stuck with it. I’m starting to get used to the word at this
point. Stuck. Its meaning becoming all the more obvious as each hour passes me
by while I lie motionless in bed. Just as I
finish washing there comes a knock at the door. It’s Georgia, adorned with that
mischievous smile that accompanies her everywhere she goes. All my anxiety falls
to the floor with a thud and I take a deep breath of comfort just knowing she’s
here, with me. She looks from side to side and down the hallway, as if she thinks
she’s in trouble for being here. She suffers from bad anxiety too, something we
have grown close over throughout the years, and she always looks adorably sceptical
as she tries to figure out a person or a situation, especially new, foreign
ones. "You
can come in you know", I say. "Yeah,
am I allowed to be here? I mean, you're not quarantined, or something are
you?" "AIDS.
They found it in my leg." "Ha.
Ha.” she says in her characteristically sarcastic tone, "very funny."
She tilts her head to the right in a look of disapproval, something she does
with me often. We have a unique relationship, we’ve been through a lot together
and we understand something about each other that is very rare; we both hold a
deep fear. Of what, I’ve never been able to truly pinpoint, but it is always
there and sometimes you can just sense it in another person. The way they hold
themselves, the way they look at you, almost through you. They seem to see you for who you are, and you them,
almost instantly. And after meeting them a strange feeling lingers, it festers
in your gut, like some raw animal attraction bound in a wonderful, albeit
sometimes misguided, attraction. And it aches. Boy, does it ache. The more we
got to know each other, the more we knew we were destined to somehow f**k up
each others lives, even if only for the briefest of moments and best intentions.
We tried wholeheartedly to work for something bigger than ourselves, something
of meaning and significance, but ultimately it was something beyond our reach
at that time and age. We met at university. I had just broken up with my
girlfriend (coincidentally also named Georgia) and she, with her boyfriend. We
grew closer as friends and shared a lot of intimate details about our lives;
past, present and hopes for the future. We understood each other. We felt
comfortable and safe, knowing we both held similar ways of dealing with the
world with an anxious mind. After
months of flirting around the subject (and her dating a mutual friend) we slept
together after a night of drinking, sly remarks and surreptitious looks. We
knew that whatever happened wouldn't be approved of by some people, but it
still felt natural, right. We were both naïve enough to say it was only
physical, that no feelings were to come of it. But deep down we both knew that
was a lie, created to shield us from our fear of being hurt, a hurt that was
always inevitable. I was still trying to understand my own issues of anger, OCD
and anxiety at the time. I could barely deal with myself at times let alone
someone else who needed my attention, or even more, care and compassion. It was
the first truly pure emotional connection I had ever had with a woman, but it
was too much for me to handle at that time. Everything before that connection
had been immature for me, purely f*****g and arguing with girlfriends. This was
far different, and intense. We
ultimately ended badly because I've always had an incessant need to f**k over
anything good that happens in my life, or as Georgia so aptly calls it, “being
a f*****g a*****e." We hadn't really talked much after that, she moved to
Sydney with her new boyfriend and I met Jade. We had only become friends again
a year or so before I came to London when she flew back to Auckland and we drank
too much and hashed out a lot of the bullshit. We were good like that, both
able to be honest with each other. We have a special bond that I hope will
never go away. "You
just missed it, I was just giving myself a 'bath’.” "Really?
What did it feel like? Can you wash your... you know..." "Haha,
yeah, just barely. It was kind of painful because of the catheter." She
looks at me, then down at my dick, then back up to my face. "Can
I... see it?" "See
what?" "You
know... the catheter." "Haha,
no! I can't even see it so you sure as hell aren't going to." "Does
it hurt?" "Not
really, it stings from time to time, especially if I move it." "So,
it just... goes up there? How does it fit?" "I
have no idea, I try not to think about it." I can now tell she’s fully
invested in researching catheters as soon as she gets home. "Hey,
I brought in your computer and some clothes and stuff from my place." "YESSSSSS.
Thank you, you're a lifesaver." "I put
a bunch of weird documentaries on there that my cousins said you would
like." "Brilliant,
all I've been watching here is re-runs of 'The Bill' and 'Top Gear'. 'The
Office' was on though, which was good. It takes me out of this place for a
while. Hey, what day is it?" I’ve lost track of all sense of time, I know
times in the day as different meals are served and how many hours have passed
because every two, on the dot, I get more morphine. My phone died and my watch
was either broken or taken off when I came into the emergency room and I have
no idea where it is now. "Saturday,”
she says with a smile. "Is it
nice outside?" "No,
it's cold and raining." This makes me feel better that I know outside isn’t
much better than inside. "Typical London weather." We talk for
another hour or so until a nurse comes in to tell me I’m going for more scans
soon. I’ve forgotten that they’re going to happen as I got lost in conversation
with Georgia. The nurse reads me the pain killer ‘rights’ routine then pulls
out that large syringe. It’s more full this time, almost double the amount I
normally take. This excites me and at the same time frightens me as I know why.
I open my mouth and swallow. I can see Georgia's eyes get wider behind the
nurse at the very thought of morphine being in the room. I know eventually she’s
going to want to try some. Chapter 24 After we say
our goodbyes I’m carted out of the room in my bed by a porter called Benjamin.
As we wait for the elevator a huge dope-filled smile slowly grows on my face as
the morphine kicks in. I just can’t help it; it's the most exquisite feeling in
the world. I can feel every vein in my body slowly push it through my limbs. It
washes over my heart and stops it from racing; it fills my lungs with deep,
slow, meaningful breaths; it touches the tips of my fingers and makes simply
brushing the sheets of my bed a sensual, delightful experience. As my head slowly
melts into the soft pillow, the huge elevator doors creak open and Benjamin manoeuvres
my bed into its resting spot, next to a haggard woman slumped in a wheelchair.
I assume she’s a cancer patient; she’s wearing a bandana on her head with no
visual hairline and carries with her an air of desperation and hopelessness
that’s almost palpable. She’s an older woman, probably a grandmother. Her face is
kind and filled with wrinkles, just like both my grandma’s had when I was
younger. Her skin droops gently from her cheeks as gravity slowly wears at her
body. She reminds me a lot of my grandmother, Merle, back home who had passed
away a few years before from cancer. She’s in no doubt a loved, proud woman,
who understands the balance of life and countless other experiences unfathomable
to my generation. I imagine her wisdom on life and its many intricacies is
probably endless. It fills my heart with profound sadness to think that this is
where it probably will end for her, for anyone in old age. My
grandmother Merle died in front of me, surrounded by her family, in a hospital
bed fighting for every last breath she had. She was unconscious, but we knew in
some way she could hear us. Mum whispered in her ear and told her to let go. To
let go of this life and pass on to whatever was next. She let out a prolonged
exhale, then just never inhaled again. And that was it, the end of her life.
All of her memories, her experiences, her loves and fears... were gone in an
instant. Forever. It affected me greatly at the time. I can still remember
staying the night at her house on Saturdays with my sister, watching a movie
and waiting for the weekly Lotto numbers to be drawn, all while eating
seemingly never-ending supplies of Minties and chocolate biscuits. It’s a
delightful, warm memory, but a memory that has diluted with time, filled slowly
with my own experiences, my own loves, my own fears, to the point where the
very idea of her is so subtle, so distant, it feels like it happened to an
entirely different person. But that image, of us in front of the TV, will never
perish. I wonder what this woman will be remembered for, and who will be
remembering it. Will she be surrounded by loved ones? And if so will they keep
her experiences, her dreams, her memory close at heart for posterity. Or will
she be alone? I hope she isn't, but the balance of life is sometimes cruel. The
elevator comes to a stop as the floor light pings. We smile at each other, but
no words are said. It’s a brief encounter of 30 seconds, but it feels so
potent, so real… and all in my head. It makes me long for home and my own
family. The
elevator doors once again open and we’re both pushed out, her to the left, me
to the right. Benjamin and I follow hallways weaving through the bowels of the
hospital; each turn seems to get darker as I follow the ceiling lights whizzing
above my head, eventually becoming a continuous blur. We turn a corner and come
once again into another large waiting room, with at least ten people lined up
in order, all laying in beds, all with the same dull look on their face. Benjamin
edges me between two other sad souls and hands me off to a nurse. "Hey,
Tim. We're going to get you in as soon as possible for your x-ray. In the
meantime, just relax." What's with people telling me to relax? This isn't
a f*****g bed & breakfast. I think I’ve reserved the right to feel like I’m
about to s**t the bed at any given moment, because technically, it’s already
happened. "Okay,
will do,” I say with a stale, cheesy smile. I close my eyes and fantasize about
another life, another time, a life where I’m a completely different human
being. I’m still horribly depressed, the fall had jolted me to life for a
moment, but the darkness is slowly creeping back, I can feel it running through
my veins. Morphine helps keep it at bay, but it’s only a self-medication like
alcohol was. My life is such a f*****g mess. I just want this all to be over. I
feel a small sense of gratitude to be alive, but not in a way in which I can
truly savour it. I feel no worse, no better, than I had before the accident. I
open my eyes and I’m still in the same goddamned shithole hospital unable to
move. "Mate,
that's some nice machinery you've got there," a voice croaks from the bed
next to me. "Do you mind if I ask what happened?" He’s a skinny,
odd-looking man with a wimpy moustache and crooked teeth; his demeanour
reminiscent of Napoleon Dynamite's creepy older brother, Kip. He’s fiddling
with his watch trying to adjust the time, showing his hands, which are covered
in red, inflamed eczema. "Ahh...
I fell off a building." I’m beginning to reside in the fact that this line
of questioning is going to become a regular occurrence, so my story is taking a
formulaic shape already. "How'd
you manage that?" I let out a prolonged sigh, the type of sigh that politely
tells someone to f**k off as I’m not in the mood. "Drinking,
early mornings, roofs... don't mix I guess." "Oh,
yeah? How far did you fall?" "Three
stories." "S**t!
You're lucky to be alive mate." I keep hearing this phrase, yet each time
it’s used it becomes more and more redundant. Just a bunch of useless words
loosely strung together. "Yeah.
I guess... What are you in for?" “It’s
crazy, but I’ve got a huge boil on my arse actually.” I realise he’s lying on
his side, trying not to enrage his pustular friend. "I didn't think
anything of it, just thought it was a pimple, until one day I sat down and
almost screamed!" It’s funny to me how forthright everyone in hospital is.
