Imperfect MenA Poem by Marie Anzalonewritten for my friend on Father's Day, 2018This is for
you, today- a man
missing his father, a man
finding his way as a man,
role model, teacher. A difficult
day for so many- marked by
absence of so many
kinds. For the ones who
were not there, we luckily
have men like you who are
there, for many of us In all the
ways that count. Our fathers
were imperfect- they made
mistakes, even while
comparting in us much of what
we are. Some mistakes
become gentler with time;
others are
amplified by our introspection.
We fall into traps-
thinking we will never escape
reliving who they
were. We speak of
men in tones of
blocked intimacy. We deny them
the right to plant
flowers in their own gardens.
What greater intimate
gesture is there, for a woman
with her men, than to let
his DNA mix with hers?
It is not lost on me,
today, Father’s Day, that you
almost became a father
with me. We are far
more than the
limitations of our human parents. They
are neither the demons
or saints we would mold
them into. I wish you could
see you, how I see you. I
would give you the option
to both be the man your father
was, and be the man
you wished he could
have been. My gift to you
today, is the hand to hold
while you remember, a
thank you for the
lives you touch, and license
to dream of all the
ways you want to still be
a father. Guide to the
abandoned, memory for the
forgotten, voice to the
powerless, and visionary
for those not yet born. You
remind me of the honor
of men in the lives
of women and children
everywhere. © 2018 Marie Anzalone |
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Added on June 17, 2018 Last Updated on June 17, 2018 AuthorMarie AnzaloneXecaracoj, Quetzaltenango, GuatemalaAboutBilingual (English and Spanish) poet, essayist, novelist, grant writer, editor, and technical writer working in Central America. "A poet's work is to name the unnameable, to point at frauds, to ta.. more..Writing
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