From me to you

From me to you:

Advice to anyone thinking about falling in love.

 

You cannot think about it.

You cannot lay in bed alone and dream.

You cannot pad, wolf-like, down side-walks, hunting.

Or stir intricate patterns in your mid-morning latte

And plan it.

That’s pure fantasy.

 

Love is not out there like a pot-hole,

A cliff or a treasure chest to be wary of

Lest you  fall in or off or over it.

It isn’t supposed to be...

Either a lottery  

Or your destiny. Love just is.

 

Get on with living that’s what love’s about.

 

When you’re ready to give,

Then,

In the blink of an eye,

During the micro-second between a lub and a dup.

There's a pause where there's no future tense.

And the now lasts longer than all of history.

Smile and

Quite simply and freely give.

Dive deeply with no pretense, 

Naked of all deception, into each other’s pool,

And open the lock-gates that divide you.

Share the rush.

 

And get on with loving that’s what life’s about.

Author's Note

This is the third re-write since it's been here

Reviews

[Carolann Dowsett]

Nice and yes I agree, though when you have done nothing but given and been used and abused for it the idea of doing it again without at least some hesitation is rather absurd. Not looking for love and just getting on with things, though, is the best way to go, though, we can dream, and we can wish, and we can write about love .... at least from a safe distance. :) Nice write, deep and with a lot of meaning.

[Richard Man]

Hesitation is being a rabbit in the head lights. Reflection, consideration and assessment are strengths .. re-read from "Smile" .... pause... then plunge.

[Richard Man]

.... with no lies on!

[Carolann Dowsett]

Well I think my path has been slightly different from yours so I will hesitate for as long as it takes for me to feel safe again :)

[Richard Man]

Fair deal. Take your time. Once bitten twice shy. Like falling of a horse.

[Carolann Dowsett]

True :) But if it had been once bitten I'd probably be ok but when you've been attacked numerous times you tend to be at lot more cautious then most.

[Annabelle Lee]

love is about life and life is about love....... i must admit i find that slightly confusing haha. nevertheless.... great write.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

"in each other's pool"

how ironic as i read this it is my relationship now.

a wonderful relationship that just happened...

and we met at the pool...

but neither of us looking for anything...both having had several failed relationships and both single for about 6 or 7 years...and boom, there we were, and here we are.

very nice write..

you are so natural...i shall be visiting your page much more often.

jacob

[Creepy Swine Guy]

Hummm ... I like your style of writing, like an open line of thought. But this "love" thing ... I just wonder if it's gone the way of the T-rex. What I see now is "What do you do?", "Do you have kids?", "Are those real?", ""What do you drive" .... it's more of a job interview. And we even lie in the ceremony ... "Til death do us part." PFFFFFFFFT. both sides are thinking, "Well if it doesn't work out ... I'll move on." I LOVE how you fuse words ... I'm just a skeptic. [Deep sigh]

[Richard Man]

No mate... vows and marriage are just formalities. The pool of passion and adoration have been polluted by commercialism and the media. Why do so many "celebrities" get married ... for ever... over.. and ...over again? I am a sceptic too... I put cream on it!

[Somebrownnerd]

Should of read this three years ago *sigh*, i guess it takes making mistakes to truly learn. Wonderful wisdom imparted in a beautiful structure.

[clairekeown25]

no pool is ever good enough to stay in, i wish i could take this advice, i wish i could understand this poem a little better

[Jack Dawkins]

A very insightful and telling poem. It speaks to me of real love and not the lust/desire that we so often misinterpret for the real thing.
(During the micro-second between a lub and a dup.
There's a pause where there's no future tense.
And the now lasts longer than all of history.) I love these lines because that micro-second between a lub and a dub is exactly where unconditional, eternal love exists.
Well done and insightful.

[MOON]

Lovely write , we have a tendency to plan it all , the future , how love will be what we expect. Love is and sometimes we need to dive in live for the now and then it unfolds. Off course not very easy to do !

[Frieda P]

You must not be having relationships with the same guys I am. It's more pot hole, cliff like. ;-)

In all seriousness, I understand fully what you're saying...if we don't abandon ourselves totally then there is no insanity of ecstasy to be had. Bliss is found in the absence of fear, it's just a scary direction if you've been bamboozled before. It's a great write.

[Richard Man]

I guess my gender is worse at diving in and staying in. Too many dip their toes in too many pools or dive bomb, make a giant splash and then climb out and sun themselves on the lounger of indifference. I am a committed serial monogamist ...a swan... not a stag!

[Frieda P]

'Serial monogamist' you are a dying breed...nice to hear. I tip my hat to you as a man of honor and wonder if there are many other's to be found in your swan pond.

[Richard Man]

Relationships seriously suffer in a gadget, media, celebrity, fashion obsessed capitalist society. Partners split up subconsciously because one or the other is so-yesterday. We live in a throw away society... nobody mends anything... and if they find a means to mend... the cost is as much as getting a new one. Friends, women, children, relationships, marriage, commitment, knowledge, caring, kind words and smiles are not items they are valuable treasures to be nurtured and shared. Well that's what swan's nests are lined with.

[Richard Man]

By the way when I review a piece of writing it's the beginning of a potential dialogue. I don't write.... awesome!

[Frieda P]

Doesn't sound very promising, I doubt it'll turn it'self around any time soon..what's the solution I wonder.

[Richard Man]

Banking, credit, money.... as long as we want things now and pay for them + interest later and not work for them we are basically up the creak without a paddle.

[Frieda P]

You know that'll never change, everyone demands instant gratification and wants to eat their cake too.

[junaid altaf]

well i always think of fallin.........
but dont know who picks me up
well written..................

[John]

Good advice.