Sometimes

The more things change, the more they stay the same

The questions continued, one after another, endless queries always about the same thing.  I guess it really wasn't about the questions, but more about the underlying agenda that spurred them on. 

Something like shots of rattlesnake venom, silent and deadly.

There was a way about her that others gravitated towards, like children to lolli pops. Especially those tender hearts who would experience the sweet goodness for the first time. Looks of happy surprise with miles of smiles all around.

Back to the questions, now. 

I wonder where the balance is, the one that is supposed to be there between friends and those who profess care, one for another. Does it truly exist or rather only in the mind of one of the participants. The one who does most of the giving.

Either way, it matters not as those who are destined to be in your life will remain, regardless.  Others, who were only passing through, disappear and reappear at random times. I used to keep track, but not anymore.

The way they met, screamed destiny!  Others, who were around didn't seem to notice much. And still others, could care less, if you really wanted to know.

Sometimes, I did.

Reviews

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"...if the recipient moves from a place of gratitude to a position of demanding..."

~ this is when brainwashing begins... it's a complete violation of personal space... and you're right... it's a big problem...

~ it took me a long time to realize that the brainwasher is less fortunate than the brainwashee... by virtue of being more needy... and therefore more "demanding" and manipulative... ~ i've actually been through excessive psychological battering because of the behaviour you described... i completely understand what you're saying...

[Alisa Js]

Thank you for your comments. I have found that when a person is kind and caring, certain others have a tendency to take advantage of one's caring nature if given the opportunity.

If the one who is kind and caring is so without expectation, there is no problem...as with this mindset, one is not thinking of anything other than simply to be kind and caring.

The frustration arises, however if the recipient moves from a place of gratitude to a position of demanding, then there is a problem. That is the inspiration for this piece.

I trust it makes sense.

The best way to be is to love freely without expectation, to love because you choose to...

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~ hey alisa... wow... this was quite a ride... i dunno the answer to this one... i've just about actually started living life... but here's what i'm trying out...

~ according to the bhagwad gita, the idea is to do what one has to do (what one can do for another) and let go... the focus is on not worrying or even thinking about the consequences of one's actions...

~ i think what the bhagvad gita's philosophy essentially does is that it takes the transaction element out of an equation/relationship that is based on love... and focuses the attention on the self... on the pursuit of excellence in how one loves... rather than how one is loved back... it says that reciprocity should not be a factor in determining a future course of action...

~ i also find the concept of hubris very fascinating... ~ whether or not one believes in religion in any conventional sense, i think that the meaning of being free of hubris is about not being anti-God wherein God is a metaphor for something that is above us... be it in intelligence or rational thought...

~ so... these days... i think balance lies in humility... in accepting weakness and vulnerability... as much as strength and courage... in not measuring any relationship at a transactional level... and in trying to continuously reduce inner hubris... as well as in not getting affected by the hubris floating all around...

~ but i don't know for certain... ~ this is where i am at right now... i dunno if this will change in the future or not...

~ serah