There’s no barrier between people like in the outside world. I suppose it's a
natural by-product of being thrust into close quarters with people whose bodies
are all in some way failing them, often in the most un-flattering of ways. My
ears perk up. “S**t, so
what do they have to do?" "They
just cut it open and drain it. I have to stay overnight so they can check on it
and change the dressings. They're hoping it doesn't get more infected. I'm
waiting to get it done now." I suddenly register the fact that I’m in the
same waiting room as when I had my surgery and everyone around me is in limbo
for very different things. I look around the room, trying to figure out the
ailments of everyone in here. Some are more obvious than others, such as a
broken leg or arm, but it’s the ones with no apparent physical problems that intrigue
me the most. They must be afflicted with internal problems, problems you can't
see. That sort of illness has always petrified me, the fear of the unknown. I
can see a broken bone or a cut lip and
can deal with it. But it's the things you can't see that usually do the most
damage. Tumours, blood disorders, cancers... all things that can take root
unknowingly and spread to infect your entire body. It's exactly the same with
mental illness, which scares me more than anything else. Looking at
the faces of everyone around me there is a very obvious thread that ties us
all. Fear. It’s a look I’ve noticed more and more over the past few days,
something wholly unique to hospital wards; a permeation that has seemingly
taken root in its very walls and spread like an infectious disease to anybody
who dared lay claim to one of its beds. It’s unsettling. "Tim,
we're ready for you," the nurse says as she pulls my bed out of the queue
and guides me through some doors, down a narrow hallway to a large sign saying
‘X-Ray’. She opens the door to a solitary woman in a darkened room, waiting for
me. "Hey,
Tim! I'm Jeannette, the lab technician who will be taking your x-rays."
She’s a wonderfully robust woman, probably in her late forties, with a fringe
and rosy cheeks, beaming infectious enthusiasm. She reminds me of Dawn French
for some reason, cheery and boisterous, but without all the excess weight.
"Don't worry, you won't have to move at all. We can x-ray you right in the
bed.” This news makes me almost giddy. "Oh,
awesome. Moving isn't really my strong suit lately,” I quip. She giggles with a
soft smile then at once seems to pirouette on the balls of her feet before
walking at pace to a small side room with a glass window overlooking the x-ray
machine. The nurse leaves, closing the doors behind her, taking with her the
hallways light, and leaving the room dimly illuminated by a single fluorescent
light emanating from Jeanette's computer. It’s eerie, but it makes me feel at
ease to be in the dark. It’s gentle on my eyes and forgiving of my physical
abnormalities. Jeanette bounds from one side of the room to the other, always
intently focused on the task at hand. She asks me questions about New Zealand,
my tattoos, why I’m in London, all while constantly moving between the small
room and the monstrous robot arm that hovers above me, changing its position
ever so slightly as I lay motionless. She slides a tray under my bed and flicks
a switch on the arm, turning on its bright light, transforming my pelvic region
into a hot area of sharp, white noise. Watching her
dart back and forth starts to kind of annoy me. I want to be able to do that. I
just want to sit up, get out of bed and run as fast as I can in any direction.
It doesn’t matter where I’m going, but how
I’m getting there. I want to run until my legs give out, until my muscles
melt into a mushy jelly and I collapse to the ground in exhaustion, then just streeettttcccchhhhh. Oh, what I'd give
to be able to stretch my legs, to bend my knees or arch my back. It feels like
I’ve been in an airplane seat for four straight days, sandwiched between two
morbidly obese, hot, sweaty people, unable to move and strapped in tightly with
no place to go. At times I have an abundance of energy, but I never have an
outlet. All I can do is keep moving my head and arms, tensing my upper body
muscles, squeezing my hands into white-knuckled fists all in the hope that I will
one day be able to move freely again. Jeannette
finishes the x-rays then turned the lights on. "There,
you're all done. See? Painless!" "It
was, thank you." She wheels me back to the waiting room and places me in a
corner, away from the other patients. "A
nurse will be with you shortly to take you to your CT scan. Best of luck, Tim,
no doubt we'll be seeing you again!" The words hit me like a twelve-gauge
to the chest; I realise that this will not be the last time for such a thing,
that this will in no doubt go on for much longer than I originally expected.
When will I be able to leave the hospital? When will I be able to leave this
bed? When will I be able to see my family? All these questions circle
continuously in my brain, with no real means of answering them. I feel like I’m
in limbo; I have no control of the outcome. I’m jolted
out of my rumination by a nurse pulling my bed out of the room behind me. “We’re
taking you to get a CT scan now, okay Tim?” she says. The CT room is different
from the MRI, smaller and less threatening, but just as cold and just as
sterile. I feel nauseous just thinking about it; I’m horrified at the thought
that they’re going to roll me over and drop me, that I will fall to the ground
face first and land on Larry, who's tenuous grip on my pelvis would break away
and rupture through my back. I close my eyes as they talk with me, their words
a blur unable to breach the continuous replay of Larry cutting through me. I
just keep nodding, pretending I’m paying attention. The morphine is still
flooding my bloodstream; I can feel its warmth as my breaths get shorter and
more hurried, my heart palpitating, fiercely pounding into my throat and chest.
As my palms begin to get clammy and my forehead beads with sweat, small spots
of white-light dance frantically in my field of vision. "Are
you ready, Tim?" Someone asks in the distance. I nod. With my eyes still
firmly closed I’m heaved from my bed onto the small, thin table of the scanner.
It’s swift and relatively painless, my body coming to rest slowly on the hard
slab. Larry seems to be doing his job; he’s holding everything in place with
the help of morphine encircling his steady grip. The scanner itself is far less
ominous than the MRI, almost its wimpish, younger brother. I keep my eyes
closed as the table moves back and forth, its scanner oscillating around me. The
soft sensation of motion and sound create a sense of calm that overwhelm me; I’m
going to be all right, I can feel it.
Chapter 25 The scan is
over within a matter of minutes and I’m once again transferred back to my bed,
then pushed through the hospitals cavernous hallways and into a new, larger
room, filled with long lines of beds taking up both sides of the space, each
occupied by men in light blue gowns. The walls are a dull and off-white,
spotted with cracks and chipped paint. Small, quaint windows line the top of
them; they seem so far up, so out of reach from my small bed. A hint of
sunlight pokes through one of them, but mostly all I can see is that good ol’ wet
London brick. As I’m pushed down the rooms centre, I pass everyone with a
nervous smile. They all stop to look at me, some smiling back, some just
staring. I come to a bed at the end of the row, my things in a large plastic
bag on the seat next to it. "This
is your new home, Tim. You're now in the main orthopaedic ward," a new
nurse tells me. It's loud and busy and full of commotion as I nod my head. "Cool,"
is the only word I can muster. They lift me onto a new bed; it’s different
though, it feels like I’m floating on water. The nurse pushes some buttons at
its base and the mattress starts moving. "What
the f**k?" I blurt out. The nurse laughs. “Don’t
worry, it's just an alternating pressure mattress. It pressurises different air
pockets at different times, helping with your bodies circulation and hopefully
preventing bed sores from prolonged bed stays." Ahh… prolonged bed stays.
It feels like each hour another small hint gets dropped regarding my future
predicament. These small intimations have become my main source of information
regarding my condition. They’re the only honest answers I can get out of anyone
it seems. The nurse’s
leave and I begin to scan my new ‘home’. The person to my right is asleep, and
to my left are the toilets. There’s an elderly man sitting directly across from
me in a worn leather smoker’s chair, reading the paper. He has a small reading
lamp, a quaint bookshelf and a foot stand next to his bed. Ornate frames filled
with what I assume are family members surround his bed. Did this guy bring his
whole reading room with him into hospital? All he needs now is a pipe and a
glass of port to fulfil the cliché. He drops
his paper and peers at me over his reading glasses, then folds the paper up in
a hurry. He looks annoyed, like he has been slighted in some way. He looks to
his left, directly at the next patient's cubicle, which is fully partitioned
off by those f*****g blue curtains. From within I can hear the low rumblings of
some kind of chant, over and over and over again. It sounds like fifty people are
packed within those small blue walls. The old man looks at me, then back to the
curtains, then back to me. "Can
you believe this?" he spits out in a fiery tone. "Every goddamned
day!” He reaches for his buzzer and presses it frantically. The chanting becomes
louder, and one woman starts crying out what sounds like something out of The Lion King (sadly, this pop culture
reference is the first thought I have when hearing anything resembling an
African language, especially in joyous sing-a-long’s). It gets louder and
louder, until she is almost yelling with what sounds like a large group of men
mirroring her every word in a rhythmic hymn. The old man looks furious and has
taken to standing up in protest and yelling back at them, joined in impassioned
fervour by another old man who has wheeled himself out of an adjoining room. "This
is a hospital! Not a mosque!” I can’t help but grin in amazement at the
spectacle, two cultures clashing in such a unique environment. The two old men
peter out quickly as the chanting comes to a climactic end. Then silence. There
are murmurs behind the curtains, and laughter. Then the curtain flings open,
revealing about ten African men and two women, all surrounding a small, gaunt
figure perched up in the bed, covered in flowers. Echo! His face beams with
that ghastly, ever-inviting smile of his, but he looks jubilant and utterly
defiant in the face of the old, white, angry establishment that greets him. The
two old men mumble and grumble to each other before settling back into their
chairs, seemingly defeated. I can see why. The men who surround Echo's bed look
like African warlords, with large gold chains hanging around their monstrous
necks, their skin a piercing black, that African black, proud remnants of
generations soaked in sunlight, pacing from side to side, glaring intently at
anyone who dared make eye contact with them. I do, and he
stares me down like he’s about to run over and smash my face into my pillow.
