1.
I’m sorry-I forgot that in-between “professional networking” and “taking care
of banal daily tasks and errands” and “gather data for my graduate degree” I
was supposed to have included, “get sexually violated” to my to-do list today.
2. I forgot that I exist to fulfill the fantasies of strangers in dark
alleyways and bus stops and subways and hallways in public spaces and wherever the
hell else I am not supposed to be 3. I forgot it is a crime to walk outside by myself
or do anything without a group around me or [preferably] a man beside me
because apparently I do not actually exist as a human subject 4. I forgot I
need to be reminded to normalize it all and that everything that happens is my
fault- that I chose the wrong hour or bus or clothes or place or or or… 5. I
forgot that other women can be the ones who tear you down the most if you try
to stand up with your own thoughts of a life that does not fit into the model
their parents created for them or ideas that have not yet been tested or
anything else that looks a little too much like freedom to laugh on a rainy day
6. I forgot that we are supposed to uphold the ideals of equality but never
stand out by demanding them, living them, or recognizing others who live by
them; that social exclusion is the prescribed punishment for not fitting in and
is dose-dependent on severity of the crime 7. I forgot that I am supposed
pleasantly eat all the s**t shoveled onto my plate via emotional manipulation
and sexual-cultural superiority without the slightest display of aggravation or
despair or concern or anger or anything except forced pleasantness and assertions
that ‘yes I like the taste’ 8. I forgot that defending myself or the expression
of strong emotion or the voicing of a demand to be left alone, just simply left
alone, is a cause for ridicule and derision and suspicion and labeling of ‘ungenerous
b***h’ 9. I forgot that my skin and hair mean I owe something to everyone whose
path I cross and that it is a sin to simply sit for 5 minutes in a public space
and to read or book or snap a photo or rest when my feet hurt means I am either
spoiled or rich or asking to be harassed and that the mistreatment of your
ancestors was specifically my fault as well 10. I forgot that every part of me
is something to be appropriated if it pleases you and that my suitability for
leadership or presence is the perceived hotness of my face and a*s and tits. I
am genuinely sorry if my words offend you today.
This piece was inspired after I was sexually harassed/ assaulted while committing the crime of waiting for a bus in a tourist town in Mexico. It was, unfortunately, the fifth similar public incident in the past 2 months. Added onto the daily racial and gender profiling I receive every tme I step out my door. It is about the entitlement culture, rape culture, repression culture, victim-blaming culture. It is about releasing enough anger and fear that I can breathe and keep going another day.
Picture is my own. It is a polluted waterway in a town near mine- to me, there is a lot of relation between abuse towards women and abuse towards animals and the natural world.
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i read this and thought, none of us write as often as we use to. Which means that there are things that causes us to cease for a time; there are intervals between the parts of life's experiences:
"I forgot i need to be reminded to normalize it all and that everything that happens is my fault". Truth be told is that anything that happens is all of our faults. Whether love, the agony of it or the agony of wanting it. Whether sex or the agony of it or the agony of wanting it.......everything..........well said my friend...dana
Posted 7 Years Ago
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7 Years Ago
I am writing a lot, dana, after a brief absence. Just that most of it now has been in Spanish, as I .. read moreI am writing a lot, dana, after a brief absence. Just that most of it now has been in Spanish, as I try to find my footing and flight in a new home. I am slowly starting to have the confidence again to be back on here, more often. I am finishing my 400+ pages of publication, and will have more time to devote to reviews, responses, and my writing; next month. Much love, as always. I so appreciate your insights. I have decided to start including mini-blog -type posts with my newer works to see if it helps people better understand my own work, since it often is so cross-cultural in a way that I think few can relate to. Love and hugs, Marie.
i read this and thought, none of us write as often as we use to. Which means that there are things that causes us to cease for a time; there are intervals between the parts of life's experiences:
"I forgot i need to be reminded to normalize it all and that everything that happens is my fault". Truth be told is that anything that happens is all of our faults. Whether love, the agony of it or the agony of wanting it. Whether sex or the agony of it or the agony of wanting it.......everything..........well said my friend...dana
Posted 7 Years Ago
2 of 2 people found this review constructive.
7 Years Ago
I am writing a lot, dana, after a brief absence. Just that most of it now has been in Spanish, as I .. read moreI am writing a lot, dana, after a brief absence. Just that most of it now has been in Spanish, as I try to find my footing and flight in a new home. I am slowly starting to have the confidence again to be back on here, more often. I am finishing my 400+ pages of publication, and will have more time to devote to reviews, responses, and my writing; next month. Much love, as always. I so appreciate your insights. I have decided to start including mini-blog -type posts with my newer works to see if it helps people better understand my own work, since it often is so cross-cultural in a way that I think few can relate to. Love and hugs, Marie.
Bilingual (English and Spanish) poet, essayist, novelist, grant writer, editor, and technical writer working in Central America.
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