From daughter to dadA Poem by FeatherArrowThis is a poem about a narcissistic parent."What is the problem ?" You often asked, out of frustration You couldn't relate If it was not yours, there was not a problem How could you have known? How would I have told you ? "You are the problem, dad". And then I did, "You are the problem, dad" I said. You flipped, you would always flip and fling whatever it was in your hands onto the floor so it would lay there, in shame like the actual culprit. Sometimes it was a plate one time it was a remote, once it was money flung in arrogance, what a sight it was but now I was 16 or 17, I didnt care that you flip, or so I thought But I did. Each time you were angry, I felt a little less human. Why do you hurt me, dad ? "I never did." "You did." I am hurt. "I didnt know you would be so sensitive I didnt know the affect it would have on you". You said, and you continued your march of crushing the hearts of those for whom you mattered. You hurt me From your being and from your not being. You were everywhere on my school admissions, my passport, you were my guardian and yes, you were even there sometimes when I needed you Remember the time I had a fight with my friends and confided in you you said, "see I told you never to trust your friends." That was when I knew, I knew the problem was you, you were never going to be there. Each time since then when you wanted to shift the blame I knew. You were a manipulative, malignant narcissist. But you were also my father. Do you know dad, how much it hurts to turn around and see that the scars that are burning now were aflame before ? I know, you are old now, Half of me feels sorry for you when at night I lie in bed I almost forgive you You were troubled, but why were you troubled ? I wish so much that you had not caused me such anguish People tell me some dads are worse But I thought every girl deserves better I thought the meter to guage a good parent should not compare against other awful parents I know, before you say it, I will No, I am not a perfect daughter I made you cry but You teared easily too when the pain was yours I do feel guilt I wish I didnt hurt you back I wish I was the wiser one So, after all these years after crossing over to 30 while I am packing my bags to finally go away on my own journey I will leave with a baggage of wishes that never came true. Dad, you had so much you had it all, health and love people who cared for you who stood with you I wish you knew, if you only knew. © 2018 FeatherArrow |
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