His eyes are a sharp white, they stare right through me as I quickly look away
and pretend I’m doing something else. They saunter around his bed for a few
minutes until a nurse asks them to leave, visiting hours are over. As they
slowly filter out of the ward, Echo is left alone in his bed, surrounded by
flowers and home cooked food. I can’t help but feel a little jealous of him, I
mean, even psychotic criminals get some taste of home. It seems like none of
this matters to him; the hospital, the guards, the angry white faces that
follow his every move. I imagine it’s because Echo isn’t really here; he exists in a world far different
from mine. A world that he has created, in which he’s at the centre,
unequivocally sure that his actions and convictions are not only right, but
just, and that anything that doesn’t fit into this self-prescribed mould is
just ether and not worthy of his attention. Oh, what I would give to share an
ounce of that self-worth. "Hey!”
he yells at me. I wave back, smiling. He quickly motions for the nurse to close
his curtain, as he lays back, overwhelmingly pleased with himself. My eyes once
more are pulled to the old man in the chair across the room. He shakes his head
at me again, disgusted and affronted, then goes back to quietly reading his
paper, muttering obscenities under his breath that are no doubt steeped in
generations of ignorance and institutionalised racism. He probably thinks that
because of the colour of my skin and my shaved head that I share in his
bigotry. But it disgusts me. I have far more respect for a delusional criminal
of African descent than a worthless white man filled with no compassion and
hate. I hope I will never reach a point in my life where I become that old,
befuddled and disillusioned with progress. I’ve always been terrified of ending
up alone; becoming nothing but a depressed, obsessive, lonely shell of a man,
drinking away lost years and wallowing in my own bitterness with no-one to care
or listen. I’d rather shoot myself in the temple than wind down that lonely
road. A nurse then
brakes my thought. Chapter 26 “Hey Tim,
sorry to disturb you, but we've been receiving numerous calls from your parents
asking about your situation. Unfortunately, we can't give that information out
over the phone. It would be good if you could contact them." I look over
to my side table and pick up my phone. Ten missed calls. "Ahh,
sorry, my phone has been on silent. I'll call them now." My phone starts
buzzing just as I go to dial the numbers. They beat me to it. “Hello?” "Tim,
where have you been!? We've been trying to contact you! We've been calling the
nurses station, but they won't give us any information." "I
know, sorry, my phone has been on silent.” “Okay, but
you need to let us know what's happening. Do you want us to come over there?
I've been looking at flights," Mum says. "No,
honestly I’m fine, I can deal with this myself." I truly miss them, but I know
that having them over here, stressing out and fussing over every small detail will
only make matters worse. "No,
you can’t. You’re not understanding the situation you’re in,” Dad barks
suddenly. “We’re the ones trying to figure out your insurance and how to get
you home.” He’s always had a special way of not really listening to what I’m trying to say. It’s frustrating at
times, but it’s a hard-headedness we both share, born from generations of
stubborn Iowa farmers no doubt. But it’s his way of showing he cares, and it’s
been a safety net of assurance that has always humbled me; whether I like to
admit it or not. However, this doesn’t stop me from taking special pause to
show my disdain for the comment by sighing deeply into the phone,
instantaneously reverting back to the mindset of a bratty teenager and
admittedly losing any ground I may have gained in this faux argument. “I’m not
coming home. I came here for a reason. I haven’t finished what I started. Why
would I come home?” I spout out defiantly, matching the tone and sharpness of
my dad’s words. It sounds almost ridiculous as I say it, but its sentiment rings
incredibly true to me. “I can recover in London. I have friends here to help me
out. I mean I’ve broken bones before.” “Tim,
that’s just not possible. I don’t think you realise the gravity of the
situation. You won’t be able to walk, feed yourself or go to the bathroom. Who
will help you with that!?” Mum cries in exasperation. “No, that is NOT an
option.” “Well,
we’ll see what happens. I don't want to think about this right now. I’m trying
to deal with this the best way I can. Anyway, I have to go, I’m really tired.
We’ll talk soon.” We say goodbye but I’m still angry about the situation. The
idea that I can’t make decisions for myself about my future infuriates me. I know
it’s far-fetched, but I’m just not ready to go home. I had set out on an
adventure; something that has to
change my life, there is no second option. I have to return triumphant, full of
learned wisdom and unimaginable tales, otherwise I fear I’ll never make it out
of New Zealand again. Chapter 27 I jump up
suddenly, wide awake, to the sound of loud buzzing and hustling feet filling
the dark, empty space that lies just beyond my enclosed curtains. The lights
flash on as a flurry of voices scramble for coherency, each seemingly louder
than the previous. “Get a
crash cart!” someone yells. F**k. It
sounds like there are 20 people in the room. I can hear the unmistakable sound
of tearing velcro and the squeaks of rubber wheels as they try to grip the
linoleum floors. There’s constant, chaotic movement. Metal bangs metal and
fills the room with an anxious tension. I’m afraid. It sounds like someone is
dying next to me, but I’m not sure. “We need to
get him to surgery. On three, one, two, three… Someone make sure his airway is
clear. Where are the paddles? Ok, clear!” A loud thud brakes the tenuous
silence. “Let’s move.” They
scramble out of the room as fast as they came in, a rush of movement and
yelling, then silence once again. My heart is racing. I try to hear for any
sound but nothing. The lights turn off and the ward goes dark once more. No one
says a word. I try to fall back to sleep but just lay there, anxiously
ruminating over what could be happening to the man who filled the bed next to
me. I hope he’s alright. Chapter 28 Every day
seems to bleed into the next, a hustle of movement and conversation during the
day followed by a heavy, sombre silence at night. Some people are awake during
the day, as far as my head can turn and see, but most people are asleep, their
bodies exhausted and filled to their brim with elixir. My days have mostly
consisted of the same, in and out of the haze. I have two semi-conscious states,
each morphing into the other one. One real, one imagined. I’m often sure I’m
falling into a deep, dark abyss of endless space, only to come to realise I have
just slowly blinked. These odd, almost magical little occurrences pop up
throughout the day, so vivid and real I can almost touch them. Whole scenes
play in my head and are acted out before me. Sometimes I’m walking to the
toilet or rolling over and stretching my legs over the bed, until I inevitably
come to and realise it never happened. I love them at times because they
confuse me; they take me out of this bed; this room, this hospital. But I hate
them more often than not because they tease me, they fill my heart with hope as
I lay motionless on my back, a hope that’s not real at that moment, but one
that I know can slowly grow with time if I water its seeds just right. During one
of these episodes Dr. Kumar has come to see me. He tells me I need a second
surgery, so they can put another screw into my pelvis; it’s still off-kilter.
My right knee is also hyper-extending, but that will have to wait until I can
stand and bear weight on it. The thought of another screw going into my body
permanently doesn’t bother me. It just adds to a growing collection. I’m young.
The fear and pain can come later, when my arthritis kicks in at thirty. I just
have to lay in wait until a spot in surgery opens up for me. My case is not as
urgent anymore, I have been pushed back down the line. This gives
time for other specialists to work with me; like Dr. Russell, a psychiatrist. She’s
a lanky, thin-boned lady, with a sweet, summery, aristocratic English accent. “Mr. Hagan,
may I call you Tim?” “Sure.” “Do you
mind if we have a little chat?” “Okay.” I
know what’s coming and I’m ready for the explanation. “I notice
here that you’re on a few psychiatric medications, do you mind telling me what
they’re for?” I sputter out the usual formulaic response that I have done so
many times over the years with doctors. “Are you
depressed at all now, Tim?” she asks. “I’m not
really sure any more to be honest. I’m on so much morphine I’m not sure what
emotions I’m feeling. I know it’s there, just waiting to come back when this
all falls away and I’m left alone again.” “Ok, that’s
perfectly understandable. What makes you think your depression will re-occur?” “Because I
can still feel it, underneath, in me; it’s just numbed by the drugs. I just
know that once they’re gone it will be back.”
“Okay. I
understand. Have you ever been suicidal, Tim?” The question. That hot word that spikes a burst of interest in any
person working within the mental health field. I’ve been asked before, answering
both yes and no at different times and know what I can get myself into if I say
the wrong thing. They track your every word for meaning; it’s like walking a
tightrope. But depression plus falling three stories sounds incredibly
suspicious, so I answer her in my own, mischievous way. “Yes,
actually, right before I jumped off that building and right now to be honest.”
She looks confused and a little shocked. I hold and pause for an awkward five
seconds then smile. “I’m just
joking, don’t worry. I have thought about it before, yes. But it had nothing to
do with my accident. I slipped and fell; there was no intent to it. I hated
heights before this, so it wouldn’t be my method of choice anyway.” She’s still
a little confused, not quite sure of what has just happened. New Zealand humour
can often not be humour at all, just lightly disguised disdain. “Oh,” she
smiles “very funny. I’ll mark that as a no then with a wink beside it.” Nice.
This posh British doctor of obvious high regard has game enough to fire back. “I’ll be
honest with whatever you need to ask me.” She goes through her list, checking
off veiled questions hinting at a deeper meaning, and I comply honestly. “Ok then,
well that should do it. Thank you for your time Tim and please ask for me if
you ever need to talk about medications or anything.” “I will.
Thank you.” Chapter 29 The second
surgery is much less formal. Whereas the first was more of a jacket and tie
affair, this one feels more like a second date. Smart, yet casual; not quite as
awkward, but still tension in the air. They take me directly into the theatre room,
no waiting, no small talk, no earthquakes. They’re on a tight schedule, all
looking almost bludgeoned to death with tiredness. I count backwards from 10,
trying to withstand the sedation, but obviously to no avail. I wake up
moments later in my pulsating bed in the orthopaedic ward, a little heavier and
a lot sturdier. Looking down at Larry I notice his bolts and alignment are now
at slightly different angles. It kind of perturbs me in a somewhat paternal,
fatherly way. I guess everything changes over time, even inanimate objects with
projected human emotions placed on them. Georgia meets
my eyes at the end of the bed. She knew about the surgery and has made sure she’s
here when I got back. “Gross!
Have you seen your feet!?” We delve straight into the important stuff. “What? How
can I? You know where I am right?” She looks at me with a type of contempt I’ve
reserved solely for her over the years. “No,
seriously! They’re all dry, cracked and crusty.” “Really?
Well I guess I haven’t been using them much.” “Ewwwwwww!
That’s so gross.” “Thanks! I
get it! I have some extra hardcore moisturising cream that they use on my back
and legs, can you put some on my feet?” Her eyes sharpen and her nose crinkles
at the thought, but the creepy nature of the task is just too enticing for her.
“Ok then.”
