An Open Letter to "Autism Mommies"

If you can't love your child unconditionally, don't have a child.

I see you grieving
Bemoaning the loss of your child
Like they were kidnapped or killed
When they are sitting right there.
No part of your child is
"missing"
Except for what you withhold from them.
You cry about how he won't look you in the eyes
Like it's personal
Even though he looks away from everyone,
And why would you be an exception?
You complain about how they only eat
Three things and how
"It's so exhausting"
But how do you think your child feels
When you push them into unfamiliar territory
With no warning?
With no permission?
You wail about how you'll never hear your daughter say
"I love you, Mommy"
but the way she leans on your arm and looks up at you
And lets you brush her hair
When she yells at anyone else who tries...
If after all of that
You need to hear her say it out loud to understand,
I don't think she's the one with a problem.

Author's Note

Everyone knows an "autism warrior mom". Please be kind to her kid. She probably isn't.

Reviews

[Kat]

We aren't missing.. we jut don't wanna be found

[Kat]

I have autism an my I feel this is her...

[Hanna01]

This is one of the truest things I ever read! My Mum isn't one of those autism parents but being active in the autistic community I heard a lot about them. They act like autism is stealing away their child, like we were only half human or had a deadly disease and support organizations like Autism speaks that is actually hating on autistic kids that don't have the possibility to fight back.
Instead of helping their kids to accept themselves, they make them feel incomplete and tell them to "fight" that side of them not even trying to understand.
The truth is if you aren't ready to have a child that is disabled, homosexual or trans or whatever, you're not ready to have a child at all.
As an autistic teenager, I can only say thank you for sharing this! It really means a lot to me.