Afterbirth

for when things don't go according to plan

Afterbirth

Gone in the blink of

a baby blue eye

that initial fear

filled micro moment

of awkwardness

new motherhood

invariably brings ..

Okay, so tears dried,

sighs sighed, milks

flowing and guess

what, babies cry ..

Isn’t that the way

the text books say,

it should always be ..

Well listen folks

and hard, between

the sleep deprived

hallucinations

and let's not forget

the mood swings ..

Someone really needs

to say it, like it really is ..

Author's Note

its neva easy, but for some, it will always be even harder .. 💛

Reviews

[Einstein Noodle]

smiling big brother .. anyone whose been there and done that feels your pain .. and of course we empathize with all the Ma s who carry the load ... there is a reason there is a Ma and a Pa ... the years to come just get rougher once our children realize they have their own brain and parents are not god ... your poem has flooded me with the memories of all my children's births .. i was right there with them an Ma the whole time ... each an incredible hush of the miracle of it all ... once the event was done and tears have turned to joy ... blessing on ya brother!
E.

[Neville]

many thanks Gene .. my little granddaughter just gave a wave in your general direction .. N.

[Einstein Noodle]

awwwwwww tell her Einstein love her and give her your best Grampa hug for me ;)

[Neville]

.......... now sorted sir & truly :)))

[emmajoygreen]

You'll be playing Father Christmas, next! What a wonderful future you have, sharing both the sometimes loud noise but then, the look of lashes on sweet soft cheeks. Your daughter and other half have treasure under their roof.

[Carlos Lorenzo Estrada]

I totally agree with you, Neville. It always will be harder for some. And hard truths need to be said because they can inspire and encourage hope. Wonderful work my friend.

[Neville]

thank you for seeing it my way and kindly too of course Carlos .. Neville

[John the Baptist]

"In sorrow shalt thou bring forth children," says Genesis, and whether that's true or not, childbirth is an ordeal. Women need a lot of support at that time.

[Neville]

Quite true, but what do Peter Gabriel and Phil Collins know eh' .. always downplaying everything .. Neville

[Chris Shaw]

It’s a roller coaster. After the initial euphoria, reality sets in. Raging hormones, baby not feeding. mum fearful and throw in a c section and it is going to be tearful and difficult. But then comes the day when it starts to get a little better, and the next day too. Nothing easy about becoming a parent, especially the first time. All that responsibility hits you like a brick in the face. Things will improve, but it takes time.

Chris

[Neville]

I could not have put it better myself our Chris .. Oh' by the way my son Richard sends his best regards and hopes you might eventually grace his next restaurant as well too ... Neville 👍

[Chris Shaw]

Ah is that because he wants another super duper review? Tell him hi :))

[Neville]

................. sorted :)

[Chris Shaw]

Can’t wait. The last visit was memorable. Fantastic food and ambience :)

[Neville]

because I was there .. maybe :)

[Chris Shaw]

well of course :)

[Vol]

Neville,
The intrusion of children into our space is a disruption with consequences that change the shape of everything in ways that never end. They may stop crying, become successful adults, but the fear of their tears is permanently imprinted on our bones while we live.
Vol

[Neville]

I could not agree more .. many thanks for those sage like words sir .. Vol speaks the truth or should thar read the truth speaks Vol .. maybe .. Neville

[Vol]

Salute!..........

[Neville]

Nastrave🍷.. N.

[Patricia Wedel]

dearest Neville … Those were my favorite days… and then later to hold my Grand babies… tenderly, Pat

[Neville]

Special days indeed .. and Patted gently 💛🕊️

[Stella Armour]

Especially after an emergency c section, i can testify to that myself.

You would think after 3 normal births you would cope but the shock of your baby literaaly being taken out of you takes its toll Neville, more than ever with a first baby when you had plans ... such lovely plans in place .
The wonder of of birth can be a very traumatic experience for some.... not like on tv programmes.

[Neville]

such insight shared is priceless and a problem well n truly halved 💛

[Stella Armour]

It will take lots of time and love Neville, hormones have a lot to answer for ...
On a lighter note , Astrid is gorgeous, all c section babies look so beautiful because they haven't been squashed through a birth canal .. :)