I point to one of the latex glove dispensers that dot the length of the ward. “There, you
can use those.” “Can I
though? Aren’t they for nurses?” “Yeah but
it’s fine. They literally go through hundreds of them a day.” She manoeuvres
slowly over to the glove dispenser and quickly grabs a pair. She runs back to
my bed and closes all the blue curtains immediately, like she has just
committed a grievous crime and is hiding out from the cops. She pulls the
gloves over her detailed, manicured hands and picks up the lotion, squeezing a
glob into her other hand. Her face is part grimace, part eager anticipation. At
first, she can’t look as she massages the oily substance into the weathered
cracks, but as she gets used to it, she gets into it, massaging my heel all the
way to each toe. Seeing as my feet have only been touched by a starched
hospital bed sheet as it rests on my pointed toes for the last four weeks, to
have them be massaged with care and attention by a close friend almost makes me
want to cry at her selflessness. It’s a
sweet, peculiar moment that’s quickly overrun by the strong stench of ammonia
and egg. We both look around and cover our noses. I think possibly a nurse has
spilt some cleaning liquid in the bathrooms next door to my bed. “What the
f**k is that?” Georgia sputters out between coughs. “F**k
knows, but it’s foul.” Just then Georgia’s eyes widen, and her pupils dilate. “Holy
s**t!” She’s pointing to the floor next to my bed. I lift my head and shoulders
slightly and try to turn my body just enough to peek through the sidebars. There’s
an orange, clumpy liquid that is spilling out beneath it all the way to the
curtain and into the next cubicle. Georgia steps around the bed and in the most
sarcastic way possible says, “Uhh, I think your pee bag burst.” I buzz for a
nurse who runs to get some towels while another tries to stem the flow
into my neighbour’s living room with paper towels. “Don’t
worry, your drainage bag just burst, we’ll get this cleaned up and get you a
new one.” Firstly, I never thought the things could actually f*****g burst, but okay, the more worrying and
embarrassing thing to me is the fact that that orange slush is coming out of my
bladder. I have never been able to look down and see the bag’s contents, so I
figured it just looked like normal pee, a light, satisfying mellow yellow. To
know that my friends have been talking to me while seeing this discharge is
alarming for a moment, then sinks in as just kind of funny. I have no control
of any situation, so why not laugh at it. The word impermanence has become a
kind of mantra of mine, so it pops into my head most days as something will no
doubt go awry. As they
clean up my excretion, Georgia and I sit in a kind of stunned silence, slightly
aghast, watching. One of the nurses pick up a trash bag that is full of all my
clothes. It’s been lying partially open next to my bed and has not been immune
to the flooding. She wipes it with a towel and puts it on my chair. “I think
these are going to have to be washed or thrown away,” she says. I look down at
them then slowly begin to move my saddened puppy eyes up to meet Georgia’s. She
already knows. “Fine, I’ll
take them home and wash them.” The nurse puts a new bag around the old one and
hands them to Georgia. She takes it, picks up her stuff and upon departing on
her adventurous ride home just says, “You owe me.” I can’t help but laugh and
wryly say thank you. You see Georgia is a very well kempt, extremely clean
person. Everything is just so and perfect before she goes anywhere, so to think of her riding the tube home with a bag of
orange piss stained clothes in a trash bag makes me giggle a little. How evil.
I’m not exactly sure what quality I exude that would bring such amazingly
compassionate and caring people into my life, but it must be hidden in there
somewhere. If only I could find it, feel it, know it and hold onto it for dear
life. Chapter 30 Over the
preceding four weeks I’ve learned through unwanted necessity to sleep
completely still on my back. I can move around a little bit, lifting my
shoulders or pushing my torso up with my elbows the slightest amount to try and
change positions, but other than that I’m mostly still. My back constantly burns
and itches and stings to the touch. Once a day after washing me, nurses will
turn me over one side at a time to smother moisturising cream all over my back
and legs. It grows more painful each day they do it, as my back gets more and
more inflamed. The pulsing mattress helps but can only do so much. Heat builds
up and by lunch time it feels like my back is boiling in water. Morphine dulls
the throbbing, but its use in this kind of situation is minute. It’s the
powerhouse that deals with a smashed pelvis, not the subtlety of a swollen
back. My only real solution is to try and hold my upper body up with my elbows
for as long as I possibly can to let my back get air. I try and do this a few
times a day until my strength wears down. The only problem with this solution is
that it just adds to my constant overheating. My forehead is in a continual
state of sweating. I wear cold packs on my head and go through towel after
towel trying to keep up. By lunchtime my sheets are soiled with salty water and
have to be changed two-to-three times a day. My body is
feverishly working to heal itself and it needs the necessary energy and fuel to
do that. I am no longer allowed to skip meals, but am on a strict diet of
protein, fibre and water… my god how much water I go through. Constant thirst
has me grabbing the jug beside my bed and just refilling it non-stop. It began
clearing my urine from a sloppy orange to a decent dark yellow. Every couple of
hours my catheter bag gets drained in the toilet then put back to work. The
heavy doses of laxatives and stool softeners help, but the ensuing output goes
through extreme cycles. At times I can take a hit of morphine and be helped and
held over a bedpan and go naturally. Other times I wake up with diarrhea
throughout my sheets, so I’m always on an incontinence pad. But mostly days
tend to back up into each other and the colonic will have to happen once again.
I try every other way to get the build-up out, once even sticking my finger up
my butt to try and move it out, that’s how terrified of it I am. But it has to
happen and occurs about once a week. The longest, most painful and embarrassing
thing that I have probably ever been through has become routine, just like
everything else in this place. People move
in and out of the ward constantly, new faces greet the ward daily. Echo is
still in his small walled off room, keeping the curtains closed constantly. But
one sad day he hobbled out, police escort in tow and gave me a small, defeated
looking wave goodbye. He looked weak and downtrodden, finally understanding his
fate I guess. I was disheartened by his leaving but within an hour a new man
with an amputated leg moved in. He kept quiet and to himself and always has his
curtains shut, just as Echo did. But the way the curtains close, leaving a
small gap only visible to my direction, I can always see his stump, hanging
above him in a sling contraption. Twice a day I watch as the nurses undress the
bandages, clean the wound and re-bandage it. It’s the most surreal looking
wound I’ve ever seen, like someone has just hacked away at his leg with a
serrated knife then messily stitched it up with string. One flap of skin
stretches over the other and will often bleed. Every morning I check on his leg
to see how much blood has soaked through the bandage in the night. As my stay
grows longer, the less blood there is. It’s a like a visual barometer of
healing, his body is slowly making do with the new system. It’s comforting, as
although I can’t see my healing, I know my body is doing the same. I slowly
and deliberately move the angle of my bed up a degree almost daily, being able
to see slightly more of the ward around me as I do. Every day I can move my
feet a little more and arch my back a little higher off the bed. It’s progress,
I can feel my body changing and it gives me a little more strength, and hope,
day by day. Although
the ward and my body are constantly changing, two things remain stubbornly
constant. The old curmudgeon opposite me with his portraits and reading chair
and his hairy tempered friend who is in the adjoining room just outside of my
view. Both are mobile, and both are just as grumpy and horrible as the other.
They aren’t allowed to leave the orthopaedic ward but can roam some of the
hallways with their wheelchairs. At least twice a day they yell for the other one,
“Let’s take a look around!” meeting in front of my bed in their wheelchairs and
wheeling off down the ward, usually brought back fifteen minutes later by
security for smoking in the toilets. That’s all they ever do. They never learn
their lesson. They’re above everyone else in their minds and push the nursing
staff around and bully them. Smoke sometimes wafts from the toilet next to my
bed and one of them will inevitably come out snickering and winking at me. I
guess they figure they’re old enough to do what they want and won’t be told
what to do by some young, inexperienced nurses. However,
there is one nurse they don’t mess with, in fact nobody messes with her.
Everyone calls her Nana and she comes in the early evening and stays until
lights out. Technically she isn’t a nurse at all anymore, she’s well passed
retirement and comes in to help change sheets, chat, feed patients and
generally help the understaffed nursing team. She’s a short, plump Jamaican
woman who always wears netting around her sizeable afro and moves as slow as a
tortoise. She must be in her late seventies but her mere presence demands
respect, she has seen and heard it all. Her eyes are kind and forgiving, her
laugh bellows down the ward so everyone knows she’s here. But don’t dare cross
her or blaspheme the Lord, as she has no problem slapping or talking down
anyone she deems unworthy. But if you are respectful and kind, she will open
her heart to you. She prays for everyone on the ward and will hug each of us as
she makes her way down the beds. She’s gentle and concerned; the fact that we are
strangers makes no real difference to her. It’s like she can sense sadness,
fear and loneliness and talk you through it. Some days she spends an hour with
me, others 10 minutes. It all depends on who needs the most care that day in
her eyes. I still don’t know her real name or much about her, just Nana. She’s
the wards paternal grandmother and a welcome sight for everyone. Chapter 31 My Dad is
calling, and I pick up. “Hey, Dad.”
“Hi, Tim.
How are you feeling?” “Okay, I
guess. Just worn out.” “Well we’ve
been going back and forth with your travel insurance company and they’ve
finally agreed to pay for your flight home. There was a problem with a clause
in the contract concerning drugs and alcohol that they were determined to fight
against. But eventually they had to give in as your blood was never tested for
drugs when you arrived at the hospital, so they can’t legally confirm that you
had any in your system. So that means they have to pay.” “Wait,
what? I didn’t even know this was going on. I’m going home? How? I can’t even
get out of bed.” By this point I knew I couldn’t stay in London, but I didn’t
know leaving would happen so soon. It’s taken me weeks of stubborn defiance but
eventually the walls have crumbled around me. The thought of leaving what I had
started makes me feel like a failure. Returning to New Zealand like this makes
me wish at times that I had died when I fell. It depresses me immensely just
thinking about it. Panic attacks now rise and fall every couple of days at the
mere thought or utterance of my return home. But I know this isn’t where I
belong anymore. I need my family and friends at home for support. “Well
you’ll be taken on a bed throughout the flight with two nurses who will
accompany you. The flight is tomorrow night. Then they’ll transport you to
Auckland hospital where we’ll meet you.” “Tomorrow!?
