Sex & Shagging Is Not Real Love.

Lyn had a point. So trying to be better. As I guess it does matter in general. And I am but human too :)

It's so ironic how many people

confuse sex and f*****g,

for the real meaningful love.

When sex and intercourse,

is just a very small part of loving someone.

It's openness and honesty, trust

as well as being truthful.

Towards each other.

Deep affection for that

special one you really care deeply about.

Commitment, loyalty, decency and respect.

Being compasionate.

Sharing and so much more besides.

To loving someone completely with an

open heart, mind, spirit and soul.

That means more than just

a quick moment in time for

those few minutes above.

It's being with them on good days

and more so bad days

is more to the point.

When things

are not all rosy and sweet,

perfect in general between you both

that means more than anything that

just a quick shot on the swings

long-term for most humans deep down. 

Reviews

[Lyn Anderson]

Many of your opinions are interesting, honest, and open. However, I do feel that this is more of a blog, or opinion piece. Interesting and truthful, and worthy of reading, yes, but formatting in and of itself does not necessarily make poetry. Take that as you wish, and if you are offended by these comments feel free to delete.

[Onlyme]

To be honest, everyone is to their own opinion Lyn, I do it for me. I don't care what you or anyone things. You decided to comment fair enough. Each to their own. thanks for your opinion. Dawn.

[Onlyme]

To be honest, I appreciate your opinion so no problem with that. But I guess in my case. I actually do things like this for myself. To get it all out. And I do actually thing you have a point. So thanks Lyn. At least your telling me straight.

[Richard🖌]

First-off, Dawn,
Let me compliment you on a well-structured and well-spoken Poetic Prose composition, and that I respect your right to express your ideas, ideals, philosophies, and otherwise concerning sex, love, sexual love, and love without sex, etc; as you best see fit.
I very much like the smooth evenness of flow from line to line, the line-break timing, and clarity of expression throughout.
In this, often controversial, topic I choose no side, but that of my own, however coincidental or ironic it may be with any other's.
After reading through your work, in how you define "real" love, the thought came to mind that trying to separate sex from real love is like mental masturbation … either can be a "stand alone" enthrallment or a "combined sex and real love enthrallment" … both kinds legitimate and real in their own right.
And, this got me thinking: With an almost unlimited array of differing kinds of love(s) in the world, why would it be sensible to try and compare it/them (in general) with sex between two humans.
With certainty, it's possible to legitimately love someone and have sex with them without all the obligatory oaths, vows, and commitments of a lifetime's obligation. Whomever wrote that book of love rules was definitely no expert on love between two human beings.
Sex and love, on an elevated, enthralling level, with a particular individual, can be the highest, deepest, most phenomenal expression of purest love there is, and it stands alone, without all the other comparisons and combinations of love inferences, just as any kind or degree of love stands alone, on its own accord, in its own realm, according to its own values, without comparison to any other, and each "almost unlimited" kind of love is as valid as any other … although, from personal, witnessed, and read about experiences, I will admit that certain ingredients, segments, parcels, etc; from many kinds of loves between human beings gathered and blended together can make for some of the hottest, most heavenly, amazing sex there is.
Conversely, without sex, "many, but not all", of the other kinds of love between two humans will be rather blasé, to say the least. To me, an exception to this would be the examples of love(s) shared between two loving humans where the act of sex is not possible or any longer enjoyable, etc; for whatever reason(s).
In my discernment, trying to assert that any part of love, combined with or without sex, makes it valid or invalid seems purely nonsensical … like chasing one's proverbial, philosophical tail.

Just my 2¢, and that is probably about what it's worth to most of those whom might read and understand/misunderstand me … LOL!

Thank you Dawn, for sharing your take on sex and love … I've thoroughly enjoyed the experience of reading and commenting on your poem … as ever! ⁓ Richard : )

[Onlyme]

Thank you, Richard, for taking the time and trouble to read and leave your thoughts. I must admit. After I wrote it I did contempt about masturbation and people who just enjoy casual sex but accept that between each other. I also value your thoughts and interesting read. So thank you for what you gave your insightful view. Dawn. :)

[Onlyme]

Wow, Richard, you got my poor head spinning with this very deep comment. I had to reread it all. To talk all on board. Well said and I totally see your point of view on many levels. Thanks for the insight into all. Just had to add that too.

[Richard🖌]

Dear Dawn,
I really was inspired by your in-depth thoughts and feelings on love and sex (two of life's most deep and controversial topics) to comment in equal proportion.
I wish more would write of their thoughts, ideas, and ideals to put some real meat on the table, so to speak, so more will respond and become involved.
Is is written that, "Variety is the spice of life." And, I could not agree more hardily.

Thank you for your sincere thanks, and I add mine to You, as-well. ; )

[Onlyme]

Oh, Richard., LOL you should not say something like that to me. You know, that means I will be running riot now. And to be honest, I totally agree with you. I like "variety is the spice of life" and wish everyone was like us. Open, honest and direct and spoke out about what ills then in society or life. Not in a mean way of course. But nice. Cheers Richard, your truly lovely. Dawn.

[Richard🖌]

"B L U S H!"

[Onlyme]

Aw, Richard., grabs you and gives you a big cuddle. Dawn.