Where have you gone to?

Where have you gone to?

10 November 2020

10:06

The girl I once knew was happy

Full of fun

She enjoyed life

Had lots of hobbies

    - which one should I do today

She cooked and baked for us

• The best cook in the world

 

The fun has left her

    - the eyes are dull

    - there is no one in

Her work is left

    - untouched

I do my best to cook for us

 

She refuses her tablets

    - or hides them

I don't want them to take her away

    - They would not look after her

    - just sit her in a chair

We will keep her here with us

   - Keep telling her

   - What's for tea

Wild Rose

Nov 2020

Reviews

[Aura]

I am so sorry to hear this. I reviewed your more recent, " She is Returning" poem before this one, and in that poem you said it was the sequel to this poem. I am glad that she is coming around and her memory is coming back to her, in the other poem. At first I thought the poem was a metaphor for how covid seemed to have been going away for a while but not anymore, I did not realize that you were talking about a real person until I read it again, with conjunction with your more recent poem. It must have been difficult to care for her, especially when she hid her tablets. Its unfortunate, when memory loss occurs, we forget everything, and taking care of ourselves becomes a task on its own. She must have been a very talented person, had a lot of hobbies and loved to bake. Its heartbreaking when you once saw a person who had joy in her eyes, no longer. She was lucky to have you to look after her through the pandemic and I'm glad things are getting better., and hopefully her memory recovers more.

[Jess]

This is so beautifully honest. I have lived this experience you have shared the thoughts and feelings wonderfully. Thank you for sharing this!

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Jess
We were locked down with this virus #I had been told not to go out by the docs (problem with my immunity system) The nus=rse said "check your will"y
Then one day I noticed her eyes > dull as if she wasn't with us
Any wat now she 'knows' that she forgets things > and takes the tablets without being reminded
She is having mood swings now > Just waiting to have another blood test

[Intothemilkyway]

This is quite sad. But i love the style you have used to make this poem. It fits very well and it's kinda like a dialogue . We all have our ups and downs but sometimes the downs win over us tho we shouldn't let them win forever.

[Wild Rose]

Thanks Milky way
It isn't the mood swings
She was forgetting - didn't know what day it was "Whats for tea" was changed to "What did we have for tea" or "Is it tea time yet"

At least now she is beginning to take part and plan what we are going to have < thw=en asked what we are having

[Einstein Noodle]

dang .. such a poignant closing says i! as caregivers to those we love and hold dearly it is not easy .. watching someone drift away from reality can be excruciating .. finding respite so important for the care givers ... me Ma had Alzheimer's and lived with my children and i until the last months of her life .. keeping her active and engaged as much as possible slowed her mental losses considerably .. her course ran 10 yrs ;) Wild Rose, i can't say enough about my gratitude for being able to keep her at home with us ... not everyone are able to do it ... and not everyone should .. you be well my friend .. don't forget to care for yourselves too!

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Einstein
I had picked up on a TV program to go to the docs early
She is on Magnesium replacement tabs
She has begun to take the tablets now
She now realises that she forgets things
Her eyes have their sparkle back

Just waiting for the next blood test results

[Einstein Noodle]

saying my little prayers for you all right now Wild One :)

[Wild Rose]

Thank you
So many well-wishers >>>

[Gee]

Tis a well written piece that many folk of a certain age will relate to.
I wish you both well

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Gee
I noticed the change when we were in lockdown - contacted the doctors & following a blood test got some Magnesium replacement tabs
She is now taking back her work - her eyes are clearer - so here's hoping

[Fran Marie]

a powerful and
heartfelt piece
dear Rose
it's hard to watch
as loveones slip into
that nether zone
knew a neighbor
who had the same
condition.about
6 years ago they
move away and
I never heard any
more..

it was reversed
the wife was
taking care of
her husband
just the reversed
of your situation
wishing you well
and so important
for your spouse
having regular
meds..take care

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Fran
I bege=an to notice the change in her after we were looked down
An heard on TV that they could stop/slow down the deterioration if they caught it early
I contacted the doctors & following a blood test was given Manganese replacement tabs
She is now taking back the chores we had to do to keep things working. she still forgets things but her eyes are bright again

[Fran Marie]

Awe; good to
hear the meds
are helping;
stay well;

[Wild Rose]

We haven't been in except for the blood tests
All done over the telephone

[Coyote Poetry]

So hard to lose the people we loved. We must return the kindness, they gave us. Your poem wrote of a powerful and loved person slowly fading away. Thank you dear friend for sharing your amazing words and your thoughts.
Coyote

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Coyote
We contacted the doctors. Following a blood test he gave her some Magnisium replacement tablets
Now she is beginning to take back her chores.
I had read on here and TV that if you caught it in the early stages they could reverse/slow down the deterior degrading

[Coyote Poetry]

Look up the herbal cures. I was losing my memory because of 11 anthrax shots, the Army gave me. I do the omega-3 and the turmeric. Omega awoke my mind and the turmeric. Heal the body and repaired. I am glad she is doing better.

[Samuel Dickens]

I read this yesterday and again today. Who among us could not be touched by your love and concern for your mother? Some have said they want to go out in a blaze of glory, but only fate/the creator's mighty hand decides that. I feel your pain, having experienced it myself. I saw my father in that chair, and it broke my heart. I send you and your family my best wishes.

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Samuel > I forgive you It is my wife of 57 years
Still the same feeling
We realised she was forgetting things
I had a word with the doctor who gave a blood test and Magnesium tabs
After the last test he put her onmax dose > He wanted her to pick if quicker
Well now she is taking back the jobs we had been doing > Her eyes say she is back; but she still asks 'whats for tea; but she is on the mend slowly

I had heard that if you got in soon enough they could do something to stem the rate at which they failed
It is all this virus stuff and being fastened in > We had a weeks camping planned - then there war an outbreak in the area; we were planning to stay on site; but thought it safer to cancel the trip. we had a few afternoons sitting in the camper for coffee and listen to the radio > 'staycation'

[Samuel Dickens]

I knew it was your wife, but old age is robbing me of brain cells and causing me to make dumb mistakes. I missed a doctor's appointment recently--didn't know what day it was.
I'm so glad the medications are helping. (Maybe I need some)
The covid is certainly changing lives and activities. My 29 year-old son who still lives with us was exposed at at work (A lab) and is now awaiting results to see if he caught it. We're all under the same roof, so we keep out distance from one another and wear masks. Hopefully, a vaccine will soon be here.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

went through this...it's tea time all the time.
they took care of us when we were helpless...time to return the favor...but it must be done out of love.
poignant write, Wild Rose,
j.

[Wild Rose]

Thank you Jacob
We have had 57 years > 60 if you count the years before we married; together
As you sound to understand > Today we planned a walk > Now she wont get ready to go out
I want her to go out - but it becomes a fight (almost) - I just shrug my shoulders and wait for her mood to change - putting her in a home would be the end

[John the Baptist]

Has the sound of one with dementia. The speaker is someone close to her who remembers her better days. Now she is able to do little or understand little. The speaker doesn't want to see her to a nursing home--can't blame her for that---and has decided to try to keep her at home. One can only wish both of them the best of good fortune.

[Wild Rose]

Thank you JtB
Yes putting her in a home would only accelerate her demise, we have medication from the doctors aimed at brining her blood count up (He says it is working slowly - and now she takes the tablets without being coaxed)