What about my clothes and my medications, my computer and passport? I’m not
ready, I have to say bye to friends.” “Everything
will be taken care of by the nurses who will fly with you. Say goodbye to
anyone you need to. You need to come home, there is no other option this is the
flight booked by travel insurance.” “Okay.” We
talk a little more about logistics and what has been happening, then we say
goodbye and hang up the phone. I lay my head back in my pillow and tears well
up in my eyes. As one drifts down my cheek I wipe it away and pick up my phone
again. I text everyone I know and tell them I’m going home, tonight is my final
night in London. Chapter 32 Georgia heads
to the hospital straight after work and says goodbye first. She has graciously
washed my soiled clothes and is returning them for my journey. We chat for a
bit, she eats some of my hospital food (which she loves for some strange
reason) and I thank her for all her support. It’s a dry thank you and a dry
goodbye, there’s nothing I can really put into words at this point to show how
much her help, support and understanding means to me. Nothing can. I hope she
understands that fact. She leaves as we have always left each other, wondering
when we’ll see each other again, and if so, where and under what circumstances. About an
hour after Georgia left the boys come. James, Tim, Akash and John, carrying a
plastic bag full of beers. I crack up laughing and pop one. They pull up next
to me and laugh and joke about how crazy this whole situation has been. We look
around for nurses, cheers to surviving and my trip home the next day. It’s the
first drop of alcohol I’ve had in six weeks and its taste feels like I’m normal
again, drinking with the lads. As we sip and reminisce I’m ever aware of the
ticking clock and its countdown to visiting hours being over. It makes me
afraid, afraid to be alone again. But almost instantaneously it brings me back,
once again, to the idea of impermanence. All good things and bad will always
come to an end. I’m content in that fact now and breathe the slightest sigh of
relief in knowing that this end can only morph into the next beginning. It’s
the one true constant in this world and an immensely reassuring thing. I’m
humbled once more and laugh until I feel like I can’t breathe one more second. I’m happy. Part 3. Chapter 33 I’m lying
on my parent’s couch, our cat Daisy firmly ensconced lengthwise in the small
crest between my body and the couches cushions. She purrs softly in her warmth
as winter winds and frozen rain lash against the window. I look down at my
glass of wine; it haunts me once more. I’m still drunk and sick. It’s 3pm and I
want to smash that f*****g glass into little bits. I slide another morphine pill
into my mouth, not quite sure of what number I’m on, and wash it down with a
swig of the vile liquid, hoping one more pill will do the trick. I let out a
sigh; I know it’s time. I begin planning how I’m going to commit suicide that
night. It’s been a
long time coming. The darkness provides no light at the end of its long,
whispering tunnel. It had petered out in a soft whimper weeks before and has
never shone since. This is now the only path I can take, and I know how to do
it. It’s now only a matter of having the courage. I know some will see it as
cowardly, but these are not people who have sunk to the very bottom, where
there is no light above, chained and weighed down by muddied sharp rocks,
drowning and gasping for one more breath. You tell me I’m a coward? Then I wish
all of this horror upon you. I want to
cry, to do something or at least feel something strong enough to break me out
of this course of action. Anything. But all that’s left is a huge lump in my
throat, a lump that I can never swallow down no matter how hard I try. Larry has
been removed and his scars are the only remnants he leaves behind of his proud
past. He now lies next to my bed, just pieces of scrap metal with no real worth
anymore. My only
true confidants are intoxicants, once again. They understand the darkness and
numb it for me with no judgment. My other friends have lives, jobs and
important social events to attend to. All of that is just drivel in my eyes.
Luke is my only real contact, but I haven’t ventured passed my gate in weeks. I
have tried, but I f*****g hate what lies beyond it. Swarms of the hopelessly
deluded I call them, ‘happy’ people going about their day. They’re so
self-involved and apathetic to the misery that lies beyond their latte’s and marketing
quotas; thousands of vicious acts taking place in every corner of the world,
every day. “How sad,” they say, until they change the channel or flip the page
to something more palatable than a suicide bombing. I belong
here, behind the garage, the farthest point I can live from the white picket
fence at the front of the property. I spend most days watching documentaries or
reading articles, over and over and over again until I can’t sleep without
brutal, violent dreams filling my subconscious. Most mornings the ground will
be awash with water and sticky patches of dried wine, all results of the
previous nights’ kicking, punching and thrashing about in the dark; a
reoccurring, imagined, fight for my life. The anxiety
bursts through me like electricity at the opening of my eyelids each morning,
crippling me with fear and a loss of breath. I scramble for the morphine bottle
and Lorazepam to quell my nerves. As the anxiety withdraws sadness inevitably takes
its place, growing steadily worse throughout the day. I find scraps of alcohol,
mostly wine, throughout the house or have Luke bring me some when he comes
over, which I drink steadily throughout the day, adding morphine at intervals
giving me slow, steady glances of hope. It’s all a façade, I know, but it keeps
me alive one more day. But today I’ve had enough. Chapter 34 I get up
off the sofa, being careful not to wake my serene sleeping companion. I hobble
on my one crutch from the house to my bedroom, in track-pants, a t-shirt and no
shoes. My room is about as far as I can make it most days without stumbling
around like a haggard drunk in the winter weather. I keep the bottle of pills
in my pocket and carry the wine in my free hand. I’ve positioned a folding
chair in the middle of the empty garage while my parents are at work, placed
near enough to its open door that I can feel wisps of rain on my bare feet, but
just far enough away that I won’t get drenched. I light a cigarette and stare
at the back of my parent’s house through the downpour. I sit silently and
watch, sipping wine and ashing cigarettes into the paint bucket I have found
under the old workbench. I stay here until the pain of my pelvis becomes too
much, and only then move to the comfort of my bed. There’s something about this
area around the back of the house that makes me feel safe. Old memories of
growing up and playing here as a child in my sandpit and tree-house make me
know I was always loved and protected. It gives me warmth whilst I’m shivering
from the cold. It’s a nice place to say goodbye. As the day
grows darker, I lie watching the ceiling while I drink. I fall in and out of
small dozes, only becoming cognisant as my parents arrive home and stop in to
say hello to see how I am. I hide the bottle and act as if everything is okay.
They know I’m depressed and have tried to help me the best way they can, with a
psychiatrist and psychologist to get me through. I love them for that, but it
simply is not enough anymore. I keep my true feelings and proposed plans deeply
hidden from everyone. I have put them through enough and will soon rid them of
my dead weight. I’m
frustratingly contemplating what is about to happen for hours. Weighing every
thought and prospect of my actions aftermath. I love my family, my friends and
animals so dearly and I know how much pain this will cause them. But I don’t
love any part of my life anymore. I’m selfish. I always have been. I stare at
my watch as each second ticks closer to the time. I’m so intoxicated by this
point the smallest thing can consume my attention for minutes. I wait until
11pm and begin gathering every type of pill I can find, from morphine to Prozac
to Lorazepam to Ibuprofen, and dump them all on the bed. I stare at them
intently, knowing that once I have swallowed this colourful assortment, they will
go to work shutting down my body bit by bit until there is nothing left
functioning. My hands shake
as I pick up the first clump of pills. I take a deep breath, put as many as I can
in my mouth, fill it with wine and start swallowing. It takes longer than I
thought and far more wine than I can drink in one go, but I keep shoving them
into my mouth until there’s none left. I finish the last mouthful of wine and
lay the glass on the ground, my eyes welling up with tears. I put my head on
the pillow, get under the duvet and turn off the light. I message Luke,
reminding him to play ‘Highway to hell’ at my funeral. He messages back
laughing, not knowing of my intentions. It’s a nice ending. I close my eyes
while listening to the rain hitting the roof and wait to die. Chapter 35 I wake up
suddenly, gasping, trying to catch an ounce of air. Vomit and bile have filled
my throat and mouth and cover my pillow. I try to swallow it back down while I
limp as fast as I can to the toilet. Everything comes up in a flood of brown
liquid. My body can’t expel my stomach contents fast enough. It keeps coming as
I try to catch my breath between each convulsion. I can see whole pills
floating amongst the dark brown slush, others semi-digested. After a few
minutes the convulsions slow, but my stomach and throat burn with pain. Once
the convulsions stop I fall back onto the bathroom floor, barely able to keep
my head up. I close my eyes for a brief second then everything goes black. When I open
my eyes in the morning I’m still on the bathroom floor, my throat burning,
stomach on fire and pelvis in unbearable pain. I don’t know what has happened
or where I am. I climb up to the basin and turn on the faucet. I can’t drink
the water fast enough. I drink and drink until my stomach is full. Limping slowly
over to my bed, I throw my pillow on the ground and pass out again. When I come
to the second time, it’s late afternoon. My whole body is writhing in pain, but
I can’t bring myself to take another pill. It makes me sick, just the thought
of it. I get up out of bed and look at the aftermath. It smells like it looks
and the vomit has dried to a crust everywhere. My parents couldn’t have seen
this as they would have awoken me instantly. I have to clean it up before my
parents come home. I wash the sheets, spray everything down, mop and shower all
through unspeakable pain. But this is my penance, for my failure. I climb back
into bed with a large plastic bottle of water I use each night and have to take
two morphine tablets and my psych meds. It hurts swallowing them down as my
throat is so swollen, but the pain is just too much now. I’m scared.
Scared of what I’ve done. I need help. I have no
idea if I will do it again, but I don’t want to come close to it. I ring my
psychiatrist’s office and make an appointment for the next day. I need clarity
as to how I got to this point and how to get passed it. I have to
be brutally honest. Chapter 36 The next
day I hobble into a taxi to my first appointment with my psychiatrist. I let
most of it out, crying most of the time. She’s a very empathetic, caring soul
who has gone through depression herself. She ups some of my dosages and adds a
new anti-depressant to my regimen. I’m to see her once a week to track my
progress and she gives me her cell phone number in case of an emergency. My next
appointment is with my psychologist, who is luckily in the same building. He’s
a straightforward guy who tells me with no uncertainty that he knows the right
path forward but will drop me in a second if I don’t follow it strictly. He knows
he can make me better, but I have to place all my trust in him. He has an odd
faith in me, which I latch onto immediately. I tell him about what had
happened. It feels unimaginably cathartic to let it out to a stranger who is
ethically and legally obliged to keep it a secret. Except, as I forgot, in the
case of whether I would again try to hurt myself, or others. In this case, he
offers a mandatory proposition: I’m to see him three times a week, check in
with him daily through email and he asks my permission to call my parents. Not
to tell them of my attempt, but to ask them to take all medication out of my
room, hide it, and give me my prescribed amount daily. He also will ask them to
hide all alcohol and check my room for it. Otherwise he will have to admit me
to hospital. I
reluctantly agree. I’m also told
I have to go to my physical therapy gym three times a week and exercise for an
hour each time with the advice I had been given by my physical therapist. These
were all non-negotiable. Once again,
I agree. He then asks
me one of the hardest questions I’ve ever had to answer: When was the last time
you were truly happy and how did you end up at this point today? “Honestly,
I don’t think I’ve ever been truly
happy,” I answer. “That’s not
good enough,” he counters. “To feel this depressed means there was a point in
which there was an opposite, otherwise this would have been your entire life
and you would have tried to commit suicide long ago,” he says bluntly. I curl
my face at his retort, knowing I had been out-manoeuvred. “Off the
top of my head? Probably the night I left the hospital in London and was having
sneaky beers in my cubicle with my friends. It was just before I went on an
absolutely bizarre plane ride home. But since landing back in Auckland it’s kind
of been a gradual decline. I was depressed before I left for London, but
somehow falling off that building and breaking my pelvis jolted me back into
some kind of normality. Once that was gone, I felt nothing again.” “Tell me
about that night, what was so special about it?” he asks. “My friends
who had been with me from my accident and throughout my hospital stay had
brought in some beers for my last night in the hospital, before I left to fly
back to Auckland the next day. It was different than anything we had done
hundreds of times before… it made me feel normal again, happy, I guess.” “Why was
this different?” “Context.
