Keep It Cool

Even if you work hard on getting along, there will be moments where all h*ll breaks loose. Here are some tips to working things out in a calm, collected manner.

There are a hundred sites where you can find great tips for problem solving.  However, for ease of access, I will list them here for you.  They work wonders.

1)  DEFINE THE PROBLEM.

   Why is there a problem?  Talk to your co-writer about why you are upset and listen to his/her opinion.  Understand the problem thoroughly, including its existance and your role in it.

2)  IDENTIFY THE CAUSE.

   Work with your co-writer to find out why you even have a problem.  Perhaps something just seems out of character, but maybe he/she just went to far from the plot due to a misunderstanding.

3)  FIND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS.

   Brainstorm different ways that the problem might be fixed.  Make sure that everyone has a say in what could work and that no idea is shot down right off.

4)  CHOOSE A SOLUTION.

   After you have discussed ideas, choose one (or a combination of many) that works for you both.  Consider the consequences, effort, time, and benefits of the solution.

5)  TRY IT OUT.

   Put your plan in place and let it play out for a bit.  Keep calm; results may not be evident after five seconds.  Use a poster of a kitten on a tree branch if it helps.

6) CHECK FOR SUCESS.

   How is your new plan working out?  If you, your co-writer, and your readers all seem happier, then you may have a fix.  If stress is still high and your readers are confused or leaving, you may need to try a new tactic.

7)  YES OR NO.

   Is it working?  If you said yes, enjoy your day.  If you said no, return to step one and resume repair on your story and/or friendship.

Have fun, all!

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