Is there??

During times like these I find the same questions rising from somewhere beyond...

How is it that some lives are seemingly without incident or any type of adversity? Smooth sailing for all participants?

While others are filled with one crisis after another, relentlessly? It never seems to get better for the second group.

Why?

Is the answer found in careful planning at an early age?

Is there really something called, 'luck' or rather does one create their own 'luck' from wise choices made?

If one is not born into the ideal living situation, can they, by themselves make it into a higher functional arena, or do they need help?  And if the answer is help, what kind of help?  What is help and what is enabling?

For those whose lives are seemingly perfect, would a study of those perfect lives provide clues for others?

Would those same clues be applicable for everyone who took the time to study or pass incoherently through those same minds?

Or does it all boil down to perception at the end of the day?

Thoughts?

Reviews

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:: i'd like to think that the progress we make at the end of the day is about the intensity of conviction in our voice... that conviction (unfortunately) is born in our ability to triumph over adversity... those who haven't been through the kind of adversity that some others have don't have that same conviction when they speak about transcending pain... although pain and adversity are damaging, they can be steered into serving as fuel for creation... and that too creation not for the sake of creativity but creation that somehow validates the rivers of justice in the universe... (as in the rivers and forces that ensure that the truth prevails)... i'm struggling to have a life and i know that i'll need to struggle for maybe many more months (and i have been struggling since some years now)... but i also know that the price i pay is for the purity of the path that i have chosen... i don't enjoy paying the price but i can't compromise on the purity... and here purity is not an abstract concept... it's as simple as knowing that the means as well as the end are pure... what would be enabling and is always enabling is that beautiful steroid called love... it has no side-effects... and is as precious from any source... friend, family, soul-mate... :: just my thoughts after reading your rather profound foray into existentialist queries of a very enriching nature... thank you for making me think... :)

[Alisa Js]

Love is the answer, I believe as true love expects nothing in return.

When one has gone through any degree of challenges in life, I am of the opinion that challenge will in some cases allow that one to have more empathy and consideration for others. However, that being said, sometimes challenges will bear the fruit of bitterness in those it visits.

It's hard to say, really as life and life experiences are best comprehended when viewed through the perception of a soul...yet, as life experiences go, in an of themselves they are without understanding or emotional weight.

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:: hmmm... well, love is cute... it is eager to be loved and keen to be adored... and it's very pure... my nephew and my soul-mate are like that... they don't expect anything but they really want to be cherished... haha... it's sweet... :P :: i feel human beings can transcend bitterness if they are loved and cherished... :: i'm not sure i believe in the idea of a soul in the way that it is articulated in Hinduism and other religions... but i do believe that our core is very pure... while abuse is a very excruciating experience (and i have known abuse of many types since the time i was a little girl), the thought that all types of humiliation (physical and psychological) can be transcended if not allowed to corrupt one's core helps in healing... at least that is how it is with me... there's an aching need for justice (as opposed to revenge)... and if that need finds expression in something (some path) that leads to social awakening, then abuse can be taken to the plane of manifesting in a higher purpose... something that doesn't just empower the abused person but others who have been victims of the same abuse... :: at the heart of it all is knowing that the one who has inflicted an atrocity is mentally unhinged... not evil but insane... but i realize that this is a radical thought... not everyone thinks that the concept of good and evil are religious concepts... and they have their purpose but if we think about crimes rationally, then we can't say that crimes are committed by sane people... (either it's a temporary loss of sanity or something more serious)... so, the point really is that one can transcend the pain inflicted by a one-time abuser or serial offender if one knows (and truly knows deep down inside) that the perpetrator of the crime is more unfortunate than the victim because he or she is not capable of sane behaviour... once one knows that, one can treat one's abusers as one would treat the mentally unsound... with compassion... thus making forgiveness possible... thereby transcending bitterness... then justice becomes about trying to generate a greater sanity around us... a greater awareness about what constitutes sane behaviour and how abusive behaviour represents lack of control on the part of the abuser... when that happens, one ceases to look for revenge from a particular person and instead focuses on overall social reform... at least that's how i've dealt with my problems/abusers/bitterness... and i do wake up every morning with a sense of wanting to do something more... am a reasonably enthusiastic cookie... :P

[Alisa Js]

Thanks for your thoughtful response and replies...

I know of people who have reacted in vastly different ways to emotional challenges including abuse. There are those who will rise above the darkness by some inner fortitude they possess and become examples of great understanding and compassion.

Then, there are others, who go in the opposite direction, becoming bitter and hardened as the years progress. Sadly, their whole outlook is tainted as a result.

Then, there are those who may initially appear to be compassionate, caring and very thoughtful. Yet, as time progresses, agendas manifest from these same ones that are anything but compassionate, caring or thoughtful. Are those people evil? Bad? or simply selfish ... operating from a selfish and self-serving point of view... borne out of ignorance?

I wonder.

[Alisa Js]

I have heard it stated in many places that adversity is a great teacher.

Wouldn't it be so wonderful if love were the greatest teacher of all? * sigh*

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:: the privilege is all mine... it's rewarding for me to delve into existentialist philosophy when you set up the triggers so beautifully... :P :: yes, love is cute... love would make an infinitely more enchanting teacher... double sigh... :P

[Perdition]

This new journal style is interesting. I am curious as to where it shall lead. Poetry and journal .....questions of a tortured soul. Throw a salmon in there once and while to keep the reader's eye. Or maybe you just keep on keeping on cause it's getting good as always!! A type of anaphora in painful wall~

[Alisa Js]

Indeed, my friend....indeed.

Thank you for taking time from your world to visit mine...sending you thoughts of everything amazing,

Always... :-)