They had helped me through a really rough time and there was a sense of some
type of closure. Plus, we were drinking in a hospital which was funny.” “Closure of
what exactly?” “My time in
London, that I was feeling okay mentally and was healing well. I felt like I
was moving forward from the past.” “Can I ask
how much morphine you were on?” “I don’t
know the exact dosage, but it was a lot.” “How much
are you on now?” “Eight
pills a day. That’s what I’m supposed to be on. But I take twelve to sixteen I’d
say.” “How do you
keep up with that many pills and your prescriptions?” “I call and
say I’m in more pain, and they usually supply me more for that month. I take
that prescription to a different pharmacy so they both think I’m on a lower
dose.” “That’s
drug seeking behaviour. Do you believe you’re addicted?” “Yes. How
can you not be when you’ve been on morphine every day for five months?” “Do you
want to keep feeling this depressed?” “Obviously
not.” “Well
addiction to opioids and your subsequent drinking with them only worsens your
condition. Do you want to come off them?” “Yes and
no. I feel pain when I’m not on them but it’s mostly in my head at this point.”
I don’t know why I’m saying this or being so honest, I love and need morphine,
but somewhere deep down a compulsion is telling me the right way. “Is it okay
if I call your doctor and tell him about the addiction so he can help you come
off them?” “I dunno. That
scares the s**t outta me. I don’t know if I’m ready. I need them. What if my
pain gets worse? What if I go through withdrawal?” “These are
questions your doctor can answer. But I think it’s best for your mental health
moving forward that we get you off intoxicants, including alcohol.” I sigh and
look at my feet for a while, mulling over in my head what was more important to
me. “Okay,” I say
reluctantly. “I’m afraid
our time is up, Tim.” “Oh, okay.” “Can you
write down your parents and doctors numbers for me? I’ll call them right after
this.” As I write them down I know I only have about half an hour to get home
and hoard enough morphine pills as I can. Alcohol will be difficult, but I can
find that more easily. “Okay, book
a time for Wednesday with Aileen at the front desk. Then book out every Monday,
Wednesday and Friday for the next two months.” “Okay,” I
say, feeling depleted and almost defeated. I make my appointments then shuffle
out the front door and call a cab. I have a special cab coupon card that comes
with my disability benefit. However, it’s only with one cab company so it
sometimes takes longer than expected. I’m anxious to get home before anyone
else can find and take away my morphine. When I
finally arrived home my Mum’s car is in the driveway, she’s home for lunch,
which she does some days. I’m not sure if she knows yet or not. I open the
front door and walk to the kitchen where she’s making lunch. “I just got
a call from your psychologist,” she says. The blood in my face drains
instantly. “He said that you wanted me to take your medicines and have me
ration them out for you daily, why’s that?” she asks. “It’s just
a precaution. I’m taking so many meds lately I don’t want to confuse them or
take too many of the wrong ones.” “Fair
enough. Let’s go get them then.” F**k. I‘m too late. I haven’t hidden any of
them they’re all in my bookcase next to my bed. If she finds one, she finds
them all. I show her where they are, in a big tupperware container and she takes
them. “I’ll check
the dosages and leave them on the table before I go to work in the morning.
Sound good? I’m also moving the wine and other alcohol. I know it’s been hard
on you, but this is a good thing.” “Sure.”
This all sounds f*****g horrible actually. The morphine I’m on now is
diminishing rapidly and I only have two doses left for the day, or a total of
four measly tablets. That’s not enough to sustain me. Not even close. I lie
down on my bed and watch Law & Order, trying to take my mind off of morphine.
But as each episode comes to a close, my body aches just a little more for
those tiny blue pills. Wine would help immensely, but I have no way of getting
it. I’m f*****g petrified at the thought of having nothing to use. As I lie in
bed listening to the rain pitter-patter on the roof, I think back to my flight
home and its absurdity; it reminds me of a Seinfeld episode. It helps to keep
the negative thoughts at bay. I was lying in my hospital bed, waiting anxiously for what was about to
come. I knew scant details and was unprepared, trying desperately to muster some
confidence. As the paramedics arrived and surrounded my bed I knew there was no
turning back. The nurses had packed all my belongings, I had been washed and
given my medications and a large dose of morphine. I would be meeting the
nurses who would be accompanying me on the flight at Heathrow. The ambulance
officers lifted me onto their stretcher using sheets, then began to strap my
body, tightening me in place. One of the officers, a portly man with a ginger
moustache and deep London accent, said “Are we ready, mate?” “I guess so.” I shyly waved goodbye to
the nurses, thanked them once more, and was wheeled down the ward, passing
every bed and every person who I knew were there, but had never been able to
see before from my viewpoint. Some looked at me with a strange bewilderment;
others didn’t care or even look up. We began threading through the hallways
which were small and unable to fit two beds passing each other. We got stuck in
traffic and time simultaneously. I pulled my phone from my small bag I had
hanging off the stretcher and began recording from my point of view. I knew I’d
never be able to see this again, so I’d capture it for posterities sake. We
waited patiently in line until the elevator’s giant door opened, and I was
pushed into the atrium of the hospital, an overwhelmingly large meeting and
waiting area with trees, natural light and expansive spaces. The roof was made
of glass and it felt like I was in a ginormous glasshouse. It was breathtaking
in its scope compared to the small rooms I had occupied for the previous six
weeks. “It’s quite something, innit?” the
paramedic said. “Wow, it really is.” I couldn’t help but
notice the difference between the facade of the hospital and its guts, but I
was impressed nonetheless. They pushed me through the main hospital
entrance and outside where it was cold and raining, the air invigorating and crisp
against my face. I filled my lungs with as much of it as possible. I hadn’t
been outside for six weeks, the only light coming from fluorescent bulbs and
the stale air reconstituted through air conditioners. This was pure, and all
mine. The paramedics lifted my stretcher into
the awaiting ambulance and locked it in. One drove and the other stayed in the
back with me. I drifted in and out of sleep as we weaved our way through London
traffic, catching small glimpses of people on the street or black cabs passing
by while I was lucid. As we neared Heathrow I was awoken by the roar of jets
above. Lights filled the ambulance and people whirred by on the sidewalks. We
kept driving until everything grew quiet and eventually no people were around, just
empty streets, dark and devoid of anything. Shipping containers and trucks
began to pop up around the sides of the ambulances windows. We came to an
abrupt stop, and the doors to the ambulance swung open. It was dark outside and
still raining, but huge fluorescent lights lit the entire background filled
with shipping containers and ginormous cranes moving them around. A man jumped
into the back and asked for my passport. The ambulance officer gave it to him
and he left with it. It was then that I was introduced to my
two companions for the flight home, Steve and Uban. Steve was white and from
Sussex, brilliantly British. Uban was a second-generation Sudanese immigrant
with a solid South London accent. Both were nurses and did this for a living,
travelling the world with sick patients. What a job I thought. “So how does this all work?” I asked. “Well, we’re taking you through security
now then we’ve got a bed waiting for on the plane to transport you back to New
Zealand,” Steve said. “Wow, first class,” I joked. The
security guard came back with my passport then asked to pad me down. He was
soaked from the rain and in a hurry. Everyone was except for me. The open doors
let the wind bring some of the rain into the ambulance, it flurried around, some
landing gently on my face. “I bet you’ll be glad to be heading into
summer, away from this shite,” the security guard said as he padded me down. He
pulled the sheet that was covering me, revealing Larry. “F**k, would you look at that? That’s
some piece of hardware you’ve got there.” “Yeah, it’s different alright.” I was
half anxious, half perplexed by the whole situation. He padded me down and
looked around the stretcher, then gave his okay. “Well, best of luck buddy.” “Thanks.” Uban quickly covered me up in
a blanket then the ambulance officers strapped me back in. “Don’t worry, Tim. You’ll be just fine.
We’ll look after you,” Uban said gently. He had big pink lips and chubby
cheeks, his eyes were kind and his eye lashes were longer than any I had seen
on a man before. He had a calming way about him, he made me feel a little more
at ease. “We’ve done this hundreds of times, Tim,
you’re in good hands,” Steve chimed in. He was readying his medical bag and
checking my catheter. He then unhooked my catheter drip bag and placed it
between my legs. It was still as orange as fanta. “Alright, let’s go.” The ambulance
officer closed the doors and we began driving, through large barb-wired gates,
then darkness, until the vehicles interior lit up again with light and I could
see the huge underbelly of a jumbo jet appear beside me. “Are we on the tarmac?” I asked. “Sure are. We’re heading to your plane.
You’ll be first on.” We sped past rows of planes from all
sorts of different countries; Air France, Air Canada, Air China. All lit up in
a magnificent glow as we peered through the wind-swept rainy windows at these
monstrous pieces of machinery. After coming to a slow stop, the doors opened
once again and everybody, except me, got out. The ambulance slowly manoeuvred
backwards into a position where I could see about ten people and a large
container. The ambulance officers
jumped in the back, unhooked me from the vehicle and pulled me out, landing
smack dab in the middle of an icy shower. I looked up and after wiping my eyes from
the rain I saw something that historically had always meant a lot to me; the
koru that adorns every Air New Zealand aeroplane tail. I turned my phone to it
to capture it before it disappeared. Since I was a child flying back and forth
from America, that tail meant something when I saw it through the airport
window. Some nostalgic idea of home. It was part of my countries heritage and
part of my heritage, we were intertwined. For the first time since leaving New
Zealand I felt absolutely sure I was heading in the right direction. The container before me was at the back
of the jumbo jet and was used to load food and beverages aboard it. They pushed
me into its belly, loaded with about ten other people, all saying hello and how
lucky I was in tandem, then the motor started, and we began to rise, eventually
making it to the back door of the plane where I was greeted by that
indistinguishable accent from the deep south. “Mr. Hagan, welcome aboard, it’s so
great to have you,” one of the attendants said. “Thanks, it’s really nice to be here.” I
was at the very backend of the plane as they moved me into the main cabin. I
couldn’t be with the normal passengers, could I? How does that work? Don’t they
have a special area for the invalids? It turned out no. They pushed me a few
feet up the aisle until I lay next to a makeshift bed to my right. They had
taken seats out of the plane and installed a bed there. The ambulance officers
unstrapped me from my stretcher and everyone helped lift me to my new resting
place. The ambulance officers left out the back door and I was left with Steve,
Uban and two flight attendants. They once again strapped me onto the bed and
organised my catheter, their medical bags and equipment and where they would be
sitting, just to my left in the economy cabin. A makeshift curtain could be
closed around me for privacy, but it had to be open while boarding, take-off
and landing took place. “Everything okay, Tim?” Steve asked. “Yeah, I think so. I’m just in some pain
and it’s hard to get comfortable.” He helped me with pillows and put some on
each side of my pelvis for extra cushioning. He then reached into his medical
bag and unwrapped a syringe of morphine, jotting down the time in his notebook.
I opened wide and swallowed it, making sure I once again got every last drop by
rummaging around in my mouth with my tongue. “Every two hours we’ll wake you and give
you more so you’re comfortable throughout the whole flight.” “Okay, thank you.” Uban took my catheter
drip bag from between my legs, changed it then hung the new one on the left
side of my bed, where they (and everyone else in the cabin mind you) could see
and empty it throughout the flight. Uban carried it to the bathroom and
released its contents into the toilet. “There,” he said with a big smile on his
face, “we’re all ready to go.” The cabin crew called the front and
within a few minutes passengers started dripping in. Everyone (and I mean
everyone) stared at me. A baby stopped crying and just stared. One person
bumped into the person ahead of them because they were staring, and once
everyone began to be seated, they just kept staring. One woman in particular
looked almost horrified at my sight, like I had Ebola or something. I turned
away and looked out the window. It was still raining, and bags were being piled
into the planes underbelly. I looked at the strange tent that Larry made under
the white sheets, it looked even more pronounced as the straps tightened around
it. It kind of looked like I had a pretty hefty boner, I thought. Holy s**t, do
these people think I have a raging boner going on under these sheets? Is that
why they’re all staring? F*****g hell. Not only was my orange discharge visible
to the passengers surrounding me, they may now also believe I’m either turned
on by my predicament or some type of serial offender being transferred home. I
had no idea. I took a deep breath and just smiled, waved to the small child,
then fell asleep. Most of the flight was a comatosed blur,
95% of which was slept through. Every two hours my curtains would be opened,
and I would swallow the next round of morphine, then pass out again. My
laxatives had been stopped the day before and I had eaten minimal amounts of
food the day of flying so I wouldn’t have to take a s**t in front of a cabin
full of terrified strangers. After making a short layover in Hong
Kong the cabin began filling up again. Steve and Uban made sure I was doped up
for the remaining portion of the flight, leaving no room for me to get any more
uncomfortable after the already laborious 18 hours of flying. Chapter 38 My body spasmed and my head jolted into
the side window as we touched down. I looked around at a darkened cabin. “Everything okay, Tim?” Steve asked. “Yeah, have we landed?” “Sure have. Welcome home.” “Yeah…” My speech trailed off into a
long sigh as my mind wandered. Home. It felt strange to hear it. It’s a
relative thought, tied to so many things. I was born and raised in New Zealand,
my friends and family are here, and I do consider it my home, but in a strange,
distant way by that point. ‘Home’ held a lot of negativity, a lot of pain. I
left New Zealand with the naive hope of finding something out there; humanity
in all earths cultures, a newfound trust in the human condition. I wanted to
forge new, deep and meaningful friendships with people from strange and distant
lands that could give me faith that there is an inherent morality that all
people share. That the world is not all suffering and heartache. Travel was
going to be my new home, something that would unburden me of this unwanted dark
cloak that hung itself so heavily around my shoulders. But I had completed none of that. All I
had managed to do was dig myself deeper into a hole, deeper into my addictions
and self-delusions and ultimately deeper into my depression. I’ve always been
good at dreaming, but horrible at executing. My self-doubt crippling me the
second I try. My fear of failure is so all-consuming in everything I do I
barely want to try to take that first step. ‘If you don’t try, you can’t fail’
has always been my mantra, and it had once again been proven right. I had
lasted two horrible, dreary winter weeks in London and failed once more.
Embarrassingly so. The passengers slowly filtered out,
blurry eyed and tired. They still stared, but less emphatically. They just
wanted to get the hell off the plane. As the last few petered out, ambulance
officers entered the back of the plane. I was given my last dose of morphine in
preparation for my ride to Auckland Hospital. “Hey, Tim. Welcome home mate. Jeez I
heard about your accident, I bet you’re happy you’re still here.” “Sure am, it’s good to be home.” This
facade of pre-determined answers had been on high rotation over the past six
weeks, and I had a feeling that it would only get worse. Truthfully, I wasn’t
sure if I was happy to be here, whether that meant alive or back in New
Zealand. I wasn’t sure of much at that point. They pulled the stretcher next to my
make-shift bed and gathered around me to hoist me over. Once re-strapped to the
new stretcher I was again taken out the back of the plane and put in the food
storage hoist truck, lowered slowly to the ground then pushed outside. The sun
blinded me straight away and the heat was intense. I had forgotten it was
summer. As the sunlight touched my skin I could already feel it burning. I took
a deep breath and could taste the fresh air. It was warm and delicate, the
breeze captured with it hints of the ocean which I had missed so much. It was
raw and earthy, and I felt connected to it. I was on solid ground. We arrived at the hospital and they
carted me through the back entryway with Steve and Uban in tow. After signing
me in we waited in the corridor until they could take me to my new bed. An hour
or so went passed when I heard a familiar voice. It was unmistakably Mum’s. She
rounded the corner with Dad and they let out huge smiles, as did I. It was
incredibly emotional to see them, I immediately knew I was in the right place
to get better, all I had needed was to see their faces and feel the warmth of
their obvious joy that their son was alive and at home. It beamed off them. We
hugged and thanked the nurses, Steve and Uban. They were heading to South
America in a couple of days to bring a British boy home who had broken his
back. “What an odd career,” Mum quipped. It
was like I had never left. An orderly came and pushed my bed
through the hallways, up the elevator, into the new orthopaedic ward. I was put
into a single room, overlooking the carpark and part of the medical school
across the road. My best friend Luke and his girlfriend Zoe were doing their
PhD’s there, so it felt comforting to know they were close by. I was
transferred to my new bed; it had white sheets, a white blanket, white side
bars and didn’t move around like my previous mattress. Everything was sparse
and mundane, but to look outside and see deep, bright blue skies uncluttered
with pesky clouds and a huge, melting molten sun beaming its searing rays
through the window uplifted my spirit and let me know I was truly back in the
homeland. That day friends and family filtered in
and out, all with the same questions, the same line, “You’re so lucky to be
alive,” the same fascination with Larry and me with the same facade, one I had
been perfecting for weeks now. It was nice to see everyone, but it was tiring,
trying to keep up. My sister and her partner Scott came in the early evening,
then left with my parents. They would be back tomorrow. I lay my head back into
my pillow, exhausted. Chapter 39 My mind is now in a mad rush, trying to
remember everything that has happened since the accident. I need to store it
all somewhere, for posterities sake. I grab my laptop and open a blank word
document. The cursor sits there, dashing, waiting for something, some kind of
input. I don’t know where to start. I look to my left and see my claw, a small
device I had been given by the hospital staff in London that was about a metre
long with a hand grip and trigger at one end and a closing claw at the other,
so I was able to pick things up from my immediate surroundings. It takes me
back to my first night in Auckland hospital and what a nightmare it became. I start to write. I was now in my new room at Auckland
hospital. The first day had grown dark and I could see some of the cities
lights coating the night sky from my window. I used the claw to grab the buzzer
that had fallen to the floor. It took the nurse around twenty minutes to get to
my room. Everything seemed slower there for some reason. The nurse seemed perturbed
by my interference with his working schedule. He was an incredibly effeminate
Maori man, tall and thin with heavy blue nail polish and his hair in a tight
bun atop his head. He wore a net around it to keep it firmly in place. “Hi, can I help you?” What a welcome I
thought. No name, no indication of where I was or how things worked. “Ahh, yeah. Could I get some pain
medicine please?” My whole lower body was aching and felt swollen and sharp
pains were now spreading down my right leg. “And could I get someone to change
my dressings?” Larry had withstood the long flight home and the many twists and
turns he had taken to keep my body aligned, but the aftermath of such upheaval
had left my bandages soaked in yellow and red ooze, even though they had been
changed throughout the flight. He looked down at Larry with a scrunched brow
and confused look on his face. “Wow, I’ve never seen anything like
that,what is that?” he asked. “What?” I snapped. “Isn’t all of this in
my paperwork?” I was now genuinely concerned that no one had any f*****g clue
what was going on with me. “Yes, we’re just going through that now
and will be briefed soon by the doctor on duty tonight. In the meantime, let me
check your pain medications and I’ll get someone to change those bandages.” He left abruptly as Luke and Zoe came
through the door. “Sup bro! Jesus, what the f**k have you
done now?” Luke said laughing. I started laughing just at the sight of that
smarmy mother-fuckers face. “Just living life on the edge bro.” “Edge of a building apparently.” We both
cracked up and it was like nothing had happened from the time I last saw him
until that moment. I was glad to be home if it meant I could see him again. “Hi Tim!!!” Zoe blurted out in her
sarcastic tone as she knew that kind of feigned happiness annoyed the f**k out
of me. “Hey Zoe,” I said as I squinted wryly to
show my displeasure. We all hugged, and they made themselves at home. It felt
strangely like I was finally in the right place at the right time. I felt
happy. About ten minutes into our conversation Vikram walked in, a friend of
all of ours who was a resident doctor at the hospital. “HOLY S**T,” he proclaimed loudly, his
eyes wide and his words bursting with excitement. “I was going down my list of
patients for tonight and saw your name. Sooo… it looks like I’m your doctor for
tonight. What the f**k.” We all started laughing and I was in shock. Vikram was
a good friend and we had all done and seen some f*****g weird s**t together, so
it was strange to have him literally be in charge of all of my care that night.
He’s also younger than me. What the f**k alright. “Ok, then as my doctor can you get me
some damned morphine and clean these f*****g bandages?” “Haha yeah, the nurse came and asked me
about that. Pain meds are on the way and I’ll get the nurse to come and clean
up the bandages. Let’s have a look?” I pulled up my gown so it was just above
Larry and the sheet was just below, covering my junk. “This is Larry, in all his
magnificence,” I said. “Larry?” Luke asked. “Yeah it’s a mixture of Luke and Barry
haha. You’re inside me now bro.” “That’s f*****g creepy dude,” as Luke
began laughing. “I’ve never seen a pelvis fixed like
this before, we still don’t use this method yet, it’s really new,” Dr. Vikram
duly noted. He pulled up the bandages, “Huh,” he said, “interesting.” “Interesting? Don’t you guys all keep up
with this s**t, didn’t you see my notes?” “Yup and gone over your MRI and X-rays.
I’m surprised you survived. I saw about seven fractures throughout your pelvis.
If you had done that here, you’d probably never be able to walk again as we’d
have to put you in a cast. But ‘Larry’ let’s your body move more naturally, so
you’ve got a way better chance. Everything’s pretty much back in place now,
also thanks two the two screws, we’ll just have to see how it heals.” I had
never even really thought about the walking part, I was just trying to get
through the lying-completely-still-for-six-weeks part. I had just always
assumed that I would walk again, maybe a little differently, but still walk. To
hear that that may never have happened, and I’d be in a wheelchair for the rest
of my life shocked me. “S**t, really?” “Welcome to the New Zealand healthcare
system Timmy,” Luke said sarcastically. “I guess I was in the right place at the
right time to fall off a building,” I said. “King’s Cross is known internationally
for their pelvic unit, so technically, yeah,” Vikram said. “Anyway, I’ve got to do the rounds, the
nurse will be in soo… and here he is. Just on time.” “I have your pain medication here, Tim,”
the nurse said. He had a small plastic cup with two blue pills in it. “Pills?” I said looking at Vikram. “I’ve
been using oral syringes.” “Yeah we don’t do that in New Zealand.
Don’t worry, it’s the same dosage of morphine, taken every four hours.” “Man, I liked the boysenberry flavour
and quick release though,” I sighed. “Haha, yeah, but these are longer
lasting and will keep your pain in check. Anyway, buzz the nurse if you need
anything and I’ll swing by later to check up on you.” “Cool, thanks man.” I swallowed the
pills and lay back into my pillow. “We gotta head too,” Luke said. “We’ll
come by in the morning with some coffee.” “Sounds good. Strong stuff too, not this
weak bullshit they have in hospitals. I also don’t think I could drink another
cup of tea again in my life.” “The British and their tea haha. Will
do. See you in the morning.” I lay my head back in the pillow and
watched the lights of Auckland flicker in the distance. I knew I had entered a
new phase, a phase of change and hard work ahead. But I was desperate to walk,
to get out of bed. My legs were becoming emaciated and red from inaction and I
just wanted to be able to move about freely again. It gave me a goal, something
to work for, something I had lost somewhere along the way. I knew I could push
myself. I awoke in the night with an extreme
stinging pain in my penis and intense pressure. I turned the light on above my
bed and saw that my dressings had been changed. I pulled down the sheet to look
at my dick. It was swollen and red and my bladder was completely full. It was
pushing against my pelvis again and the pain was unbearable. The catheter tube
was also full of orange urine. I buzzed the nurse. No response. I buzzed and
buzzed until after twenty minutes he came in. His eyes immediately widened, “Oh
my god!” he yelled. He was looking down at my catheter bag. I pulled myself
over so I could look down the side of the bed. The bag was completely full,
about to burst. It was pushing urine back into my bladder. He ran over and uncapped the bag,
releasing its contents all over the floor. He came running with towels and
started to try to stem the flow that was now almost reaching the door. He had
no gloves on and was panicking, I would have felt sorry for him if he wasn’t
such an inept nurse who should have been checking my bag regularly. As he
scrambled on the floor and began picking up the orange-soaked towels and
dumping them in the trash, I just put my head into the back of my pillow and
laughed. This wasn’t even close to being the strangest thing that had happened
to me over the past six weeks, and this was f*****g strange. He washed his
hands and called for an orderly to mop up the rest. “I’m so sorry Mr. Hagan, I’ll be right
back with a new bag.” “Could you also bring me my pain meds?” “Of course.” Chapter 40 The next morning, they pulled my
catheter out as there was a risk of infection. I could say the exhumation of
the barbed-like tube buried deep inside my bladder was painful, but compared to
other pains I’d experienced over the past month or so it was minimal. Like a
hot knife cutting through your urethra. Grit and bear. Grit and bear. It was my new mantra whenever I
experienced pain. It helped me focus that raw sensation elsewhere. A type of
unpoetic meditation. Things always move fast in a hospital in
the morning. Shifts rotate from night to day, the more experienced medical
staff come through to do their rounds, followed by red-eyed student lackeys
eagerly in tow. They grab your chart, puff their chest, ask a couple of
questions then hand the rest over to the medical students, who ask painfully
obvious questions, scraped straight from the lines of the latest textbook they
were reading late into the previous night. I always felt sorry for them, but
they chose their path. That morning there was an especially eager young Asian
woman answering and asking questions, interjecting while I tried to speak. I
told her to wait and listen, that’s the best way to learn from a patient.
Besides, I liked the guy half hidden behind the blue curtain, paying attention,
not really writing notes but rolling his eyes every time this woman spoke. She
was obviously the star of the class, but he was more my type. Quiet, modest,
logical. I winked at him when he glanced my way and he smiled. Hopefully that
brightened his morning. Next came the pain team, some of my
favourite people. They were the ones controlling how much morphine I could get.
It was incredibly important to give the idea that I was in more pain than I
actually was. This would usually cover me for the times when the pain would be
intense, while other times I had minimal pain at all. It rounded out evenly,
but the precise measurement had to be severe enough to warrant the current
dosage I was on, yet low enough so they knew I wasn’t full of s**t. “On a scale of 1-10, ten being the worst
pain you’ve ever felt, where would you be?” I tended to go with a 7, sometimes
an 8 to let them know some days were worse. This kept them satisfied and me
pain free for the most part. Next was a surprise and something I
didn’t see coming. A woman knocked on the door, in a white doctors’ coat, pen
and paper at the ready. She was followed by a familiar face, a small, ginger
lad called Paul who I knew through Vikram and had met at a couple of parties,
no doubt inebriated. I had nicknamed him Doogie Howser at one point as he
looked remarkably similar in hair style, stature and demeanour as the young
prodigy. “DOOGIE HOWSER!” I yelled as he walked
in. “How’s it going, man?” “Ahh, no, Mr. Hagan this is my
psychiatric resident Paul who will be joining us today, is that okay with you?”
Ahh, the psychiatric evaluation, volume two. “Oh, no, I know Paul, it’s a dumb
nickname I gave him.” “Oh, I see. Well do you mind if he
observes and asks you some questions?” “Sure.” By this point I couldn’t believe
that I was being treated by a second person I knew, especially now that they
both knew everything about my psychiatric and medical history. New Zealand is a
small place at the best of times, but this was exceptional. “I’m going to let him go through the questions
and I’ll be supervising, is that okay,” she asked. “No problem. Don’t you have my previous
psych consult from London?” I said. “We do, but we like to do our own and
evaluate from there.” “Sure, shoot.” “Hey, Tim,” Paul said. It was all so
formal and awkward, but it somehow gave brevity to the situation. “Umm, so I
see you’re on some psychiatric medications, can you tell me what they’re for?” “Yeah, um, I have depression, anxiety
and OCD.” “Ok, cool. Do you feel depressed now or
in the past, say, six months?” Cool? Interesting choice of words, Doogie. “Now? No. I’m too high on morphine to
feel any kind of emotion really. In the past six months though? Yes.” “Did that have anything to do with your
fall? Were you experiencing any suicidal thoughts?” For some reason his
questions seemed gentle, like a friend opening up to another friend. It made me
more honest. “I have had suicidal thoughts, but it
had nothing to do with my fall. I slipped, purely an accident. Prior to that I
had been thinking about suicide or hurting myself, more like ideations than
actually planning to do anything, I just wanted to stop feeling that way. But
on the night, I was on a lot of drugs and alcohol and I just lost my balance.” “Okay, good. Would you say you have a
problem with alcohol or drugs?” “Drugs? No. Alcohol, yeah, maybe. Don’t
all New Zealanders?” I laughed. “Haha, probably true. But would you say
you use it as a way to self-medicate, to feel better?” “Yeah, definitely.” “Well, that’s something we can help you
with if you want. We’ll leave some pamphlets with you and check up on you in a
few days.” “Okay, sure. Thanks.” They left the room
and I lay there for a while. That was the second honest portrayal of something
close to what I had been going through. The only other real person who knew it
all was a prostitute in Melbourne. Paul was in good company. Chapter 41 The next day I head to my therapist
appointment, arriving at 11am, hobbling out of my special taxi. He greets me with
a look of surprise. “You look different today, Tim. Almost
beaming.” “Really? I don’t notice anything.” “Anything different?” “Not really. Well, I guess I started
some writing last night about the accident and what’s happened since. Little
bits and pieces. It’s cathartic I suppose.” “That’s great! What have you been
writing about?” “Just some time in Auckland hospital
when I first got there. It reminds me of how far I’ve actually come to be
honest.” “Well you have come a long way, Tim.
Don’t let a few bumps in the road take you off track.” “It’s just that I feel like I’ve gone
backwards in a lot of ways. Even farther than before the accident. It makes me
feel ashamed. I never want to be in that position again.” “We won’t let that happen, Tim. We have
a solid plan moving forward, you just have to focus on what kind of future you
want for yourself.” “Sometimes I don’t feel like I even
deserve a future. There’s plenty of people who struggle just to survive, I
didn’t even want that.” “You have an illness. Just like if you
had a cancer. You can’t blame yourself. Do you want to be depressed?” “No.” “Exactly. It’s not a choice. I’ve worked
with a lot of people who are in similar situations to you, it’s not just you.
It happens across all races, all genders. Each one of them have come through to
see the other side, a more positive side.” “How long does it take?” “It depends on the work you put in. Are
you prepared to work?” “Yes. I’m scared, but yes.” “Good. Then we’ll work together. Now,
how did it go with your Mum and the medications?” “It was fine. She doesn’t suspect
anything. It’s been difficult with coming down on the meds though. I feel sick
and shaky. Is that from the meds?” “Could be. You’ve been on them a long
time now. Your body will adjust. Try not to focus too much on that. Let’s set
some goals instead. Have you been going to rehabilitation?” “Not much recently. I haven’t had the
will.” “What’s changed?” “Just depression. Drinking. Pills. You
name it.” “But you were doing so well for a period
there. What helped then?” “A drive to walk. I was sick and tired
of lying in a bed. I had such a great need to move, to really work.” “Tell me about that.” I begin telling him
bits and pieces, scattered thoughts that pop into my head. I can’t get them out
fast enough. “You sound excited. Would that be accurate?” “Yeah, I guess so. It just takes me
back. It makes me want for that time, that drive, again.” “I want you to go home after this and
write down these thoughts. Anything. There doesn’t have to be any logical
pattern, just get it all down. Then let’s talk about it on Friday.” “Okay, sounds good.” I head to my
awaiting taxi, like a fine Lord of the Manor, on my way to my next therapy,
this time physical. It was at Laura Fergusson Rehabilitation in Greenlane, a
place I have gotten to know well over the previous few months. TBC… © 2018 Tim Hagan |
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